How do you deal with the reality that you can't have the only one you want? He's the only one I want and need in my life, and I love him more than anything. Problem is, he is in love with someone else, I'm guessing they will get married (although they aren't officially engaged yet).
He's all I think about, and it's so hard for me to watch him move on and love someone else. All I want is him. And now I know it never can be again, so how do I deal with knowing it will never happen?
How do you watch the one you love, love somebody else? How do I make it stop hurting? I miss him so much, that it hurts, I can't even explain how I feel.
My heart is broken, it won't heal. Time hasn't helped. I can't stop crying. He's all I've ever wanted, but now he'll never know...
2007-02-13 19:17:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie you have to move on. You say he is the only one you want and need but there is someone out there right for you. You have ot let him go and be happy because that is what someone does when they love someone. If he is in love with someone else then you have to leave him be. I know it is rough now and it iwll be for awhile but you have ot move on.
Good luck to you in all you do!
2007-02-13 19:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he is all you have ever wanted but now he will never know.
That means you have not been brave enough to tell him how you
feel. If you feel you will appear weak then you are thinking about
you and not him. Choosing a classy and emotionally sincere way
to let him know or an irresistable and attractive way to catch his
affections is the only way. Watch romantic comedy movies to
learn as well as entertainment. Your predicament is well written
and described and touches my heart and is attractive enough to me. I would fall in love with you myself. A realistic assesment of
your physical beauty and his looks can play a very important part
of relationships. Be realistic and if you have a realistic view of the
situation knock down all the barriers and plan the most appealing
way to let him know how you feel without frightening or annoying
him. A proper approach can only be flattering to him. He might
rethink what he is doing. There may be unknown (to me)
ellements to this situation of a wonderful love affair with the one
you fear he may marry. If he is sincerely in love with the other
one then your chances are poor. If the degree of love that you
feel is greater than hers you may, and I repeat may, have a good
chance. How passionate a display of sincere devotion can you
mount?? I am a 60 year old man, never married and often in
love in the past and looking for a wonderful romantic love affair
that will last the rest of my life so I am able to empathise with
your situation. I only watch romatic movies with a flavour of
comedy known as "chick flicks" and don't reveal this trait to
men friends. Watch Sleepless in Seatle, Six Days Seven Nights,
13 going on 30, Sabrina (both year issues), several Jennifer
Lopez and Sandra Bulloch movies or Julia Roberts movies as
Pretty Woman, Knotting Hill, or Best Friend's Wedding etc.
all the best to you
2007-02-13 20:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by gv farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i went through the samething. so i'll try to help you out.
1. It's over.
2. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be
with you, you can't change their mind or heart.
3. Time will heal and you'll be able to see this guy as not so
perfect.
4. It's hard, but it's ok to move on, just get busy, hang out with
friends and what a while before you date, it won't help you to
seek revenge by dating guys, or thinking that you're a nobody
and just grabing any guys that come around.
2007-02-13 19:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u ever tell him that you feel so strongly about him? Umm i really wish that i could say its gonna be easy and just get over it But its not it is so effin hard to let go. U can still love him and probably always will just you Need to just let him go if you really love him u will find a way. Grab some ice cream and watch the Notebook and youll feel better cause one day you will have that love back and it will be better. This guy is lame and a loser if he moves on from some one that really loves him. You Will Be Ok but it does suck. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-13 19:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by britt w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this feeling its the worst. But you have your health I presume. There are people in wheelchairs and all sorts of suffering in the world.
If hes not married then you should fight to the end. You're still in it, don't give in like this!
You have 2 choices- either you commit to trying to get him back with the only thing stopping that being him marrying her or you OR you decide that you are not going to fight for him given that it could be a few years
Which one is it? How much does he really mean to you.
The thing about love, is that it only really exists when two people feel it for each other. I know it hurts when you love someone who doesn't love you.
But love is very complicated. Maybe he is with her and loves her AND you. Maybe he doesn't love you anymore (I don't understand this but maybe it happens, cos you don't fall out of love if you were in it in the first place right). Maybe he loves you but is with her. Maybe he is just doing what feels easiest for now and is deluded or immature. If thats the case then you can get him back.
IF you are going to fight for him. Make it a clever fight. Put pressure on but not too much and not too little. Its like a sports game or something. Its like fishing. Theres no guarantees.
Maybe he is turned off if you say to obviously "I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU, come back to me". People mainly think the same. We like mystery. We don't break up with people and then lose interest in them.
If information gets to him about you so that it makes him think about you, that is gold. If you subtly give him something about you to think about that is gold. Don't try and undermine the other girl, you'll be the one ending up looking silly. BUT DO NOT acknowledge their relationship.
Good luck
If it doesn't happen with this guy, you sound really nice and yeah it will hurt for a while, but its not really love if it is broken by either party. Feel free to email me if I can help
2007-02-13 19:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i identify soo much with u only i had the chance to tell him how i felt, and then he told me it was too late cos i told him at the last minute. He couldn't just break it off with the other. it hurt so much but i let him go. Anytime i saw him i cldn't help but think i could have been with him if i had told him a little earlier.
The good news is that i'm with someone else and is healed from that and the more i think about it the more i congratulate myself for letting him go.
All the best.
2007-02-13 19:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Talk to him and let him know. And if all else fails, on his wedding day when the priest announces, "is there anyone who objects to this holy matrimony or forever hold your peace" you say "I do. I love this man very much and I think he's making the biggest mistake of his life. And if you marry that girl standing right beside you, its something you can never take back. Do you want to look back on your life and always have this 'what if' that will haunt you forever?" Then see what he says...After that, it is beyond your control. You have done your best.....
2007-02-13 19:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. You have to understand that you don't need him as much as you think you do. Move on for your own sake. There are so many great opportunities that will pass you by. Best wishes.
2007-02-13 19:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by 444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the truth hurts but realize that he doesn't want you and find one who will cherrish,love and adore you like you deserve!There is many more out there and you will find one that's better than him.
2007-02-13 19:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by karma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad but as you know he has someone else you must forget him for your sake.
What you must remember there is always a match for someone & you will find that right person.
Good luck
2007-02-13 19:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋