Im not sure i want to be with my partner anymore, but i do still care for him so much, is there a good way to let him down gently. I am his first love. We have been together 16 months im nearly 22/23 he is 20/21
2007-02-13 21:36:15 · 21 answers · asked by Joanne A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my experience the best way to deal with this is to be honest, just tell him how you feel mate. its not far to either of you to carry on in a relationship if you are not happy. you are both young and if you carry on you may end up hating each other. i have been there and its never easy when you feel like you do.
The other thing you could do is take some time out to sort out how you really feel ask him to give you a little space and time on you re own. you never know you may feel different then
2007-02-13 21:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by shellie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there's never a nice way to break up with somebody but at the end of the day it's not worth dragging on a relationship that isn't going anywhere. If you are his first love he may not be able to handle being just friends. This may make him feel worse to see you as a friend and to know that he can't be with you anymore. Reasons being he could turn into a stalker and ruin any future relationships for you. But then he could also become your best friend. It all depends what his persona is like. If he's a nice guy maybe he won't get weird. But when all is said and done it is probably best to make a clean break... Good Luck
2007-02-13 23:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Liane H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first love always hurts because it almost never works out. Tell him the truth, because the longer you stretch it out, the more it will hurt. Don't say "lets just be friends" because it's the last thing he'll want to hear. Tell him that you don't think it will work out because you just don't feel the same way anymore. People change and you are still growing, and so is he. If you want to break it off, then it's best to not hold back.
2007-02-13 21:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by blacksheep776 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, whatever you do DO NOT say you see him as a friend. It happened to me two weeks ago and it ripped my heart to shreds even though I was with her for a mere month. Guys hate the friendship factor...heck everyone hates it. Just say you don't see eye to eye anymore, or that your priorities have changed or that you want different things in a relationship. I think the trick is to make him feel that you are incompatible together because your needs (both of your needs) are different. Bringing in the "friend" factor will make him feel inadequate as a man to hold on to his girl...oh well, there I go projecting again. Anyway, hope this helps...
2007-02-13 22:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, there is no straight forward way around it, he is bound to get hurt like u said its first love. But the best you can do is, sit him down and explain to him, but if you really like him, ask him for a break; you might end up missing him so much that you want him back so keep your options opened. Good luck
2007-02-13 21:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jonny boy, it's been a while grewing up with you but I don't want to huirt you. Let's break up okay. You'll find a better girl than me because I don't want to hurt you.
If you don't want to hurt his feelings than lie.
Just say you have hiv or something from kissing you cuz or if you can do it, just be straight out and be like,
I'm sorry but I have to tell you that I need to move on and I can't handle a relationship nop more. So let's break up okay.
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2007-02-13 21:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no nice way to break up with someone that doesn't want to be broken up with.
My boyfriend broke up with me over dinner, some would say that was more kind than dropping them a text...but is it? he made me think it was a discussion rather than a def answer so thought i could change his mind.
There is no nice way...if you want to then you just have to do it.
2007-02-13 21:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Thyroid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter how "easy" you let him down, you are his first and any let down will be a blow straight to his heart.. you should just be honest with him and get it over with.. there is no such thing as a nice way to break up with someone but there is a good way to do it and that's through just being honest...
2007-02-13 21:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and tell him you think it would be best for both of you to go your seperate ways. It's hard, it hurts, but it's better than staying with someone when you don't want to. We all go through it......I would think you could wait and not do it on Valentine's day though......
2007-02-13 21:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋