Over the years I have nothing but heart and headache trying to be close to my parents. I have done everything, went into the military, put myself through school, and have tried to be successful, with little to no help from them. Now I am married, and when I am expect congregulations, I get nothing.
This just hurts me. I don't really want my wife to met my parents. I was married overseas. Truth is my wife and I don't know if we want to stay here in the US, or move and stay in Israel.
Just to describe my parents, my dad is my step dad. I have an older brother, a half sister, and four adopted brothers and sisters.
My wife doesn't want to met them because she feels they are mean. I am at a loss.
2007-02-14 01:12:40 · 9 answers · asked by Jonathan R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes you just have to go and do what is best for you. Your parents are not the parents you wish you had but they are yours. Your wife should at least meet your parents but that doesn't mean you should stay in US just that she should at least meet them. Are they angry you married a girl from somewhere else or because she is another religion? Are they upset you got married over there and obviously they werent there? Go and live where ever you wish and have minimal contact with family. Make your own clan so to speak.
2007-02-14 01:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are all adults and even though you say you have a poor relationship with them, you should give them the opportunity to meet your wife - no matter where you live. I think you would regret that if you don't! And of course your bride says that your parents are mean because of what you say about them! You are a grown man that is responsible and respectable - with a new wife. Be the bigger person and let them meet, Tell them how you feel - what's wrong with that??????/
2007-02-14 01:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give up on them. Do you really need their approval at this stage of your life?
There was a time when they should have been better parents. That time is now gone as you have grown up and moved away from them.
You be proud of yourself and the fact that you have achieved all of what you have , all by yourself.
You take care of your wife and get on with your lives together
2007-02-14 01:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time you think of yourself first for a change. A parent who can't even be bothered to support their child in all that he does in life doesn't deserve him. Start a new life with your wife and hopefully her family will appreciate you and take you into their arms. Good luck and congratulations on your marriage.
2007-02-14 01:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife are better off not even associating with your parents. Live your life. I know that it probably hurts not to have your parents in your life, but sometimes we just have to let go of TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS!!!! Good Luck and may you and your wife have a beautiful life together.
2007-02-14 01:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suffered through exactly the same thing until my 50th birthday. My salvation was to finally realize they were not going to change, ever, and to start living life for myself.
It sounds cruel, but I just acted as if they didn't exist anymore, and started concentrating my own family. Don't look for or expect anything and they can't hurt you anymore.
2007-02-14 01:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like that just dont care and I dont think that it fair to you. You have tried your whole life to make them proud and it seems like nothing works. They may be proud of you but they need to find out how to express that to you.
For your wife, i don't blame her for not wanting to meet them. She loves you and doesn't agree with the way that they treat you and have treated you. She is with you for better and worse.
2007-02-14 01:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they dont care, why should you? Just focus on your new marriage and new life together. She is your family now. Oh! and congratulations!
2007-02-14 04:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by buffywaldie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with YOUR life.
You lead the way and others will follow
2007-02-14 01:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋