when do men grow up and think about there future?

Question

my boyfriend is 27 this year we live together and have been together over 5 years. he still goes out about once twice a week drinking with his friends - but all his friends are still single living at home. will it always be like this when will his friends grow up - is it still ok he sees his friends this much?

Answer 1

usually after its to late
when they have lost the best thing that has walked into their lives

Answer 2

Ha! My parents raised me with a negative attitude towards life. That it's a cold cruel world out there. I've always been thinking about the future. That's why I save religiously, invest hard and spend nothing!

In all honesty. If his friends still live with their parents and spending money on drinking every weekend then I don't think his friends are thriving.

Going out with the boys once in a while is alright, but 2x a week is a bit extreme. It's just not very productive.

I think you need to find some girls for his friends. Sounds like they got too much time on their hands.

A man can only high five his friends and call each other "Bra" so many times in a week. It's time to move on.

Answer 3

Well i left home at 16 and i started work and have always looked ahead, and always think of my future, im now 27 and doing really well for myself, still thinking about my future and about my retirement, but i still go out and enjoy time with my friends two or three times a week, there is nothing wrong with that, i work hard all week we are entitled to spend time with friends in the pub.. its how we release our stress, so we dont give our women any stress....its also good to have some time apart from women sometimes. I think you should just let him be, and continue how things are as long as he is not hurting you, and he still takes you out, its ok...it will make things a lot worse if you tell him he cant go out.. oh god dont do that!!

Answer 4

If he's 27 and he's still doing that, you probably need serious talks. It depends what you both want out of the relationship too so take into account the way your relationship has gone since you've been dating. Tell him you want further committment, especially as it's been so long. He's given his friends committment by going out religously twice a week with them, why can't he do the same for you?

You could ask him if you could go out with him one of the two nights a week? As in Monday night, him and his friends, Tuesday night - you, him and his friends. Maybe hook some of his friends up with girls you know!

I don't agree with ultimatums but if he's being an arrogant, stubborn **** then it's probably the only thing left. The last resort though.

Answer 5

Men mature around the age of 112 however, you can change his routine.

After 5 years with you he should have stopped seeing his friends on such a regular basis he is in a rut.

Talk to him & perhaps instead of him going out with his mates once or twice a week he takes you out.

He can go out & meet his mates say 1 or 2 times a month instead.

It will most probably do his mates a favour & perhaps they could meet someone to settle down with.

Answer 6

You should go out with him, it shows you care about that aspect of his life too, plus you can make sure he's not out of line when he goes out.

Every guy is different in maturing. Maybe you should try to have him hang out with some of your friends, too, if they are more mature. And if they are not, find some new ones.

His surroundings definitely influence the way he thinks about the future. If all of his friends are getting married, he'll be thinking about it more often too. Just don't push him, let this come as his decision, otherwise he'll resent you for this.

So, if you see your future with this guy but he's just not ready now, be patient, spend more time with him and introduce him to more mature friends. If you think he is not planning on spending his future with you, then after five years it's time to cut the losses and find someone who is.

Take care.

Answer 7

stop judging your bf by his friends your boyfriend lives with you not his parents.so just because they hang out does not mean thier the same.and once or twice a week is very little in man world men tend to hang out a lot with their mates sometimes every day i think its some through back to when men banded together to protect the village and their families.i used to think it funny how in frequent women hang out with their mates.as for as growing up your idea and a mans idea of maturity are to different things for a man ,paying your bills and handling your responsibilities is all the maturity you need why do you need to become some boring square to be considered mature.

Answer 8

What's wrong with him seeing his friends twice a week? I think that's healthy you both need time a part from each other. You both need to go out with your friends and have a good time- you cant be together 24/7 you would drive each other insane. I would be happy that he is still seeing his friends.

Answer 9

The real truth is NEVER.
Some guys just never grow up.
If he hasn't settled down at 27 he won't settle down at 40.

Get use to his drinking and his buddies because once you get married you'll be a live in maid. His friends will always come first unless they get married themselves.

Answer 10

so what if their single, are they less people because they are? your one of those why dont the world revolve around chicks, dam thats like the most unattractive thing a woman can do. why do you think he has been able to be with you 5 years, your way u wouldnt last 6 months. its human to have human contact with more than one human, commitment? hello 5 years. and tako who answered this your a whipped biatch by the sounds of it, you should go wid dis chick, seems your fit nicely under her thumb!!!!!! biaaaaacccctccccchhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Answer 11

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