And he earned a lot more than you.
2007-02-13 22:24:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, I wouldn't be offended, and neither was my fiance after I explained why I wanted one. I asked him to because we've both been married before and have assets we've earned before and kids to protect financially. We talked about it with a lawyer and drew it up together.
It would depend on why he's asking. If it's to protect what each of you already has prior to the marriage, that's fair. If it's to keep you from getting any of "his" money, or to somehow give him control in the marriage, then it's a problem and you shouldn't sign it or marry him. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, that can't happen if the partners aren't equal.
But it's not fair to him to take what he already earned away from him either. An example of that might be if he already has a house, the investment he has in that house is his. But if the two of you make payments on it while you're married, any increase in the value should be credited to both of you. And that's true whether you work for money or not.
2007-02-14 12:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by sjbluebelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must admit that a pre-nup would give me pause. Then I would call my attorney to read the pre-nup tomake sure I'd be adequately taken care of (and any children adequately taken care of) monetarily if anything happened in the marriage or to the marriage or to me and the kids. If the partner does not agree then no marriage would take place.
A pre-nup is supposed to be to only protect that person's family's fortune (what their family passed down to them) plus what they earned from a career their family helped them get. So I can see why a person would want to protect that.....but some people want to put into a pre-nup things like "if the partner cheats then they get nothing".....or "if we have children then I will pay for the children but refuse to support the wife in any way"....so if you find those kinds of statements in the pre-nup you might want to think twice.
2007-02-13 23:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly.. if you were in it for love... what would a pre-nup matter anyway? If you are truely in love the darn thing would be voided out anyway because when you say I do.. it is (supposed) to be Till death do us part! When you live your marriage by that.. you wont ever find yourself in a situation where the pre-nup will ever be an issue.
2007-02-14 03:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by howelady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be offended. The only way I would sign it is if it was an agreement protecting his assets before our marriage. Anything gained during our marriage would have to be evenly divided. A lot of men think that just because they are the sole financial provider or make the most money then they should be able to keep everything. That is BS in my opinion because a lot of times the woman in the marriages gives up her career to raise children. Also, one has yet to equate a 'salary' to women who stay at home and raise the kids. That is a 24 hour job...not a 9-5. Additionally, I think men who marry "trophy wives" are setting themselves up for disaster anyway. You get married because you love the other person...not because they have deep pockets. So in closing, yes I would be offended. I don't have a problem with holding on to what you had before we met...but if he wanted to be a scrooge and hold on to everything WE earned while we were married then I would have to back out the relationship altogether.
2007-02-13 23:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by SupaDupaWoman 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A prenup only protects assets that you already have coming into the marriage. It won't protect his salary earnings through the years, only his existing assets that he has right now. Plus, you both need separate lawyers to get one.
If he does have significant assets, I wouldn't be offended. Like, if he had a huge bank account or owned a business. But if he didn't and he was just being paranoid, I'd be offended.
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2016-11-03 10:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because I know his mom was behind it. That's the only reason. If it was just him I don't think I would be. But I know she's gunning for the pre-nup right now.
2007-02-14 03:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I wouldn't be offended. Lets say you had 50 million dollars and 15 years later you and husband get divorced, you had that 50 million long before the marriage took place and YOU worked hard for it, would you want him, during a possibly bitter divorce to take half your money out of spite? Honestly now? I don't think its a precursor to say 'your marriage will fail' its about people who have lots to lose and who want to and (who can legally) protect THEIR assets. think about it.
2007-02-14 05:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Һסρε 2ӨӨ8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Pre-nups is basically saying "If we divorce. I don't want you taking me for all I have.".
If part is bad enough as there is that doubt and there is that distrust.
My fiance and I feel the same way about it.
2007-02-14 04:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yea, its like your takin out divorce insurance, I guess if I wasn't really into this and didn't know for sure its what I wanted I would understand, but I have no plans for divorce unless hes beating me or cheating on me in which case I feel that I more than deserve half his stuff! otherwise, yes I would be highly offended
2007-02-14 01:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋