who shoud she choose? (lots of answers please)?

Question

my friend doesnt know im doing this, but ill tell her once im done and have lots of answers

my best friend is engaged to a guy she says she loves. well she just had surgery today and her fiance, who she lives with, doesnt really seem to care. he went to his hockey game tonight, even though the doctor said that some one should be with her for 24 hours right after the surgery. so....her other best friend, a guy who has told her before that he loves her, and he does, went over to be with her while her fiance was at his hockey game. she does have feelings for this other guy, but she says she is in love with her fiance. who do you think she should chose?


i think she should give the other guy a chance! but thats just me.

he has done other things that have made her cry at work...i wont go into detail, that would take to long

Answer 1

I'm dating myself here... but there's an old song that asks "Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you... or are you going back to the one you love?" lol, damn... hardest question in the world.

Some people you just never feel "that way" about. Sure, she could give her best friend a chance, but she'd always be looking at someone else and she'd feel like she's missing something.

Maybe her bf just doesn't know how or what to do for her, or maybe he really is a jerk and someday she'll realize it. But even if she looks back and thinks she should've given her best friend a chance... she still wouldn't have been happy.

It's hard... but you have to let her figure it out on her own and just hope for the best.

Answer 2

Please do not show her your question or any of the answers. She does NOT need this kind of emotional stress, especially right after surgery. If you care for your friend, you will be there for her and not say anything at all to or about her fiance. She knows all too well what he is. You don't need to tell her. If you must speak up then wait until she is healed but I think you should stay out of it. You could end up losing a friend. Just try to support her. She needs you now but not the stress.

Answer 3

Go go go go for the other guy. Screw that selfish jerk. Just think when they are married. It will all be about him. Been there and done that. You know she is in the hospital right now thinking what a jerk he was to do that to her. Is that how she wants to spend her whole life? If she does stay with her fiance, take her back into surgery to get her head out of her a**. Later.

Answer 4

First of all you asking for opinions about who your friend should choose is a moot point. The real issue is that she shouldn't even be getting married. She is emotionally attached to two men. That is a recipe for disaster. Her fiance was more than inconsiderate in his actions towards his "future" wife, however it is not right for her to use another man as an emotional crutch, especially when she KNOWS that this man loves her. If you ask me, your friend is being just as selfish as her fiance. Look at the whole picture. I know she is your friend, but she is being very selfish by stringing this poor man along. HE is the real victim in this. She has already made her choice. The fiance is that choice. You just need to make sure that you are being a loving friend, and not a meddling matchmaker. Might not be the answer you want, but its the answer that you need.

Answer 5

To an outsider this is a no brainer. How can the one she wants to
marry not WANT to be with her during her medical delema and
recovery especially after the doctor has required she be with
someone after treatment. She is obviously blinded by a hypnotic
love. It is her moment to test her fiance's love for her.

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Answer 7

Even if she doesn't have feelings for the guy that stayed with her in a time of need, she needs to dump the hockey guy at least.

If he skipped out on something as important as this, he'll do it again. I don't think he really cares about her. His actions prove that...

Answer 8

It's uncaring for her fiance to not stay with her, especially when there are doctors orders. Her fiance sounds immature and selfish. I don't know the circumstances though, but I think that the other guy would do better.

Answer 9

I say she should give the other guy a chance- clearly he cares for her a lot more if he's being with her when she needs him, and not her fiance.
Bottom line, her fiance should have been there for her, and he wasn't. It's terrible. I think she should look into the other guy. If it were me, I would.
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Answer 10

GOSH ! I PLAY HOCKEY MYSELF BUT HER HOCKEY FIANCE SHOULD HAVE MADE ARRANGEMENTS FOR SOMEONE, MAYBE HIS SISTER OR MOTHER OR SOMEONE TO BE WITH HER.. HER FIANCE SHOULD BE MORE CONSIDERATE AND SHOW HIS LOVE FOR HER . ID BE TEMPTED TO GO WITH THE OTHER GUY . ID SURE LET THAT FIANCE KNOW WHAT YOU THOUGHT OF HIS LACK OF COMPASSION ...IF THIS IS ANY INDICATION OF HOW HE WOULD BE IN THE FUTURE ID CHECK HIM OVER THE BOARDS NOW .