I was with this girl for a month. She said she wanted to take things slow, so I was super cool and confident but erotic at the same time. All this up until she started saying how she loved the sound of my voice, the way I touched her and stuff like that. I felt I was in a safe place to love.Then I slowly let my defences slide and started showing affection, telling her over the phone that I miss her and finally admitting in bed, after 20 days or so, that I was in love with her. 5 days later she said "I guess I see you as a friend" ????. I know that girl was melting in my hands when we were together. What on earth went wrong? Her best friend said afterwards that she got scared and had second thoughts about ending it. Now it hurts like hell and I just don't want to repeat the same mistakes. Is it wrong to express such strong feelings so soon? Does it scare people ? Is love forbidden before a certain point?
2007-02-13 23:15:09 · 20 answers · asked by Dennis K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All love involves risk, and sometimes, the risks don't pay off. Sounds like this particular girl was not ready for a real relationship, got scared by your show of affection and freaked out. Move on. Find someone mature enough to accept love, not run from it.
2007-02-13 23:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, love is not forbidden before a certain point. Love is allowed at all points. Love is a free-flowing energy which comes and goes when it pleases. You should be happy for having the opportunity to experience it when it comes. I know that might bring pain, but unless you love completely, you will never know true happiness. And the fact that this girl got scared tells you she just wasn't meant to be.
2007-02-13 23:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by orchidea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what u mean and i dont agree with this "forbidden" to tell what u feel cause its too soon or things like that ...the problem is the others , i know myself and i know when i "feel" , so if this is scaring people away , sorry for them , i dont change , i like the way i am and so should u ...it was just the wrong person or a person which cant admit her real feelings , not letting herself free
i am sure that a lot of other people would appreciate it
all the best and dont change !!!!!
2007-02-13 23:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so soon, it's only a certain type of love.. It's been about that same amount of time with my bf and I. We have told each other that we love each other.. etc.. and feel comfortable with eachother, yet i don't think we are in love with eachother.. so i guess it kinda depends.. Also she may have been scared. she was probably in the moment of things, and getting excited about it all, then she probably realized what was going on. I wish the best of luck to you, and i think you'll find another girl even better than her, because you seem to really care. :-D
2007-02-13 23:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Luckystar25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i see nothing wrong with every single thing you've said.
nothing scary
and you have to make sure you don't get into the same trap again. and to do do that thing over and over again.... will really cause a lot of worries and troubles.
what happened has happened.
and believe me: everyone has his own follies and weaknesses and failures and wrongdoings.
if that is clear to you, then, LEARN FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S MISTAKES, FROM YOUR OWN PITFALLS AND IF YOU ARE REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT LIVING THE WAY AS WHAT YOU HAVE TAUGHT..... then, you're on the right track
know your danger zones
whew! that was a good question
2007-02-13 23:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by di_ako_guapo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were a bigger man to admitt your feelings. Well done, if there re more men like you woman would be alot happier. No there is no certain point to when you can fall in love. What about love at first sight??????? I think you should move on and meet someone, easy for me to say I know but. Meet someone who deserves you. Best of luck....
2007-02-13 23:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Richbitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone falls in love differently, and sometimes love doesnt come on strong as it did for you, but now a days definetly waiting and see where your relationship goes before you start having a physical relationship would be my advice.... good luck
2007-02-13 23:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sorry to hear what she did, but you can never tell want goes on in some people head.
i think you can do so much better with someone that isn't going to hurt you.
Look to the further there is someone out there for everyone.
2007-02-13 23:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lynda27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is only forbidden from your own personal beliefs, nothing about what any church from any religion, what you read, what you hear or what others say to you.
Being who you are means you make up your own mind about something, not going along with everyone else just because you are told it is the right thing to do.
2007-02-13 23:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you moved too fast. How could you tell someone in only 20 days that you love her. You should be more honest with yourself, and admit the sex is what you loved. Not the person. As you mature, you will be able to tell the difference. Love doesn't just happen, it has to grow.
2007-02-13 23:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋