I've just got back with my ex-bf and things were going fine until a woman that I have had "liaisions" with has started playing games and trying to disrupt things btw my bf and I.
It's a bit complicated but she's a married woman who has been having an affair with flatmate (also a woman). The 3 of us (married lady, flatmate and I ) had "liaisons" on a few occasions but she has the hots 4 me.
I've told her that I want to be with my bf exclusively and now she's started behaving in a very immature manner - ie flirting with him, and the other day she began dropping hints about me.
My bf knows that I am bi, but this has caused us probs in the past - ie with me being unfaithful with another woman. I don't know whether I should tell him all about this woman or just keep quiet.
After all it was duing the time my bf and I were not together.
If I do tell him I'm afraid that he will get jealous and possessive like he has done in the past.
Ho, hum what to do?
2007-02-13 22:42:16 · 20 answers · asked by Ella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd keep quiet about this if I were you. She sounds like a "toxic" person who specializes in ruining relationships-her own and others. Being bi is one thing. Being an immature, spoiled brat is another, and she sounds like that type to me. Mentioning this relationship, which is, by the sound of it, over, would do nothing to further your relationship with your boyfriend. Just forget her and move on.
2007-02-13 22:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that your greedy sexual practices have returned to bite you in the azz! I'm not hating, that's just the way things play out in the real world. Unless you establish going in that you are going to have an open relationship(and that means BOTH sides get to play!), somebody's feelings are going to get hurt and the relationship is going to fly apart. Unpermitted sex outside the relationship is never going to be 'okay' under any circumstances, be it with another man, woman, or animal. Period!
2007-02-14 06:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and explain that you do not want him to behave like he has done in the past. Just let him know that you want to be with him and that she was a silly mistake. That way she has nothing over you and her jealous, silly behaviour will hopefully die out. Be honest with him and let her know you have told him and she has nothing on you then. Good luck x
2007-02-14 08:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would tell him, he already knows you are bi, at least he has found out the truth from you and not some one who seems hell bent on revenge. A relationship is all about trust and that should be from the out set. Good luck and be happy
2007-02-14 06:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Harpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best way. Tell him the game this girl has been playing after all it isn't your fault she is doing this after all you told her you wanted to be with your boyfriend and she cant handel that. Tell him if he trusts you he'll see its not your fault and forget this girl he already knows you bisexual so he must know girls like you aswell so he'll stick with you if he thinks its not your fault.
Good Luck x
2007-02-14 06:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A story about crazy lesbians. Hmmm, a tricky one. Try beating her around the head with a shovel.
2007-02-14 06:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him about her. If he has a problem with it, then move on. And frankly I would smack the other woman and tell her if she didn't mind her own business I would file a lawsuit for harassment against her.
2007-02-14 06:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is behaving like this and making you miserable (which friends don`t do ) tell her to beat it you don`t need her as a friend .. she obviously has problems in her own marriage she can`t bare to see you and your bf happy ... kick her a.ss !
2007-02-14 06:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship with your b'f has any future what so ever you need to be honest with him.
what would happen if he found out from someone else.
tell him sooner rather than later. explain that you want to be with him and no one else and see how it goes.
2007-02-14 08:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would tell him the games she is playing so she won't have anything to hang over your head and you'll feel a lot better. he should respect your honesty and realize how much you want the relationship with him to work, but i wouldn't tell her you tell him and then he'll see for himself how she is acting.
2007-02-14 06:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by bulloch2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋