Been wit my girl for 9 years.. Ive been having some trust issues/suspicion... last night I went to her house, she was acting weird, wasn't really talking... I brought up my issues I had remaining, and she wasn't really talking about it, she said, "not right now, i am feeling sick" but her feelin sick never stopped her before... I told her I didn't think she cared and left her house.. I called her back and told her why I felt like that.. I buckled and we are together again.
I said, jokingly, "I can't be sexually attracted to you, acting like that" and she said, "i'm not sexually attracted to you either" I said, "really?" and she said, "NOPE" but then said she was joking.
She said she got me a V-Day present and it's not good and she'll show me how much she don't care about me. She said she was joking as well. Finally, she brought up the fact that her friend just cheated on her b/f..
Dunno what to think???
2007-02-14 00:35:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's hard to tell. she's got to SPEAK UP. it was right of you speaking your issues and telling her how you feel.. but she because she's dodging it then some sitting down and talking is really needed. wait for a while and if she still says now right now im feeling sick, then tell her, "if you need space, you can tell me, but it's hard for me if you're not talking because this relationship is important to me"..
2007-02-14 00:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this relationship doesn't seem to be very stable. She seems to be hiding something. Or maybe is tired of the relationship. After 9 years, why aren't you married? Are the feelings not that strong? If so, why did you waste your time?
And if you have a suspicious gut feeling nine times out of ten its hinting at the truth. Being with someone for so long, you should be able to read her every action and understand her throughly, this sounds like you have some serious thinking to do, because i don't think your girl is being honest with you.
2007-02-14 08:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by misselizabee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats vicious. Well today is Valentines Day. Good luck with the gift. She could just be joking all along? But perhaps she couldn't. If you find out she doesn't love you anymore, beat her to the breakup.
2007-02-14 08:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..
It could be that shes trying to deal with that?
Her friend might get to her as well.
I think you should ask her straight up, and no joking what's going on. Or it could be another reason, maybe she really is sick? But then again, I'm thinking shes trying to end it.
Goodluck
2007-02-14 08:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by MOVED! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nine years is a long time to just be dating, we don't know how old you two are.
Maybe you she try taking to her one more time and let see where you two are head it. Maybe it's time to find someone new.
Good luck
2007-02-14 08:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think much about it she must be joking.You have long relationship of 9 years and you should trust her.
2007-02-14 08:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by JIWANJOT K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's testing the waters for a break up. I'd never talk to my sweetheart like that.
2007-02-14 08:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. You are heading towards a break-off.
U better find a new shoulder ASAP.
2007-02-14 08:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by zarar don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her friend just cheated on her b/f.
that could mean more than it says.
9 years....and you aren't living together yet....
2007-02-14 08:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confused!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-14 08:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by Harpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋