to stay at home moms...............?

Question

i love being a stay at home mom and raised my childrens but i want to know if im the only one who miss sometimes not being with children all the time. sometimes i wish i could have a minute for myself and a little more help form my husband. I just miss not having friends because i dont have time to meet ones i this normal or maybe im to stress out or overwhelm

Answer 1

I too am a stay at home mom and I know exactly how you feel. I was telling my husband the same thing this past weekend. I love staying home and taking care of my children and the house but I am not the only adult that lives here and that he could do ONE load of laundry or the dishes or even run the vacuum without being asked!!!
As for time to myself we have set it up that on Sundays either afternoon or evening I am taking 2 hours to myself. That has helped tremendously.....
As for friends, I joined a "mommy group". We get our kids together and play and sometimes we get together in the evenings and hang out. Kids or no kids. Trying searching on line for playgroups or even try starting up one yourself.....
Good Luck and don't get discouraged..... What you are feeling is soo normal but you definetly need to get those friends. You will find that they too have the same things going on.....

Answer 2

I'm a stay at home mom and I feel the same. I wish my husband would help some with the kids, and he does when he can. I miss having friends too since I have practically none to speak of. (I moved to a foreign country) So, I kinda' know how you feel.

However...My oldest daughter DOES go to preschool or daycare twice a week and that helps out. She's going to start 3 days a week this coming March. Maybe yours could do the same or maybe one of their Grandmas could watch them one day a week for you? Just an idea. Everyone needs a break away from children now and then. Hey..I can call you if you want! I can call anyone in the states for free..so if you want let me know! Helps to have a friend to talk to!

God bless!

Answer 3

You know, I wish I had someone like you sticking up for me. Some days I will slack a little bit cause I have worked so hard the other days I have to give myself that break. I have a 3 yr old and 2 yr old with another on the way so I get exhausted easily. My husband complains that i need to be cleaning when the kids nap instead of napping with them. But you know what. The house isn't PERFECT, but dishes are done, I have a plan for dinner, the laundry is done, ect. My house is clean and sanitized and I feel that even though I know he goes to a hard job for 10 hrs a day I have a hard job here to. Yeah I get more breaks to sit on the computer for awhile. But I keep my butt moving on other stuff most of the day. I wish my 16 yr old brother was as smart as you. He wont pick his own laundry off the floor and both of my parents still work. You are going to be a wonderful husband and father someday! Just don't rush it! Enjoy your single life for a bit after high school or at least don't marry for awhile. I don't regret it but some days I wished I had let myself party a bit before I settled down. Tell your mom many people out there are rooting for her! And way to go to you for helping her out. Your dad should do it sometimes too. ( I have to admit that my husband can be a big help on Sunday's if he isn't fishing.)

Answer 4

It is wonderful being a stay home mom! I wouldnt trade it for anything. My husband is in the Army, and getting ready to deploy, so right now, he isnt home a whole lot. That means I am on my own most of the time, but when he is home, he is there 110%, ready to help with anything I need. Yes he works hard all day long, dealing with all the crap the Army dishes out, but he also knows that it takes work to run a household, and he doesnt always have the luxury of just coming home and being a lump just because he wants to. And just because we are IN the home all day doesnt mean we have time to do all the things we need to have done. We need help! We need companionship! I have been a working (single) mom before and I didnt get to do all the things I wanted to do because I had to set aside 40+ hours per week for work.

Stay at home moms have more time, BUT the expectations are also higher. We are expected to have perfect little children, perfect clean home, with sanity intact. But it doesnt work like that. Expectations increase, and responsibilities increase. I am always the first person to be called on to help with things with army wives, military functions, school functions, because I stay home. I do try to help, but there is a misconception that because we dont work we have all the time in the world. So keep up the good work and you will find a friend that will fit in your life when you are supposed to! Good luck!

Answer 5

I think this is completely normal i have a three year old and although i love the fact that i have been able to stay at home with him i sometimes miss the not seeing my friends or having time for just me. Sometimes you just want to be able to get up get dressed and leave the house with out going through getting the kids ready and going through the check list of things you need before you can leave the house.

Answer 6

Well I think that you can make some time when they go to school to find some friends! Help from the husband would be nice. Why not ask him for some help? It is stressful being a stay at home mom! But like I said When the kids go to school go get yourself a cup of coffee from the local coffee house and sit there for a bit and strike up a conversation with someone. There are a million ways to find somebody to befriend you!
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

i was a stay at home mom for many years,sometimes people consider it not working,but as you know it is a 24/7 job,yes it's normal to want/need time for yourself,you should ask your husband to watch the children while you go to the mall,for a walk,join a group,or whatever it is you would like to do,go out together at least once a month,ask or hire someone to watch the children
i work now and i can honestly say,being at home with kids is enjoyable,but a lot more work especially emotionally
take a break!

Answer 8

Being a SHM doesn't mean you have to stay home all day? There are playgroups to go to that you can connect with other moms. If you homeschool there are homeschool groups. If you send your kids to school there are PTA meetings and other school events. There are times that you can always grocery shop when your DH is home and you can go alone for a while. Thinkoutside the box on this one and I bet you will find that there are so many things that you spend much of your day OUTSIDE the home. :)

Answer 9

You are perfectly normal. You are a human woman. It gets to you sometimes. You forget who you are. It seems like all you are is someones mommy or wife, which is wonderful, but I know exactly what you mean. If you don't take some time for yourself eventually you could freak out. Lock yourself in the bathroom, take a bubble bath. Drop the kids off at your mom's house for an evening. So far as husband goes....talk to him. I know mine says " Why are you tired? What did you do today?" He's a butt sometimes. MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF! It's important!

Answer 10

Sounds normal, well it is for me anyway. i feel like this all the time. Especially now as we are literally snowed in. It's hard to stay at home all the time. At least in the summer we can go to the park or go for walks, etc. Men always think its a breeze to stay home with the kids. And then when they come home they want to be waited on hand and foot. Your not alone!