I broke up with my gf of 4years four month ago. in that time she met up with sumone new. i dont know if this guy was a factor when we broke up. now the guy has dump her and she is starting to contact me again. what should i do? i still love her.
2007-02-13 19:44:25 · 15 answers · asked by Nanook~Maybe I need a longer Name?~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, consider the reason why you two broke up before. It must have been something pretty
serious to brake up after four years together.
You obviously broke up with her for a 'good' reason, so ask yourself if it's worth giving it another try. Are you ready to go through whatever you went through before, whatever it was to cause you to split. Because there hasn't been enough time for anything to have changed.
If there was something about her that made you break up with her, do you honestly think that four months is a long enough time for her to have changed,'I think not'..Not to mention the
fact that she's just ended another relationship.
Did he dump her or what?
You sound like a smart guy, so don't be a 'dummy' and take her back until you are sure
she has changed, or you'll repeat the same old 'crap' as before..
You say you still love her, well your love wasn't enough the first time around or you'd never have
broken up with her. SO, make sure it's love you feel and not just a kind of 'longing' to have her back in your life, regardless..
We get kinda used to someone 'good or bad',
when they've been in our lives for a while.
THINK really hard on this one, and don't do anything stupid..
2007-02-13 19:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go back to her if I were you? What caused the break up? I don't think it will last if you did get back together. I have a feeling she is running back to you because you still have a weak spot for her and she is looking for soemone to use while she's going through this rebound phase. She will probably hurt you again. Don't do it.
2007-02-13 19:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Solid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. What are you, her rebound toy-ball? Dont let her get back with you that easy. You should place negative reinforcement for her unacceptable behaviour in the first place. Leaving you in the first place for what? A random fling with a chump that lasted like what, a couple months? Fook that. What she did was unnacceptable. And now if she wants to get back into your life, she'll have to make it up to you.
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2007-02-13 19:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Go Back with her. But on three Let her go. Oh Don't Wait for 3 , 2 Yes. Nomore cause what goes around comes around.
2007-02-13 19:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, try to figure out why she contacted you. Just because she's left alone or because she realised that she loves you. Give yourself some time to trust her again. Tell her that she should try a lot to gain your trust. But don't just close the door to her if you still love her.
2007-02-13 19:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by goncae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do dont be the rebound guy, and you got to consider the fact of why you broke up in the first place.even though you still have feelings for its still not reason enough to take them back.follow your instincts.
2007-02-13 19:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...HE dumped HER...she is feeling rejected and needs to feel wanted again and she know that you still have feelings for her. Think about that. She isn't over him. Don't get involved in that. Find yourself a girl who wants to be with you for you, not because she is feeling needs and insecure. Don't you deserve better than that?
2007-02-13 19:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try again....
but just one more chance. You don't need to keep breaking your heart over her, but I do hope this other guy has made her see you're the one for her.
Wish you the best.
2007-02-13 19:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her pursue you.If she really wants you for u she will,if she just wants someone to be there she will go for the one that shows the most attention.Don't ignore her but let her come to you
2007-02-13 19:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by karma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her be her friend right now she needs you and chances are that she still loves you too. sometimes woman dont realize the best thing until they dont have it anymore.
2007-02-13 19:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 14369 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋