Do people believe it can work?can it last?Will it eventually just fade away?
2007-02-14 00:48:31 · 8 answers · asked by freak33881819 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the main reason, many marriages are failing is because... people are marrying for the wrong reasons, at the wrong time. Marriage is supposed to last forever- like Love. But a lot of people, just don't understand how to work things out.You don't automatically have to get a divorce... because things aren't going your way. You have to work it out together, and communicate. for me, I know that once I get married... that will be the person I spend the rest of my life with; no doubts. Why go through all that trouble planning a wedding, and you end up getting a divorce. Hopefully marriage life will change for the better!!!
2007-02-14 01:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because it doesn't mean what it meant to our grandparents doesn't mean it won't last nor will remain intact.
All things change. Marriage and the nature of marriage isn't immune to this either. It's been changing since prehistoric times.
In the days of Soloman it meant being able to have multiple wives. In the days of Rome, it wasn't for love, but for the extension of your bloodline.
We live in a day and time when marriage is about love. This is a fairly recent innovation - only the last few hundred years. This is a good thing and one that doesn't seem as if it will change anything soon. Perhaps marriage will expand to include gay and lesbian couples, but being it's still about most all of the same things it is now, I don't see this as a bad thing.
Now we don't have a culture that expects you to stay with an abusive spouse, nor one that you have become miserable living with. I don't see this as a bad thing either.
I do wish people would put more thought and time into ensuring they are compatible with the person they are marrying, but I'm not their daddy, so they will have to make their own mistakes.
2007-02-14 09:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people thank that marriage is fun and games and just thank its works like in TV or books until real life hits. Money always wants sometimes makes some marriages split. Sometimes some jumps in to something with out knowing each other long. Its depends on if both wants to really make it work and the two have to be willing to make it work. If threes true love in both of them and if thy are strong and if thy don't let life get in the way then it will last forever.
2007-02-14 09:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by jccred7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to the answer is in the question you asked - it will work if people believe it will work. Marriage is a partnership, and a commitment. If two people enter a marriage with doubt as to whether it will last, it will almost certainly fail. You have to make marriage work, or it doesn't.
People just don't want to work at it anymore. People often enter relationships because they get something out of it. Whether it is companionship, sex, social status, or a tennis partner, they are focusing on what they get out of a relationship. If they suddenly hit a rough patch (like all people do) then the relationship is not giving them what they want, so it becomes worthless to them.
A marriage should be viewed as a lifelong partnership, and this commitment is ironically freeing. I have been married for 7 1/2 months (I know, not long). I have never felt so free to be myself. When my wife married me, she agreed to be there with me through good and bad, and she meant it, as did I. This girl knows everything about me, and I don't have to pretend. I can enjoy another person, and not have to worry about appearances or whether my actions will make her not like me anymore. For this reason, I am totally committed to her, and I love to spend my time doing things for her and spending time with her. I get more value out of what I put into the relationship, not what I get out of it, and I am exceedingly happy.
I think that marriage is what you make of it. If you are a skeptic, your marriage will probably not last. I know that I will never be divorced, only because I fully believe this sentence. I will do whatever it takes to make it work, and it will work.
In short, marriage means what you make it mean. If you think it is a social antique and that lifelong commitment is impossible, then you will most likely not have a successful lifelong relationship. If you know that your marriage will last until death, then it will work, because you know you can't fail. And it takes two - a partnership of two people who know it will last is a bond that can't be broken.
2007-02-14 09:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by D Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive in the sanctity of marriage not alot of people do.
but i think it still works it depends on what you put into the relationship because that is what you are going to get out.
but there is no guarantees ever
2007-02-14 09:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by ambidextrous25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm single but after seeing several marriage's breaking. or married couples cheating on each other. I'm scared to be in a relationship let alone get married.
2007-02-14 09:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it means that who ever doesn't bring much to the relationship can leave anytime they want with half of the other persons stuff legally!!!
2007-02-14 08:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe..some ppl do..it depends...
2007-02-14 09:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by Angelika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋