I'm a stay home mom,26 yrs old,,i feel I'm alone some days and i want to do something which makes me feel goo

Question

i have 2 kids elder is just 3yrs,i fulfill my kids's needs and hubby's ,i love doing things for them always,,but when im alone i start thinking abt my self and wanting to do something ,,i cant really do what i like to do.time is main problem,i was doing a job and i like to do again ,,,i cant understand whats inside me ,,whats happning to me what shud i do??

is this the life of a women??
can they be them self and feel good about it,,??
is raising a family, the only thing in a women's life???
how do u gals feel about it??
how do u manage this and do what you want in your life without regrets??

Answer 1

Hey, I am 26 and a SAHM too. My oldest is 5 then 4 then 3. the older 2 start school in the fall. I understand completely. Sometimes it's a harder job to stay home and take care of kids and house than it sounds! Try going to out just to get your hair cut. ALONE...thats the trick. I found it doesnt have to be along time away or real often just now and then and all by myself!
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God Bless

Answer 2

I'm the same age as you are with two children the same age as yours, and I'm home until I find another job. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be yourself- you must be yourself before you can be anybody else to anyone. Do you ever get to have any "Me" time to actually sit and think about any moves you'd like to make? What pleases you? i understand that you feel in the "Stuck " position. It's normal, but please don't start to regret any of this. Now is the time to dig inside and find out what defines you. do you have any girlfriends that you can talk to and confide in? We as young moms all go through what you are feeling. I don't regret any of this because at one time it was exactly what i wanted and I wouldn't change it for the world. i grab some "Me time" even if it is to watch a show I like with a glass of wine or something. Remember that your babies won't be small forever enjoy it because they grow way too fast. When this happens you will have even more time to do what you like. Ask hubby to give you some time to go somewhere without the kids where you can be you and not mommy for some hours.

Answer 3

Yes while you are a wife and mother, you are only 26 and have so much more of life to live. This slump you are in will pass, but then only you know when you have truly had enough of being a wife and a mother and then you will be you. Take a moment each day to pray, meditate or just sit and be still and quiet, breathe deeply, flex, do a total mind search for a happier time, but don't dwell on the here and now because in a second it will be in the past. Don't have regrets, they aren't worth it, you have a husband and children, you are truly blessed, now start to count the blessing, I am not saying put on rose colored glasses, but put the glasses on if you need a better view, or even move closer, but when it is all said and done, it is you that will know when you have had enough and then you will do what it is you need to do to change this situation. God Bless.

Answer 4

Don't regret raising your children and don't allow people to make you think you are dead as there are many who secretly know they are shirking responsibilities at home. A few of my friends had kids and went straight back to work, against doctors orders, because they said that staying at home including cleaning was not their bag. Ironically other people watched their newborns and they stressed out the housework issue. Others are struggling juggling the super woman act which is impossible ... both healthwise and time wise. Regardless, money doesn't define a wife/woman. I would seek balance by doing something outside the home that doesn't include taking up the entire day and doesn't have anything to do with the family - ask your husband if would support you on this. It's ok to raise your children without guilt.

Answer 5

With 2 kids under the age of 3 you are a very busy woman with one of the hardest jobs in the world. What you need to remember is you need time for yourself and a lot of the time that is easier said than done. If you are not getting to do the things you want you might consider trading child care with someone who feels just like you do. One day you watch her children so she can do what she wants with no worries and the next day she returns the favor. Do this every week so that when you do get your free time it is special for you, you will be happy and much to your surprise the others around you will be happier also! Hey Good Luck I hope you find something that works for you.

Answer 6

Yes its the life of a woman...stay at home mom's in particular. You need something outside that realm that caters to your own specific interests and needs.... in order to grow as a person. We all need that or we'll be swallowed up and start talking in teletubby language.

I found some friends outside the house, try to incorporate them and introduce them to the family, but we also have time alone outside the house.... lunch, shopping, ect.... just to get out and be adults.

You can take a class, join a group... get a weekend job... anything that makes you feel more yourself. We tend to live for our children and ignore our own needs, but in the long run, we're doing a disservice to ourselves AND our children.

Good luck, you're not alone.

Answer 7

Have you considered the possibility of "working out of your home?" There must be something you can possibly enjoy doing in which you can pace yourself...and perhaps make a few extra dollars for yourself?

Maybe you also need to join a group...or perhaps take an enrichment course (during your free time). Getting out and interacting with others might fill in 'the missing puzzle pieces' and make you happier?

Here's hoping?

Answer 8

Do you have someone in your family that can babysit for you once in a while so that you can go out and treat yourself? That's what you need to do. Do you have any friends that you can go out with to the movies,dinner, shopping, lunch, etc.? It's not good to stay at home all the time. I know exactly how you feel. Been there, done that. Ask your husband to watch the children while you go out with your friends or family. At least once every two weeks. I used to go out at least once a week, my husband would watch the children. Try it.

Answer 9

Pick up a hobby. In your spare time, enjoy it. Cross stitching is mine, and it is creative and makes nice gifts.
Yes, you are where you should be at this time in your life. Watch your children grow, teach them and love them. You will never get back their growing years if you chose to work or be away from home. These are the most precious days of their lives and you should be there to enjoy them. I watched my little girl and boy take their first steps, say their first words, etc. Don't miss it!!!!

Answer 10

I am sorry to hear you feel that way. Perhaps you could work at home at your computer. Or find a hobby you don't have to leave the house for, like reading, drawing, painting or learning how to play an instrument.