he only cares about his job but what i have to say might make me sound bad but i needa know there is this other guy i have know for 6 yrs b4 i met my husband he is my husbands best friend. i have always thought he was cute and we normally fight all the time like brother and sister but for the past while i have developed a lil feelings for him but never said anything hes in a relationship to but not to long ago we kissed and i actually liked it even though it was wrong me and my hubby wer split at the timewe have also done a couple other things i should fell guilty but i dont hes always there for me when i needa shoulder to cry on but hes always asking me what are you plannign on getting outta this? like i want a relationship i love my hubby but i dunno if its gonna work but i would not ask him to leave his gf hes always stariing at me and holding my hand when we are drving somewhere alone. or even when no ones looking i just wanna feel loved i dont want him 2 leave her does he L me?
2007-02-13 18:13:02 · 11 answers · asked by Krisitn K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, the exact thing is happening here. this Married woman is married with 2 kids, shes 22 and has srong feelings for me, we have had sex numerous of times but they were split at the time. but the first time it was just for pleasure for both of us and i've always been there for her when shes needed a shoulder to cry on but the only thing is I only like her as a friend but she is my opinion a little nuts b/c she was willing to divorce her husband whom she really does not love any more and try to marry me knowing that I only like her as a friend. and the fact that im in college with no job and no way I can support her and 2 children. but your story is a little different. i'm give you the same advice I gave her. If you do not love him. leave him. do not beat yourself up and do not be depressed and staying with someone who cares not as much as he did before. but I recomended in having a job b4 doing so, and a place to stay. Also keep in mind that marriages have their ruts. Where couples feel as if they love no more or feel no love. these things happen lots of times. and its something you have to give a lot of thought into.... ask yourself these few questions. Do I love Him? Am I Happy? Do I want to stay and spend the rest of my life with him? take time to answers these questions when you do wait one month ask urself these questions again. if your answers remain no. then try to seek marriage counseling. or try talking to him. sometimes they need to know that you are not feeling loved. When asking your self questions about your marriage listen to your heart... stupid sounding maybe but if you take the time and actualy stop and think and listen you may find the real answer then what your brain has to say. I hope this Advice is Helpful. Also ask your friend his feelings for you.
2007-02-13 18:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out of all of the men out there you had to mess around with your husband's best friend? So potentially, your husband could lose his wife AND his best friend. You should feel guilty, guilty, guilty. Why don't you talk to your husband about what you are feeling? If someone had a problem with you and didn't tell you about it but instead decided to punish you how would that make you feel?
Also, it sounds like his friend is a jerk. He is only messing around with you because he wants to hurt your husband, not because he really cares anything for you. You are playing a DANGEROUS game. I was watching a crime show today where a man is in prison because he killed his wife and his his best friend because they were having an affair.
This man does not love you. You should ask yourself why this man isn't married. If he was such a great catch, wouldn't he be married to someone else? He is not which should make you think twice about ending your marriage just for him.
2007-02-13 18:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not coming down on you, but it's like you're playing with two men minds right now. If you want your husband leave this other guy alone and tell him that you want nothing else to do with him. You don't have to let him hold your hand and do all these things to you unless you like it. If it's about the attention, try getting some from your husband. Be careful in what you are doing because someone is bond to get hurt.
2007-02-13 18:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost... have enough respect for yourself (if not for your husband)... to knock it off!!! You made a promise to be faithful.... even just holding someone else's hand in an intimate way (not to mention the other things that you've already done)... is CHEATING!!!! You need to take a cold hard look at what you have... think "would I want to see my husband with another woman?".... and be honest with yourself!!! You KNOW IT'S WRONG... so honor your husband, and knock it off!!!
2007-02-13 18:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by igiveall2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids? I don't think you should be playing around with another man if you love your husband.
If there are no kids, then don't have any just to secure your marriage.
If your marriage is rocky, like you said you were split up, maybe this guy would be good for you. I'm just rambling, I don't know what your should do, It's confusing.
2007-02-13 18:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by upallnight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very wrong. I think this other guy just wants something from you, alot of guys will be very nice to a girl until he gets what he wants. What's so bad about your husband? He is probably working hard to help you. Why did you marry him then? It doesn't sound like you really love him......
2007-02-13 18:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by immarealgothipromise 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps your husband cares so deeply about his job is because he takes seriously his responsibilities as a married man.
There is not much hope for your marriage if you are involved with his best friend. Neither one of you sound trustworthy. Please wake up and understand what you are doing!
2007-02-13 18:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting yourself in a bad situation. It is your obligation to your HUSBAND to work this out. Go to conseling, go to therapy, but to CHEAT with your husbands best friend is not good at all. He will not only be devistated that you are cheating but with his best friend. You wouldn't like it if your girlfriend was doing the same thing to you with your husband. If you don't like something that he is doing tell him. Telling his friend isn't going to change the situation. I hope that you do the right thing...
2007-02-13 18:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think it sounds like u are in luv with ur hubby's best fend. when u married ur husband did u tink about this other guy or what? mabee u should talk to ur husband and tell him ur feelings are less for him and u need attention, and the less attention u get the more u luv this other guy. its up to u thats just my opinion.
2007-02-13 18:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be more worried about the other guy's feeling more than your husband. I think you need to be honest with your husband.
If your heart is with the other guy, then quit leading your husband on. Poor Guy!
2007-02-13 18:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋