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He was a working project,he used to have tons of fights, get arrested, drink alot, let's just say ,a complete bad boy package.But thats was before we met,after, as in now.He stays a home all the time, talks on the phone, running up my bills,complains, but he doesn't do none of the old things he used to.Which should be a good thing, it is it's just , he doesn't go out no where,work, do nothing. now he's a couch potatoe.I love him i just got to much on my plate to be trying to take care of a grown man.and it's not like we haven't tried to make it work, i took him out alot, to have fun down in dallas with my family, he just sat in the car playing with the cd's and the only family member's he became cool with was my brother,and my mom.I know so whats wrong.I pay my moms bills,and my brother lives with his girlfriend just like my boyfriend.and none of them work.So point is now his sensitive, and lazy and i want out.it's hard taking car of my mom, i can't take care of him too.Help me Please!

2007-02-14 00:39:37 · 16 answers · asked by pvy_crazy 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

16 answers

THAT SUCKS, WHERE YOU HAVE TRIED TO FIX THIS ALREADY THERE IS NOT MUCH ELSE YOU CAN DO OTHER THAN EXPLAIN HOW YOU FEEL AND ASK HIM TO LEAVE. THIS MAY CHANGE HIS WAYS OR NOT BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE IT HAS TO BE DONE.
SORRY...

2007-02-14 00:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Have you often found yourself inthe role of the one that takes care of others' needs? An aging mother I could understand, but a full grown, adult man?
He IS a weight, isn't he?
I imagine you can spell it out for him, tell him that some things have got to change. And, if they don't change, he will have to leave.
But, if you do this, you will definitely have to back it up with real action. If you waffle(if he calls your bluff) he will never believe you meant it.
Right now, he's getting a free ride(on your back) and he likes it the way it is. Expect him to whine, or put up a fight about it.
Stick to your guns though.
And I'll tell you, I don't believe he's all that sensitive.

2007-02-14 00:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jed 7 · 0 0

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2016-11-03 10:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Pack his stuff put it beside the door, and tell him he's got to go, you are tired. If he wants to go back to his bad boy ways, let him. You need to stop supporting everybody, because the more you do the more people expect you to do. Is your mom disable? or is she working, the reason I ask is maybe you and your mom should move in together so that the bill money only has to be split one way.

2007-02-14 00:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0 0

There's no way to end things with out hurting him. Just tell him it's time to go your separate ways, why you feel that way, and be honest and upfront with him. No matter how you break up with him, in the end your still breaking up with him and he's possibly going to be hurt. It's better to hurt him and be honest about why it's not working so he can see the errors in his ways and work on them. If nothing else, it will give you closure on the relationship and leave no questions that he feels you should answer. Best of luck.

2007-02-14 00:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Just D 3 · 0 0

well i had a sensitive bf once he dropped me off at home and as i got outta the car i said"dont bother comin back" he cryed and then he ran me playing the kc an jojo song "crazy" i laughed at him and said grow up dic*head...honestly i think i did him a favor lol he rang me upthe next day and told me a had a face like a bucket of smashed crabs lol (i cant say that with out laughing!!!!) it was a bit long for a come back but it was a good effort for a nice shy guy!!!

2007-02-14 00:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well it sounds like hes not really "sensitive" just lazy. bring it up, tell him whats pissing you off and see where stuff goes from there. if he says hes gonna get better and not be a moocher, then keep him. if he stays the way he is (or gets worse) then drop him. a relationship has two people, and both should contribute. otherwise, its just like taking care of an overgrown child.

2007-02-14 00:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by midnightsnacker13 2 · 0 0

Girl, you are doing so much. I just wanted to say that I definitely give you respect for doing so much for your family, especially your mom.

If you love him, and unless you REALLY want out, I would "threaten" him. Tell him that you have a lot on your plate. Tell him that you can't take care of him either, when you have your mom to to take care of and that this can't work anymore if he isn't going to get on his feet and do something about it.

If he still doesn't do it, kick him out. Literally, KICK HIM OUT! Who cares if he is sensitive. If he is so sensitive, he should be sensitive to you!!! YOU DESERVE BETTER!

2007-02-14 00:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by ohsoconfused 2 · 0 0

Breaking up with someone is always hard, especially when you really love him. I would talk to him first about it and see how that goes, wait a while and see if he gets any better if not, you should tell him that you want to move on.

2007-02-14 00:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if u leave him hes probably going o go back to all that, what if u scare him and say that if he doesnt get a job and help out than u dont want to be with him anymore, and try getting him to find a job .. hmm maybe crying would work.. and than he would feel bad cause he ad u cry.. well yea hope this helps..

2007-02-14 00:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angelika 2 · 0 0

sensitive or insensitive the breakup pain will be the same believe me. you might as well just say it. it's not important how you say it. it's not important that you lessen the pain. inflict the pain if you must. what's more important is YOU ARE HONEST TO HIM, that's what you owe him. he'll be hurt alright but at least he's got the truth. he'll learn. and you'll learn too.

2007-02-14 00:44:45 · answer #11 · answered by terra 4 · 0 0

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