I'm with my b/f for 3 months now. About 2 months before we got together he broke up with his ex with whom he had been together for 6 months. Now he's constantly talking about her,tells me what she did, compares us, even showed me pictures of hers (which he still has on his pc and cellphone).I also know that she's much prettier than me.
Well,I talked to him about how i feel and i told him i think he still wants her.He told me that i was wrong + assured me that he doesn't feel anything at all about her and wants me, and he would stop talking about her.And also told me if he had the chance to be again with her he would soooo not do it.
BUT after some days he started talking again about her and he is still doing it. Now i don't tell him anything about this fact, i act to be indifferent and I even talk with him about her.
Anw, i don't know why he's talking so much about her and now I have a complex and feel that i cant be compared with her. WHY IS HE DOING THIS?!?!
2007-02-14 00:47:55 · 24 answers · asked by shadef 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well...in this situation...your bf still has feelings for his ex. he's just denying that she dosen't like her anymore so that he wouldn't hurt your feelings and that you wouldn't dump him. try to talk to him personally and ask him if he still likes his ex. if your feelings tell you that he's still denying...just leave him be. and if i were you...i would leave him since he talks about another girl all the time.
2007-02-14 01:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by mcrgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is still fresh from the hurt or break up, he wants your companionship and love to overcome that.
He wants to discuss about what happened before so that he makes sure that doesn't happen with you aswell.
He compares so that you will try to shape your personality a bit more to his liking.
Sometimes guys don't like to say what they expect in a direct way, they try to make a point indirectly through past experiences.
I am sure that he is very much interested in you. You need to be straight forward in making a point that its pointless to discuss about his ex and its better to focus on your relationship and future. you need to take control of things and never fall into any complex that will only lead to weakening the relationship. You should be the one to guide him. Give him enough time and space in the relationship and make him understand your feelings. Wish you guys good times together!
2007-02-14 01:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the same if my guy keeps talking about his ex. I would think he still has feelings for her. But I would give a bit more time. I'll tell him I do not like what he is doing and it makes me feel bad, at the same time will give him one last chance. That should make him more aware of his action. If he really wants you with him, i think he will take more initiative to stop talking about the ex.....good luck.
2007-02-14 00:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by chardonnayormerlot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a strong emotion, something which can't be carved into words. You can just make assumptions to your own experiences cause love may come and go in your life but the respect remains!
He needs time to get over her. Don't worry, show him that to care too and are concerned, time will heal his wounds , he needs some emotional support that's why he tells you all that. He knows he won't be judged by you and discloses his intimate thoughts, don't be afraid , he will get over it, keep loving him! Take care
2007-02-14 01:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you- long time ago I dated this guy who did the same thing, except he went further with this BULLSHIT- one day we were sitting around listening to music and he reached over and pulled out a photo album and started to go thru it in front of me! It was pictures of him and his ex, he also accepted calls from her when I was there, and would talk to her during our dates! I couldn't take the disrespect anymore and broke up with him. From what I hear, as I am friends with his WIFE ( a girl he dated after me) now and she tells me these 2 are still in touch with each other, that she calls him constantly and he is always running out the door to rescue her from her latest crisis! For god sakes, he is MARRIED and still pulling this **** on his wife.
I would say to you- RUN as fast as you can, as this a**hole isn't worth sh**. He will probably always diss you for this other woman, obviously he is still in love with her, from the way he talks about her.
Good luck and blessings to you
2007-02-14 01:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by flyingdove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just might not have much else to talk about. maybe that's the only way he knows how to relate to girls, is to talk about what other girls do. or, she just may have been more of a conquest for him, something to brag about.
when he does it again, say to him that you're really not interested in talking or hearing about her anymore. that you've already explained to him how you feel about it. you did the right thing in expressing your feelings about this earlier. it's a shame he is so thick skinned to not pick up on what he's doing and being so insensitive to your feelings.
judge his feelings for you by the other ways he shows his love/interest in you.
2007-02-14 00:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but she's still on his mind,if not in his heart. Maybe he wouldn't get back with her even if he could.That doesn't mean he still doesn't have feelings for her. I would finish with him and tell him why, You should be able to tell by his reaction how much he still wants her.
2007-02-14 00:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by SUSIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on the information provided im inclined to draw the conclusion that he still has some feelings for her. if u asked him to stop talking about her and he did again..bring it to his attention again and say to him its affecting your relationship and if he cares for u then he will stop but if not well then you should move on
u deserve to be cherished and beauty is in the eye of the beholder
2007-02-14 00:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for him then understand that this stuff he talks about is what he is familiar with and not meant as a slight against you. He is sharing his thoughts and feelings... do really want him to stop?
2007-02-14 01:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by DS143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he still thinks and cares about her! He dated you sooo fast after just breaking up with her. You need to cut the ties if you cant deal with it, He is wrong for talking about her.
2007-02-14 00:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋