My husband died in the middle of December, 2006. We had been together for 13 years, and his death came quite unexpectedly! He died of COPD. We were very close, as we spent almost every day together for those 13 yr. You never saw one of us without the other. I am still in shock and going through a lot of grieving. I'm very curious as to what is really going on with him now? Can he really see me do you think, or possibly be in the same room with me? Have I watched too much TV? At times I seem to feel his spirit...his aura, in my presence. Is this wishful thinking? I miss him SO MUCH!! This is my first experience losing someone so close to me. I have a lot of questions as to an afterlife! Will I actually join him when I pass, actually get to be with him again? We are both Christians & had fairly strong belief in God & his promise of life everlasting. So why am I asking these questions? I need to find out all I can to make sure he's alright and out of pain.
2007-02-13 23:38:57 · 15 answers · asked by baploop1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am so sorry what you are going threw. I lost my husband of thirty five years three years ago in January 29. it is real hard going on. he had ms and was in and out of hospitals and nursing homes. which made it worse for him. long story. many night still I cannot sleep. I have my daughter 28 (mentally handicapped) and youngest son 25 (mild form of cp) living with me. they keep me strong. I still cry for my husband. but we have to keep going. he retired in 1987 and we where always together also. read in your bible Ecclesiastes chapter nine verse five and six. also read revelation 21 verse three and four. also pray to Jehovah God and his son Jesus Christ. and threw your problems to them. it keeps me going knowing I have a real friend with Jehovah and Jesus. .everyone thinks when you die you go to heaven, but that is not true. remember Jesus Christ friend Lazarus, when he died Jesus brought him back to life on earth. if Lazarus was in heaven, what kind of friend would Jesus be to have him come back to earth just to die again. you will see him again in the new system here on earth. remember the meek shall inherit the earth. if Jehovah wanted us in heaven, why would he put people here on earth just to die to go back to heaven, think about that.
2007-02-13 23:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He CAN see you, and he IS with you. You will be together again. He is not in pain, that is gone. Once he entered the next dimension, all negatives have been released. It may take a little while for him to get used to it, since this was unexpected. He would only want for you to be happy. I do not believe in God, but have had many experiences with this. My dad has been with me, my aunt and grandparents. My dear pets have returned in special ways. Many times it has been in dreams, or just a feeling that one is there. I see a "fog" that rushes past my window. {That would be one of my dogs.} You know when it happens. I have had little things happen. My dad used to flip through TV channels. With in a year after he died, I had sporadic channel flippings, and I was not doing it. A few months ago, I had a dream that my sister's neighbor's dog had died. She came to me and told me how she died. A week later, she was gone. It seems like the next "life" is kind, without pain and suffering, and full of freedom. A freedom that we will never know on this crewel planet. Yes, he is with you. You will see the signs. You will feel him next to you in bed, you will feel his presence where ever you go, where ever you are. No, it is NOT wishful thinking, it is real. I am sorry that he has left you, but he will always be with you.
2007-02-13 23:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry for your lose and your pain.
Jesus told the man on the cross, "Today you will be with me in paradise." The bible says, "To be absent from the body is to be present with the lord."
You will be with him some day. You won't be married anymore but you Will know him and still love him. Bible says, 'you will know as you are known" meaning people will remember and know you.
We don't sit in a grave waiting the Resurrection this is not biblical. Sleep in the was a metaphor meaning body death.
Now, is he near you? Could be. Or not. I remember when my father died I had many interesting dreams. One of the last ones I had he came to me and said, "I have to go now and soon we will all be together and it will be a joyous Reunion!" I don't say words like, "joyous!" and I didn't dream about him after that.
It is NOT a good idea to seek his spirit. Satan can use this against you and he is an imitator. He knows you and he can fool you so be careful with this. Seek God and his comfort and time and the holy spirit will bring you peace.
God bless you dear,
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2007-02-14 00:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanmarie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If both of you were Christians and had a living relationship with God, then you fill find the answers in the Bible.
1. Death is only a short term separation. You will see him when one day you are also called to enter the other side of eternity. You will both love each other more than you did here, but there are no husband / wife relationship in heaven as we know it on earth. It will be even better there than here.
2. As a christian do not seek to feel his spirit in your room. A person after death is not allowed to return back. If you seek such feelings, you will get them, but that will happen only to deceive you into spiritual areas which are not beneficial to you.
2007-02-13 23:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by kliff 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Oh sweetheart I am so sorry for your loss.My heart breaks for you.While I do not have all the answers for you I can say that I am a christian and it is normal to have all these questions.But what I think you need to rely on yours and your husbands FAITH that you shared.In the bible it say we(believers) will all be joined together again.So I say believe that.As for the being in the room with you ........I am not sure but I think that his spirit lives within you through the love you shared and it is only natural you wwould feel him around you. I know these are not the answers you are looking for but the questions you ask will be answered one day
As for what you should do in the mean time.....I'd say rely on your faith be the best person you can be,and spend your time helping others.I am so sorry again for your loss and I can say that it will get easier in time.
2007-02-13 23:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry girlfriend he is with the Lord. The bible says to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord! Corinthians. maybe 2ND Corinthians. No you are not feeling him he is there in heaven, you are feeling Gods Holy spirit trying to comfort you and let you know hes great, better off than us, let me tell you. So now Jesus is your husband, You are the bride of Christ, he is the only one that will get you through your grief! Go immerse your self and get new with him by reading massive amounts of the Bible every single day! Start in John and read to the end and he will reassure you through his word, that all is well and right on plan. And his soul is right were it is supposed to be and now you got a mission to tell the world! So the end of the world is coming rapidly, Jesus will return soon and he will be with him, so he is not in your past, he is in your future! Jesus is in your NOW! The word!
2007-02-13 23:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by bungyow 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-29 02:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by arieux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you lost your husband of 13 yrs. You don't state if your husband was a Christian or not. If he was, then he is in heaven, He is out of pain, Can he look down from heaven & see you, No, Why should God let a person see the grieving going on. & he is not in your room either, You are going through a lot of grieving & your mind is not willing to let him go. How do I know, Because I lost my first wife in 1989 after almost 22 yrs. of marriage, I watch her die for 304 days in ICU, I grieved over her, But God placed another woman in my life,that is a Christian as I am, & now we have been married almost 16 yrs. If your husband is in heaven & if you get to heaven yes you will know them but not as husband & wife. I will use my wife death, If she made it to heaven & my second wife goes to heaven & I go to heaven, who will be my wife, None, But yet I will know them because in heaven there is no marriage nor jealous person over another one.
2007-02-13 23:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
When your husband went home to Jesus his soul and spirit left his body to be with Jesus now. Pain and suffering are experienced only in the body so your husband has been set free from all these when his spirit and soul left the body. He is now in heaven as part of the great cloud of witnesses mentioned in Hebrews 12:1. You will meet him in heaven when you are there yourself. In the meantime keep your eyes on Jesus as the author and finisher of your faith for He loves you so much. I pray that the Holy Spirit, your Comforter, will comfort you with His love, joy and peace. May God be the strength of your life. God bless you!
2007-02-13 23:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by seekfind 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Rest assured his soul is with God and the angels, he is at peace and free of pain! You will go through different stages of grief and after a time,it will become easier for you. I too have lost a husband after 52 yrs. of marriage.
2007-02-13 23:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋