I asked him out for an event and he said he can't make it that time the bus came so I went off. the next day he asked me how that event went. then he kept apologising and says will have gone if he didn't have to teach tuition that time. i chickened out and kept changin topic but he kept coming back to saying that he will have gone if he didn't have tuition. all the while staring intensely into my eyes.
why didn't he ask me out instead? so he is not interested? Surely he was not expecting me to ask him again instead?
what puzzles me is the way he said "I would have come if I didn't have tuition class you know" all the while staring into my eyes. just a feeling that he likesme
Actually I asked him out only because I thought he had a crush on me. There were a lot of signs but now I only hope these are not my own wistful imagaintion
It's been 2 weeks and I kept avoiding him. Don't think I will ever talk to him again. He's the shy type.
please convince me he's not intereste
2007-02-13 20:47:39 · 13 answers · asked by lobo j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
surely he wasn't expecting me to be the one to ask him out again? he's the man here....
surely even a shy guy would have the guts to ask now
2007-02-13 20:54:06 · update #1
please don't ask me to wait for him to ask. I want to forget him really.
tell me he is probably or probably not interested
2007-02-13 20:55:26 · update #2
he is so good looking but he seems so painfully shy. sometimes I wonder if he is just arrogant.
yes, the real reason I want to ask this question is: I am afraid I might have hurt him. It just makes me feel guilty somehow
2007-02-13 20:58:55 · update #3
He is interested.
I bet he feels that not going with you that one time ruined his chance of ever being with you again.
So, the real question is, are you interested in him?
Answer that question and then you'll know what to do.
2007-02-13 20:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Eyerish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehe.. I'm in somewhat a similar situation.
But I must tell you, I'm pretty sure he IS interested in you, and is too shy to ask you out. Guys can be very shy with certain girls (particularly those that are already their friends, and ones that they really really like, as opposed to any random pretty girl).
If he kept apologising, and you know he had a real excuse such as the tuition, it shows he wanted to go but really couldn't. Him staring into your eyes is his way of showing his sincerety, that he was telling the truth.
If you avoid him, you just give him the wrong message, and he will shy away even further.
Give him one last chance at least.... invite him to coffee casually.
2007-02-14 04:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
If you KNOW he's the shy type, then he is going to give you very subtle hints (that seem very obvious to him) and hope that you ask him again.
Shy guys won't step up to the plate when they should, and even want to. THEY ARE SHY.
Chances are, by not talking to him since, you have confused and hurt him. His way of letting you know to ask him to do something else was telling you that he would have gone... and asking how it was.
Give it another shot. But try for something that's a little more simple- like a drink/coffee.
2007-02-14 04:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bearess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask yourself if walking around avoiding him, and wondering how he feels, is worth avoiding a mature conversation with him about this. Sometimes we don't know what to say, and it's intimidating to talk about our feelings, but we forget that sometimes the best thing to say is just what we think and how we feel. If you really want to resolve this problem, you should talk to him.
2007-02-14 05:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because he's BUSY. His life schedule doesnt revolve around YOU. He likes you but he had to take care of IMPORTANT STUFF. And now your avoiding him and to make matters worse he's SHY so THAT doesnt help. Hooking up 2 shy people together is like dragging a dog to the vet. So stop being so INSECURE and MEET UP WITH HIM.
2007-02-14 04:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Herbal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
more importantly, who cares. im sure you have better things to do with your time then waste it on a guy that doesn't even have the balls to ask you out. i dont think he likes you that way simple because if he did, he would have asked by now. you already opened the door but he never stepped in.
so i would move on to someone else that you dont have to spend so much time trying to figure out.
2007-02-14 04:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by ecatrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way your gunna find out with this one is ask. Especially if he is shy. But if your not interested dont bother and avoid him.
2007-02-14 04:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by karena k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah...i agree with someone upstair. you did your part and don't avoid him, just let him ask you and be his friend naturally. i just think if the guy likes you enough, he should have the courage to ask you out. i had never asked guys out cause i am the shy one...so i can understand where you come from. but don't avoid him, give him opportunities to ask you out!
2007-02-14 04:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must like him. u seem troubled by this. some guys r 2 straight. u have to take the lead. If not, juz dun take all these 2 heart...
2007-02-14 04:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Luffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he's interested. In telling you he was busy, he was both apologizing and giving you an opening to suggest something else.
2007-02-14 04:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋