We hv bn a professional acquaintence for 7-8 yrs.He gradually tried 2 cm close 2me. &gradually he starting touching me. He is married &has a child. But he says he loves me.I tried staying away frm him sevrl tms but he is a nice friend &cares for me. I like his company a lot but don't approve the idea of physical intimacy. Otherwise he is very nice to me and respects me a lot. But I am afraid that he is just pretending to b like that. We have had break ups 4-5 times in these yrs on this issue only & every time he says he won't touch me if i don't like that.But evrytime it starts again from holding my hand(while driving, watching movie etc.) &kissing on hand. Physicaly he really attracts me 2but i just always keep pushing him away as i know all this is wrong. He recently crosed all limits and kissed me on my br***ts. Though tht moment gave me pleasure as it was a nice feeling(I am 30& still single &, was untouched b4 tht)After that i had a feeling of guilt &stoped talkng2 him.Wht do I d
2007-02-13 21:23:04 · 11 answers · asked by kirti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i would like to be frank here..
you already know that whatever you are doing is wrong..so i don't want to say anything regarding this..
you are in a serious problem dear..
many a times this happens with the people who work together..you know that he is married and has a child..thats why you are trying to avoid him but are unable to do so..
i think that when we try to avoid something..we start thinking more of that again and again..
you are not an immature person now and you are very well aware of what is happening with you.
well, according to me..you should stay away from him..
he is using you..slowly try to go away from him..find a suitable partner for yourself..when you will have someone with you..you will not miss him and he also will not trouble you..
don't worry lady and try to act right..
you are not doing anything wrong..its jut happening with you..but now, you should stop all this..you are messing up your life like this..
if you want you can mail me.
take care.
2007-02-14 04:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by ruprekhawati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im probably too young... but I used to tell my girlfriend I wouldnt do anything she didnt want to do.. I would try to be the best boyfriend ever. But I couldnt help it. I would always end up doing something with her, and let me tell you, I love her so much, without her I wouldnt be alive, literally, When we broke up I came so close to suicide I already had the knife to my wrist. Its nothing to worry about him saying he wont touch you if you dont want him to. He may perfectly well still love you, just like I do my girlfriend. He may be unhappy in his marriage and only stays with his wife for the kids and hes looking for something more. If you like him, you two should be together. Im not an advocate for cheating, but if he's stuck between a rock and a hard place... well... a mans gotta do what a mans gotta do.
2007-02-14 05:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by blitzer185 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do not feel guilty because you felt pleasure, you are human and this is natural. What you must really be concerned about is the fact that you are risking yourself to be used in this relationship you are having with this married. man. He is married, therefore you know deep in your heart that any hopes for a future with him is very dim. This man has a commitment with his wife whom he took marriage vows with. He has not honored the marriage vows he took with his wife. . You need to question if this is the kind of man you would want to place all your love to, all your body, all your trust. Open up your eyes to the fact that all he is trying to do is gain sexual pleasure from you. He has no other objective than this.In other words, he is using you. If you continue this relationship you are setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache. Please do think about what I have said.
2007-02-14 02:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you.
He finds you as a Sex object willing to oblige to his sexual needs. You are Single and 30 years old may be that is driving him more into this.
He means no relationship with you, he wants to just have sex with you.
Now its upto you either you keep distance off him or oblige to his sexual cravings and lose your virginity to him.
Remember he has a wife and child. Ek Kaan ke niche bajaoh and tel him next time he tries to get intimate you are going to tell it to his wife.
2007-02-13 23:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a girl, so u should not spoil a family r a life of a girl and a child, ur frnd have. so try to find the real lifetime partner, that should be single and can love only u not ur figure and money.
2007-02-13 21:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unbelievable....how come u r 30 and untouched....
he is definately using u....
and u r using him.....
u know he is physically attracted to u and there is no future to ur relation and in the back of ur mind u want that married guy to ve physical relation wid u...thats y those things happened in the first place....
think deep and be clear abt ur self.....
how can he be married and love u as well as his wife....
this is a contrdiction
kepp him wid u as long as u enjoi fleshy moments and they dump him ASAP after ur interest in him ceases...
enjoi ur life to the fullest .....these days wont be comming back again.....
2007-02-13 21:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, there's many fish in the sea why pick someone like that. Better think about hard caue I'm feeling the negative inside.
2007-02-13 21:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your willing to screw his wife and kid with him, so you too can feel deserted when your number is up, or you can tell him to go fry an egg. Either way, he will dump you too. So get over it, although I've heard women say " If you want a husband, steal one". so what's it going to be, shaft the wife, or maintain your integrity by staying single?
2007-02-13 21:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be professional since you now he is married and has child why you are close how you allow to hold hand and giving chance to kiss him be far away anyone give chance for kissing they can later give to pleasure. may be you will be sexually abuse this is my opinion.
2007-02-13 21:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by SHAKEEL R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay away frm him........ he is married... even if he is good + loves u a lot + wht ever it is, ur relationship will spoil the future of another girl ( his wife) + kids.... think ... think.... put your self in her shoes and think how bad she will feel on ur relationship........
don't worry sweety u will get a good and better guy ... world is big..
2007-02-13 21:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Racingred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋