We met a year ago and have been good friends, but there was always that underlying sexual attraction. We always talked about having sex. He said he would not cheat on his wife. I pursured him by calling him, he always took my calls or would call back. Then the day after my birthday he came over which he did alot and said if we are going to be an item here are the rules until I get divorced. I was so happy! I have wanted this man for a year now I get him. Did I mention that I was in already in relationship? Well my boyfriend caught us together and that relationship was over, I didnt care. So now 4 months into this relationship with the married man, things are not going well. He has moved out of his house and in with me 3 times. He spends the night maybe 4 nights a week. But it seems like he is cooler to me than before. I am desperately in love with this man and am sick over the thought of losing him. Some advice please. His wife knows about us.
2007-02-14 00:17:09 · 17 answers · asked by Holly1366 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off... hopeless romantic though I am... shame on you for getting involved with someone that was married, especially when you were already with someone yourself!
With the scathing remarks over with, all I can say is if you two really do love eachother, you are just going to have to stick at it. Ultimately though, if he keeps going back, it is in your own best interests to get out and end things. I know that is easier said than done, but you will just end up hurt. The thought of losing him may well sicken you, but there are other people out there. Even if you lost this guy, you will love again. Moreover, are you sure you want to end up with a man with such a flimsy grip on commitment?
Good luck whatever you decide!
2007-02-14 00:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wanted it you got it. No thought there about the fact that if this man will cheat on his wife HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU. You did this to your self!! You messed up at least 4 lives to get this guy now you want us to tell you how to get out. OK I will. Grow up. Tell this man to go back to his wife and to not come back. When you seduce the next guy make sure he has no wife!! When it hurts sit and think about how you would feel if you were the wife and your man cheated on you. Remember he stood in front of God and married her his word is nothing -he hasnt moved out dont be a fool.
2007-02-14 09:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie he left his wife.. not only is it guilt but there might be kids involved. He made a vow, a committment to someone else.
Try to visualize you are the 'other woman' and odds are he had his fling. You are now going to have to move on unless you want to be on Maury.. or Notorious. Your not the first, nor the last woman to end up in this situation.. you get over anyone by finding another to take his place.. and try finding someone single this time with no baggage. Get smart being a married guys fling is pretty low class you need to get yourself up out of that ditch.
2007-02-14 08:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have walked away when he said he was married. MOST men never leave their wives. You are in a mess now which is going to be harder to get out of. It's hard to make a break like this. You would be better off starting over with a single boy friend. I hope you have what it takes to do it.
2007-02-14 08:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and I went through this sort of thing with my ex-father, who tried to come back when his fling was over (it didn't work). Please think twice before you destroy a family, a wife's trust and committment, and their children's security. Also, if he will betray his wife and children, why won't he do it to you? I am always amused when a second, third, or whatever "wife" feels offended when the deed is done to her by the cad who betrayed his first family.
2007-02-14 08:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm! Are you REALLY searching for a serious answer here? How dare you encourage a married man to roam outside of his marriage. Shame on him as well. You have opened Pandora's Box, now you have to deal with what you have created.
2007-02-21 22:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, does he keep going back to his wife? don't play second fiddle to anyone. its a shame this relationship started whilst he was married, and you didn't think to end your current relationship first. however, it would seem he is less committed to you than you are to him - he's just having the best of both worlds; wife and mistress. the mistress always loses.
he wont change his spots.
leave him well alone!
2007-02-14 08:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey !I went out with a married man before I took him from his wife and made her life a living hell.Well he went to jail I forgot all about him,he went back with his wifeand I fell in love with some one else.wll karma exists because some one else took my love away!dont do it it is absolutely wrong ,you need to get over him or you will end up paying the consequenses alot more than you would immagine.
2007-02-14 08:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help, as does he. He just enjoys the attention you give that he feels he doesn't get from his wife, and you enjoy the thought of having the power to take him from another women. You need to grow-up. And remember what goes around comes around.
2007-02-14 08:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Schellie W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean, but he probably has someone else on the side. If he cheated on his wife with you, why do you think it will be any different for you??
2007-02-14 08:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋