starting to cut myself b/c Mom problems.? HELP! PLEASE!?

Question

i have like a lot of problems with my mom. Last night, I had scissors in the bathroom, and I started to cut, and it hurts a lot, even if it wasn't bleeding, but it made a mark on my wrist. my mom does a lot of things to me that hurts.

1. I can't talk to her seriously.

2. She wouldn't let me start doing girl stuff(like shaving on my legs coz she think i'm being too vain)

3. When I say the phrase 'get tampons'. She goes like 'What!?' coz she never used it before.

4. She says 'You can date but guys should ask you out at out house.'

5. She goes in to my diaries and reads it.

6. She keeps on checking on my Myspace profile.

7. When I have my period, she won't let me skip Gym, coz she says 'You have to go through it like I did.'

8. She won't let me lock myself in my room, AND she doesn't even want me to lock the stupid door.

9. She never waited for me to go watch a movie.

10. She never talks to my Dad. They are not divorced, and she won't talk to us about it.

i'm only 12 and i have a 9-year-old lil sis. And when I asked her for chocolate to give out for valentines day she said 'no, go make cards.' and i told her it would take hours, and she said 'so.' she is a good caring mom at times. and provides me what i need. And I asked her to get my iPod fixed and call Apple but she said 'Go do it yourself.'

my dad and i are like my mom and i so my dad doesn't help either.

Answer 1

Maybe you can talk to your mom's sis or bro, or your dad (if thats possible) and explain about what happen, and maybe they can work something out from that. Parents sometimes don't understand us as teens, you know, they think they know us but they don't because time changes. They wanna get close to you but they don't know how. So maybe your mom do those stuffs because of that.

But I would say, don't shave your leg bcos when it grows back it doesnt look nice, and you have to shave forever, and you might regret it. Well, just an advice :) Good luck!!

Answer 2

Not one of the long list of grievences gave me reason for you to cut yourself. You are only 12 your mother is checking on you all the time the same as every 12 year old goes thru. I would not let my 12 year old date either. I check the myspace account and will read a diary if my child gives me reason to think something is wrong. My children have no lock on their door. My girls never used tampons until they were teens and you arent. You are just being treated the same as many girls your age. Maybe the reason she checks up on you so much is this cutting and the way you whine about everything as if you were 5 instead of 12. As for your Dad that is obviously a sore subject I think I would leave that be if I were you. Talk with a counselor at school about the cutting that can get really dangerous.

Answer 3

Honey hurting yourself is never the right answer.I know that you feel you can't talk to her about things because you feel that she dosn't understant you but she can't understand you unless you talk to her and give her a chance.If she won't talk about your Dad she has her reasons.Remember that you arn't the reason for thier problems.Next time you need tampons ask her if she will take you to the store so you can get them(not everyone uses them)If she tells you no then ask your Dad.I do agree with her not letting you cut gym the exercise you do in gym will help with the cramps.Our childern don't have locks on thier doors either.We also check thier myspace profiles.It's not that we don't trust our kids we don't trust the people out thier not everyone is who they say they are .It is a matter of protecting you.Remember you have your whole life ahead of you and you will always need your family. If you ever need to talk and you feel that they won't help find another friend to talk to or try talking to one of your friends parents it helps .When I was growing up my folks spoiled my sister and it hurt allot and still does she is still spoiled by my father but I know that I am doing the best I can and I have learned allot from my mistakes.I don't hurt myself anymore and if it wasn't for my Mom (who by the way saved my life because of hurting myself)I would not be here.Hurting yourself isn't the answer.Get help from someone a friend or teacher.In the mean time keep your chin up and respect yourself.It will get better soon you are young.

Answer 4

If you can't turn to mom, turn to dad. He's also a parent and you should be able to rely on him, if not mom. Don't cut yourself because the scars will forever be a memory of the sadness. Find another way to express your anger, sadness, and/or emotions. If you have a stronger relationship with your dad than tell him how you feel.

Consider the fact that you're only 12 years old also. Sometimes you have to accept no for an answer. Sometimes things just aren't age appropriate or secure -like the internet to- to be using by yourself.

Answer 5

Heya my names becca sounds like your going throught a tougth time. have you told her how you feel ike really tried.
for the past 3 years since i went to secondry school my life didnt really g to how i planned. i use toself harm...BUT please dont i took it too far and how i have scars all over me there are other ways to let your feelings out (crying lol) its better than selfharming though you dont want to start or you eill be depressed for evea lyk i am( see i lost who i am i dnt no who i am anymore) things may seem abd but they will get better trust me. and i cnt belive she wnt let u shave. go and buy some raorz and go du what u gotta do gurl! i rerally wish i cld help more bt i still need to learn alot about how i can stop bein annoying and depressing but plz DONT START SELFHARMING

ur mums probaly worried about u thats y she dusnt let u lock the dorr and reads ur diaries she prepbay just cheakin ur okay

everyone luvs u neva 4get that

luff ya Becca xxx

Answer 6

You have to fight for everything. Start by small things Be careful of your possetions and they will never reach her hands. But I think that dating at your age is not so appropriate. Believe me, you need to wait a little. Although you will feel these things as a truly girl stuff, start sharing with your father. He may be a good ally in that battle.

Answer 7

Your mom isnt happy with her life . But cutting yourself is not going to make your life better, it will only make your life worse and cause more pain!
Dont look at what other people do in this world that they say makes them more at peace. Cutting yourself is not a happy thing, its a sad thing.
Talk to your dad instead of your mom. If you cant get along with your mom, just go to your dad.
I say, Shave your legs if you want to. Buy tampons if you need them, ask your dad to get them for you.

Answer 8

hey i'm 13 yrs old n i kno how hard that is with parents who don't support you at all. my mom is like that n i just want to tell you to b strong a hold on tight. cutting yourself is not the answer. i kno it's tough but hold on. my mom doesn't let me shave, put on makeup, go out with my friends alone or anything like that until i'm in 8th grade. i can't have a cell phone until i'm in 10th grade, this yr i was going to plan on buying an ipod for myself since my parents won't buy it and my mom said no. it's tough becoming a teen but like i said before, hold on.

Answer 9

Sounds like you need a good buddy. Someone whom you can share things with and feel like they understand. Do you have someone at school or in the neighborhood? I am concerned for your well being, I wish there were more I could do to help you. Here is a big hug from me to you. If you would like to email me, please do so. I would rather you talk it out with someone like me (an old woman) than to hurt yourself. Please consider what I've suggested seriously. BIG HUG

Answer 10

i used to diminish myself after my gf i went out with through severe college broke up with me. i tried takin medicine and it dont artwork. I only were given over it although after a 365 days i wager. Dont enable human beings result the way you experience about your self.