I have loved beng a stay home mom for the last 2 months, but yesterday a friend of a friend called me out of the blue and offered me my dream job. She knew I wasn't working and wanted to ask if I wanted the job before she advertised for it. I would love this opportunity, but my kids would have to cooperate with their career mommy again. What do think I should do?
2007-02-13 22:37:03 · 23 answers · asked by RIVER 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If it's your dream job, then yes you should take it as the chances of it coming up again may be slim.
I'm sure your kids wouldn't object to it. Or if they do, play the 'Well if I get this job I'll have more money & will be able to buy you lots more presents' card!
2007-02-13 22:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jay A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok I made the transition from stay at home dad twice. It isn't easy and I really miss the time with my kids. The question really is are you ready for the workplace and time away from the kids?
The stress of being a career parent is hard; it is even harder when you arrive home every evening and wrestle guilt about not being home with the kids. That automatically bleeds over into your relationships with work and significant others.
Mull the decision over. Kids are pretty tough and sometimes they thrive in day care or with others during the day and thrive when you get home in the evening. Be ready for the hectic days. I can still recall with envy and bliss those afternoon nap periods where, on occasion one of the little boogers would ask you to lie down with them and you would nod off for two or three hours. That's still the absolute best time there is.
2007-02-13 22:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jim from the Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the job. The kids will adjust to the new arrangements.
My daughter found a great job when her 2nd baby was only a month old. She put the baby into the greatest daycare, right along with the 2 yr old. Daycare lady taught that baby right from the start that she was just as capable as any other kid in the daycare. Put her right into every activity, and every kid helped baby do things along with everyone else.
Result is that my granddaughter has grown into a confident and happy child. There's not a thing that she's not willing to try on her own.
2007-02-14 04:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it full time? child care places aren't easy to come by and nothing substitutes for a mum. so much happens in the first years of kids lives, do you really want other people to see and experience all that? Being a mom is the most important job for you. Why do we work? to provide well for the family and to give them the things that they need and want. What a child needs most and what gets look over the most is time with there parents you never know what tomorrow will bring and work will always be there in a couple of years. Just so you know i'm a nanny I work for a family with 2 children who's mum died.
2007-02-13 22:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by mingle5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really is the job you want to do, it is probably worth going for. If you are happy, then the time you spend with your kids after you come home will be quality happy time. Kids cope fine at childminders or nursery so don't feel too quilty.
I stopped work after I had my second child as I didn't like what I was doing. I've been off for a while & want a job but don't know what to do. If I was given the opportunity of a dream job, I'd jump at it.
2007-02-13 22:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by FC 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If my children were school-age, I would do it. But if not, you should really be home with them. I think part of the problem with society is the two working parents situation. It makes children feel like they are a burden on you and it creates a lot of stress. Child care of often VERY expensive.
If you can still be home with them at least part time, maybe you should consider it. But don't listen to these quacks on there who tell you that your "kids will understand" because they won't. Kids naturally (and rightly) feel they should be the center of your world.
2007-02-14 03:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the job and see how things work out. If it doesnt suit you and your kids you can always change your mind and be a stay-at-home mom again. If it is your dream job you deserve the chance to enjoy it. Good luck!
2007-02-13 22:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Nicola L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that one! I'd start by writing a list of pro's and con's to taking the job and to not taking the job.
What ever you decide, believe that you have made the right decision - don't regret your decision and don't waste time thinking 'what if', once you've decided then you've decided! Otherwise you will drive yourself mad!
There's no write or wrong decision here, just do what you think is the right thing.... and it will be. :-)
2007-02-14 01:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Queen Victoria of Port 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the job. Your kids should repsect you, and let you work. It'll be kewl...you'll get the experience again, and maybe your kids will like the career mom. They'll get responsiblities, and then you wont be stuck doing all the chores. its perfect
2007-02-13 22:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bumble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a happy mum is a better mum and as long as they know they are put first then go for it .. I could never cope with being a stay at home mum ... I love my job it doesn't make you a bad parent dispite some people thinking it ......
2007-02-13 23:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋