how can i get my mum to stop drinking?

Question

my mum is a alcoholic and i cant get her to stop drinking.she said shes depressed.

Answer 1

Valentines day bejeeburs.

Don't worry too much dude things will get fine.

It's up to her to make herself stop drinking. Just do your best to make sure your life doesn't become the same.

Answer 2

Normally people who are truly depressed don't actually know they are so maybe your mum is using that as an excuse to drink, maybe in her mind she thinks if she is depressed that makes drinking OK.I really do know where your coming from my brothers and sisters got on our mothers back for her to stop drinking and finally one day she did she wasn't an alcoholic though.Unless your mum wants help AA is no good, the first step in AA's eyes is admitting you have a problem and if your mum wont do that they wont waste there time trying to help someone who doesn't want there help.All i can suggest is really making her understand how it affects you more than likely she wont pay attention because she wont see how her having a drink could possibly affect you.Alcohol makes people very selfish.Maybe if you have and aunt ,uncle, grandma or someone who can help you to try and get through to your mum to make her understand her drinking is just unacceptable.good luck mate i hope it works the situation you are in sucks.

Answer 3

One of the things that happens with children of alcoholics is that the children take on a parenting role and believe they need to fix what is wrong.

You cannot be your mother's parent, but you can be aware that having a mother who drinks can make you feel that you need to take on responsibilities that aren't yours.

If you're under 18 talk to a family member or your school counselor and ask for advice about what you can do. If you're over 18 maybe you could look up a counselor or a group for grown children of alcoholics to get some ideas and support.

Answer 4

You can't. I know that's hard to hear, but until she's ready she will not make that choice. All you can do is ask her. Tell her that her drinking is hurting herself, but you as well, and that you'll do anything you can to support her if she seeks treatment. Alcohol is actually a depressant, so if she's drinking then she probably is depressed, I'm not sure if she knows that, but you could tell her. Good luck to you, hang in there, don't repeat your Mom's mistakes, and do everything you can to have a happy successful life. Sorry you're going through such difficult times.

Answer 5

There are services designed to help the families of alcoholics. Be sure you have all the facts before you call one of these, because it could be potentially embarrassing for your mother, and if she is depressed, it could make it worse. However, this is not something that most people can handle on their own.

If she is telling you she's depressed, tell her that she should see a counselor. I know this isn't the answer you're probably looking for, but let's be reasonable here.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear what your going thru. Is there anyone you can talk to grandparents, aunt, uncle, dad, a friends parent? How old are you? Are you being abused physically or mentally, if so talk to teacher, guidence counslor at school a trusted adult. How long has she been drinking? There are alot of unanswered questions here. You can try to explain to her there are different ways to cope w/ depression and anxiety. She can go to the doctor and they will help w/ depression. Your mom is probly full of fear and doesnt know how to handle things. Alcoholics like to think they're making there problems go away by drinking, but the problems are still there. Tell your mom how you feel. If your afraid to speak to her write her a letter explaining how her drinking is affecting you. Maybe....seeing it in black and white will triger something in her... you and yr mom are in my prayers......best of luck.....god bless

Answer 7

Bring her in for medical attention. Tell her she obviously has a problem. Alcohol only numbs any pain temporarily..and it hurts the family in the long run. You can also try talking to her about what it is that is bothering her. What is she depressed about? If you have a comfortable enough relationship with your mom to where you can sit and talk to her about any issues she, or the both of you, might have then go for it. Because she might feel lonely....no one ever finds a solution to their problems at the bottom of a bottle.

Answer 8

convince your mom to seek professional help regarding her depression....resorting to alcohol for problems is a form of denial....to temporarily forget it....but once alcoholic spirit is gone, the problem is still there. Address directly the cause of her depression. Medical/professionals who are expers in these fields can be very helpful and can open up her mind to let go and move on.

Answer 9

That's an hard task! She have to be the one to stop herself you can only let her know that you care and you worry about her sometimes that can help my kids ask me to stop smoking it took me awhile but I decided to stop and I did she can too butdon't argue with her or get upset with your mom just talk to her and let her know you love and care and you don't want to lose her to drinking or you don't want it to corrupt her liver and kidneys you want her to live. Also get some information on drinking and what it can do to your body etc and give it to her let her read it on her own try not to pressure her it will only cause anger and stress for you and your mom relax and talk to her tell her how you feel.

Answer 10

Sadly Joshua you cant get her to stop, she needs to admit the problem herself and get the help however you can help her to do this, first of all you need to get in touch with a counsellor or speak with your doctor to point you in the right direction as you too will need some support. I hope things work out