Moved into this bldg 8 months ago. I used to bump into this guy in the lift. I was single and heartbroken and he just seemed so charming, and intelligent. Once he offered to drop me to work and asked for my number. (he seemed really interested). I waited for two days but he never called. So I text him and he calls me vening...promises to call again...doesnt for a week..i text again....he calls late in the evening....once he comes back from a party late in the night and offers to come up to my place...i dont invite him and so he takes me for a short drive....
and then later he invites me to his place. In a couple of meetings, i realised i was just his booty call, so i told him i was looking for a relationship and he hadnt even asked me on a date after a month of knowing each other...now, we've drifted apart without any closure, Should i have just continued to give him what he wanted? should i have not got intimate soon? how do i behave when i bump into him in the lift?
2007-02-13 22:00:50 · 9 answers · asked by wrinkled soul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Sadly enough, you were smelt out coming 8 miles away and given the okey doke. He may have sensed you were lonely and on the mends. And he sure knew how to work it. Being charming, witty, playing like he was interested(which he was, but only of 2 areas of you).The 1st indication was texting him after he didn't call back(he was probably too busy peeling some other girl out of her Victorias). That let him know he had a "live one". He may have never gotten around to getting back to you if you had not told him, "the door is open stupid, turn the knob" by texting him back. Specially after you did it AGAIN. Logicaly that should have sent red flags up more then Red Square under the soviets. Then why would someone who could not seem to find you when you all but layed a trail of bread crumbs to your door shows up late after a party? HE STRUCK OUT THERE WITH ALL THE GIRLS. So he goes to where he knows he has an opportunity(after all, you were trying so hard it seems to get hooked up with him) Why did you think he invited you back to his place? Not to watch DVDs or to cook you a meal. YOU would not let him do his deed in YOUR place so he figured it was his places. And NO, NO, and a BIG, BIG NO! You should not have hopped in the sack with him so quick. His true feelings were not vetted in that short of time.
I hate to sound harsh but that is the very reason why the world is so full of butt nuggets like him, because too many girls make it too easy. Why should he have the need to respect or care for the feelings of any of you gals if you are willing to let it go without making him put the work in? What did one poster put it? Why buy the cow when the milk is free? There is a saying I used to hear that say "The kid will smoke the tires when it is daddy that buys them." You ended up as just another notch in the gun belt but hopefully you learned something to keep from being played next time.
If you run into him. Be nice and courtious and act as if he is just another guy. The best way to frustrate him is to let him believe he was a nonfactor. That you can and will get along just fine with out him, and seeing him don't faze you a bit.
2007-02-16 21:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by alarid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people would have had the discussion about what they were looking for out of the whole situation before they slept together. So maybe use this as a learning experience and don't jump into bed so quickly next time. Have "the talk" first.
2007-02-13 22:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by DECOP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part of what you did was the right thing......telling him you were looking for a relationship.......having sex with someone you don't even know, probably wasn't the right thing; you've drifted apart without any closure? what does that mean, doesn't sound like you were together to drift apart........when you bump into him in the lift......just say hi, how are things....and that's it........
2007-02-13 22:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Highly unlikely,that you did the right thing, And yes you move way to quick. And try to go out at weird times so that you do not bump into him. and if you do bump into him just ignore him.
2007-02-13 22:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was using you and unless you were using him to for a booty call it would have never worked go find a guy that really wants and respects all of you not just what you can give him
2007-02-13 22:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by envisiondreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumping him was good.You dont want to go with a guy who acts like you don't exist.
2007-02-13 22:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER text a guy saying why haven't u called me!!!
2007-02-13 22:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...
2007-02-13 22:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋