come Valentines Day, he'll make it up to me, and boy was I dreaming when i thought this..... I reminded him a couple of weeks ago to book the table early so we could get the later sitting as 7 would way to early so he tells me yesterday i could only get a 7 o clock, so I drove down to the restaurant last night and asked nicely could i get a later table and there was no problem. Then this morning i got half dead roses a card bought from a newsagents with no envelope, teddy and obviously the last box of chocs in the shop, the card was scribbled this morning. It was all totally last minute, no thought what so ever, no effort. Im so annoyed and pretty upset, like for god sake is it that hard for someone to get it right on just one day a year.
Does any1 agree with me, that this is just not good enough? ? im not being selfish, its is a special day in the year well it is to me and i just feel so let down.
2007-02-13 22:21:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to add that, when i say he hasnt been the best lately, i mean were just on the brink of breaking up, we've been together 6 years, living together 3 years and have a 3 year old son together, this is not just something silly, today was supposed to be really important.
2007-02-13 22:30:33 · update #1
No, you're NOT being selfish, you're being completely ok! He's the selfish, thoughtless one. I can't BELIEVE he did that!
I think you know deep down what you really want and it's not him. If it is him, it's not this relationship ... if you feel you can save the relationship with him, you need to talk to him. No distractions, no nothing. Tell him you feel unloved, not special or precious to him. Tell him exactly your feelings - don't expect him to just understand, as much as we want our men to be mindreaders, they just aren't most of the time!
It sounds like he's got used to the relationship and just expects it all to be routine, he's so comfortable, he expects you to feel the same as him!
But the last minute presents are unacceptable. Especially with all the marketing reminders!
I hope it goes well for you :)
2007-02-13 23:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Stevo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have gone throught the same thing! Don't you feel like his love has gone out the window?!! I think what your relationship lacks in it is communication.....maybe he feels you are nagging him a bit?? You need a good long talk where you can calmly tell him you feel a bit let down, and that Valentines Day is very important to us girls...But also let him talk to you back (you never know, he could have had a bad time at work). As long as you both have an equal say in this relationship, he'll see a different side to you and treat you a lot better!!!!!
2007-02-14 06:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by x_lil_miss_twiglet_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband 8 years. Every year he gets me a little pressie and a card. This year I just get a card co if he gets me a present he would have no money for beer!! (his words). but I still love him. He did give me advance warning so I knew it was coming.
Don't worry. At least your boyfriend spent money on you. It's the thought that counts right? Count yourself lucky that you have a boyfriend. Not everyone has what you have.
Just adding. If your boyfiend is down because he believes you are going to break up with him and seperate him from his child then he has reasons to have other things on his mind. One valentines day is not going to solve your problems. I suggest you go see a relationship counsellor for the sake of your child.
2007-02-14 06:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you`re not going for the meal with him you are going to take a friend instead ...
I have been with my husband for 17 yrs and i got nothing as per usual but he better not think he`ll be getting some loving tonight hehe as he is up a gum tree !!
2007-02-14 06:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the most stupid day ever, and if u re fretting because of that stupidity at what time restaurant was reserved and that a card was without the envelope i think u should kiss the ground he steps on - because he is still with u in spite of everything. if i were him i would have dumped u long time ago. maybe he is a wuss
2007-02-14 06:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok i know Valentines day is just another day, but listen i have been going out with my man and he did nothing! I only got a text ! I know in my heart that means I should leave him, but I just cant . GOOD LUCK WHATEVER YOUR DECISION
2007-02-14 06:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by nina c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont you worry maybe he has another valentine or he is trying to measure your love for her. Am sure the just want to see what you can do......... if you can get upset and leave or if you can appreciate whatever she brings to you and accept him for whom he is, so my gal dont be so negative about the presents your boy brought you instead be happy and enjoy your valentine's day
2007-02-14 06:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Queenter 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, babe, why are you still with this guy. Its not like very shop you go into during the month of Feb hasn't got Cards ad's etc. Ditch him. x
2007-02-14 06:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sonia S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you got something think of all those who won't get nothing. If this guy is not doing it well for you then leave him - but I think his effort is worth it, its a guy!
2007-02-14 06:26:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE HAS DONE GOOD IN THE PAST, THEN CUT HIM SOME SLACK. DON'T BE SO HARD ON HIM. AT LEAST HE THOUGHT ENOUGH TO GET YOU SOMETHING. DO YOU KNOW IF HE IS GOING THROUGH ANY THING? THERE IS MORE THEN ONE DAY. THEIR IS YOU B-DAY, CHRISTMAS, ANNIVERSARY'S, AND SO ON. IF HE KEEPS DOING IT THROUGH ALL THE OTHER TIMES THEN IT MIGHT BE A PROBLEM. GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-14 06:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by CNT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋