We've been together six years and in the past, he has always been so lovely. He's bought me roses, taken me to Paris, out for lovely meals etc but he says he can't be bothered anymore. Where's the romantic man I love gone?
2007-02-14 00:37:58 · 46 answers · asked by lucyt20 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS I only hoped for a card, nothing more than that
2007-02-14 00:38:27 · update #1
Sounds to me like you are being taken for granted. TALK TO HIM, don't bottle sh*t up, that's a recipe for disaster. Get on even ground, explain to him what is bothering you and why. Simplest/best answer right there... It's all on you.
2007-02-14 00:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by tyleniel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best mate is slightly anti-valentines on the basis is commercial and for making money and that romance and love should be spare of the moment, spontaneous etc so there's an argument that says just because a man doesn't get you something for valentines, doesn't mean they don't love you - however, saying I can't be bothered is very hurtful - it's sends out a message that you're not worth the effort - he may not have meant it in this way, perhaps he's on a downer?? is anything effecting him negatively in life at the moment, could stuff be on his mind. I do think you have the right to address being upset with him, on the basis you're upset that there's been a noticable change - don't be taken for granted, wait for an explanantion before flying of the handle. good luck.
2007-02-14 00:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the day isn't over yet.
Otherwise, have you bought him a card and/or a gift? Go out now & get him something fabulous then at least he will (hopefully) feel guilty about not getting you anything or making any effort.
Or, go buy a valentines card & write it to yourself from anonymous. When he sees it, it may make him feel like he should make the effort- that he shouldn't take you for granted as other people would make the effort for you!
For him to say he can't be bothered any more, well I'm sure you can find things you can't "be bothered" to do & see how he likes it.
2007-02-14 00:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Meeeee! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live....but here it is 8:40, so if it is the same time there well.....he probably isn't even up yet! Well...if it is night there, maybe he is planning something REALLY romantic! Like a dinner he is making or something! It will be a big suprise! Don't bum out yet, he might be trying to build up some suspense for the big night, you know??? If you have been together for 6 years, he'll never forget....have some faith! Do you really think your man would forget u on this day?!?!?!?
2007-02-14 00:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that your man has gotten a bit comfortable in the relationship and still it is a bit early so you don't know if he is toying with you. He could be giving you a present later but if not he is too relaxed in the relationship and thinks that he doesn't have to pretend anymore or shower you with gifts because he has you as his own. We all put up a front at the beginning of the relationship until we think that we are settled and we start slacking. Make your man understand that you ain't standing for it!
2007-02-14 00:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's planning a special surprise for you and besides is 8:40 am isnt it a little early. If he didnt get you a card then I suggest you talk to him about it or just break up with him... Happy Valentine's Day and Good Luck To Both Of You!!! <33
2007-02-14 00:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by DancingQueen5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have something planned for later so dont do anything yet. But I will admit that if my man didnt even send a card I would be livid,. I know its all commercialism and money making but its still lovely to get a card.
Have you been having problems with your relationship? That might be the problem.
If nothing happens at all today you can always make him feel really guilty by getting him something wonderful....or...letting his tyres down tommorow morning!
2007-02-14 00:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know where you live but Valentines Day in Miami just begun. Don't be upset, I have gotten anything yet either. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel, if you get angry and start nagging, then he probably wont even think twice about doing something nice. If at the end of the day you havent received anything talk to him, i guess most of them need motivation.
2007-02-14 00:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure he's not trying to wind you up and then give you a card later.?
at the end of the day why do people feel forced into showing their love just on one day? why not appreciate that he loves you all year round.
some people dont even have someone to love them like that today - so maybe think a moment about them and realise that you are lucky after all.
2007-02-14 00:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's true, the day isn't over yet.
Maybe he's out there to surprise you.
Do you appreciate the other things he has done in the past?
Maybe it doesn't seem like you do and he's fed up.
Or he could just be fooling you, and in the end surprise you!
Maybe there's some problems going on in his life, ask him about them perhaps something will come up..
2007-02-14 00:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by MOVED! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋