Ok im fat and proud y are people still so gosh mean to me?!?

Question

Hey everyone I'm a plus size goddess aka average woman yes im beautiful. i dont get it why dont guys and girls ever want to talk to me? i sit there all they and no one comes to me and makes friends. no one even cares about my name. i am in my senior year of high school and we just had our winter dance and i went by myself no one asked me. after there wuz a afterparty where everyone went and i went as well. I invited myself. why didnt anyone tell me about it? am i that much of a nuisance?why wont people accept me for who i am? so what if i dont have paris hiltons body and i dont pluck my eyebrows and i dont wear makeup. so what if i am 240 pounds. i am a kind person i am human. what i just hate about people is that they are so ubsessed with paris hilton and lindsay lohan everyone wants to look like them. and act like them. makes me vomit the way singers are these days. anorexic and slutty. god! they are promoting a false image of beauty i recoment you guys watch dove "evolution" on

youtube. doesnt anyone else agree? the other day i couldnt find anywhere to sit in the caf so i just went to a group of girls and they didnt say a word to me. i sat next to them and i waited and waited for them to talk to me and make friends but they wont. anorexic bitxhes!!! okay and its valentines day and there is a guy i like and no he didnt ask me out. why am i sooooo reppulsive??? ok i am human too i need a date. he is an ******** fo rnot asking me out i think he is cute... do i have to become an anorexic bytch and bleach my hair and pluck my eyebrows??? i sit all day and no one talks to me they are all just materialistic morons. great culture you have, america. makes me wanna leave to somewhere smart and materialistic.

Answer 1

Harsh as it may sound.....worry a whole lot less about the "other people" and their perceptions of you and spend a whole lot more on the things that bring you joy!
Life is too short to warrant the effort wasted.

Answer 2

Cutting out carbs can help, but get ready to eat protein till is comes out of your ears. Also, once you start eat ting carbs again, the weight will come back. Remember, that once you go on a diet to lose the weight you have to stick to it for then on. If you feel that bread, potatoes, and some veggies which are rich in carbs are a main staple and something you would miss, don't do it. Instead, find a healthy way of eating, such as eating three medium size meals a day. You are not over weight, and you are 14. Fat is moving all around, so the "baby fat" will burn off as you grow. Just go for walks, stay active, and eat healthy, which means no fast food burgers a lot, not a whole lot of sugary treats, and lower calorie diet. Good luck!

Answer 3

I can understand how it must hurt to have this happen but I am reading a bit of a defensive attitude also. People pick up on these kinds of things and don't want to be around it. I think you should try and smile a little more. Don't be afraid to make eye contact and smile with confidence. Also, if you are always sitting waiting for things to happen in your life .... well .... you might be waiting your life away. You need to learn to take the initiative. It may be hard and sometimes hurtful in the beginning but you can do it. You be the one to say hi and start the conversation. Give people a chance to see how nice you are and if it doesn't work every time .... move on and try again.There are many nice people out there that would welcome a new friendship.Get rid of the bitterness and let them see that you are one of those people.
Good luck to you : )

Answer 4

Ok, many people look at the overweight, and think "man, why can't he properly take care of himself, he's killing he's body, eat so unhealthy.." those who have a fit appearence simply don't want to associate themselves with the overweight. I mean, all the skinny stars out there are admired by the youth, cause guys want a piece of that and girls want to be that. Thus, associating themselves with fat is pulling a reverse on their dreams. It's not that they don't like you, it's that being friends with you could give them a bad image. so, stop trying to include yourself with the "cool" kids and just be open to any group. Anyways, usually those cool kids are so tied up with themselves that they'll never provide you with true friendship.
Here's how I made through high school and how I was able to have a blast:
-I was everywhere! I never really devoted myself to one group. I made contacts throughout the entire school, but most importantly I did my own thing and made friends along the way. so again I say, the cool kids may have a friendly appeal, but like advil...may appear tasty, but is in fact raunchy.

cheers

Or you could lose weight (sports...you'll might make some good friends on sports teams)

Answer 5

There's your problem:
"i sit there all they and no one comes to me and makes friends"
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Why are you being so passive? Are you scared of rejection? Why just "sit there"? What's getting in the way of your getting up and approaching people with a big smile on your face? Don't you know that confident secure women are way more attractive than passive couch potatoes no matter whether they are fat or thin?
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Has somebody brainwashed you with the silly falsehood that only males take the initiative in establishing human contact? Do you know that most men get rejected far more than they get accepted and that they just learn to put up with it and that's the way life is?
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Do you really imagine that if you fade into the woodwork somebody is going to magically make the effort to do what you are too lazy to do and reach out? Don't you know that the Cinderella story is not reality - it's pure fiction and there is no such thing as a Prince Charming who will rescue you?
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Haven't you figured out that your life is going to be what you make it, not just what others make it for you? That you have choices and that all choices have consequences?

Answer 6

The same people who are obscessed with the celebrities you mentioned are also human, so they are easily suseptible to brainwashing! Brainwashed into believing that there is only one form of beauty out there. You're judging them by bashing the celebrities and the people who want to act like them. I also do emphasize with you, I was skinny during high school, people were brutal. Things like "she could be cute but she's too much of a bone" was one of the best compliments I got from a guy, but the girls were worse. My own "friends" turned on me constantly. Advice: Go to a fairly large college, diversity is far more likely to be embrassed, and someone will end up proud with you by their side, I can almost guarantee it. No one talked directly to me either in high school, but in college with your outspoken personality (very reminescent of my own) people will be listening to you! You won't have to carry around all that social baggage from before, you will shine one day maybe not in college either but your time is coming. Tell me if I'm wrong about this "your an individualist that dances to the beat of her own drummer and is not thrilled with being just a followerer? and people I believe sense when your bigger then them! I promise no pun intended. The one thing I've found being an individualist opens many doors, but also shuts a few and it's not easy, It takes a strong young woman to travel the road less taken. But what the heck do I know maybe you're the only normal one of the bunch and should feel blessed your nice even when others aren't. One more positive thing to being different and having adversity is you are able to feel with other people more readily so you may reach fewer, but you will reach them deeper.

Answer 7

OK, my cousin is mid 200 lbs. Fat or skinny, in a wheel chair or otherwise challenged, u must not rely on others to make friends. U have to make them. U say hello. U make the first move. And this next suggestion is old... take a course, join a club. I made soooo many friends all over N America joining a 10 pin bowling league. It is a guarantee!

As far as people being mean and calling names.... for some reason it is still politically correct to use horrible names against "plus size" or fat people.

Get out and do it for yourself. It is up to YOU.

Answer 8

You sat there and didn't say anything and expected them to try and make friends with you. Did you start talking to them and try to make friends? Maybe they were wondering why you didn't say anything to them. I think you need to work on your personality rather than blaming everything on your looks. If you want to make friends you have to make an effort. People aren't going to come up to you and beg you to be their friend. But if you make the first move you might be suprised. When you get to college try and by more outgoing and positive. It wouldn't be a bad idea to work on your spelling either.
And I really don't think that everyone wants to be like Lindsay Lohan. She's an alcoholic and a drug adict. And not all singers are anorexic and slutty. That's really ignorant.

Answer 9

Shallow people must go with the herd, and I think that is the majority of people. You are troubling yourself over people who aren't worth knowing. Frankly I don't know why you bothered going to the dance as that kind of an event is a haven for that type, all trying to be like each other rather than being themselves. For most of those people high school will be the best days of their lives because they are really losers.

You need to broaden your horizons. Travel away from your small minded town. There is a big beautiful world out there where you will find people who can think for themselves. You can and will find true friends,people who accept you for who you are.

Answer 10

Generally speaking, the human race is evil. And school kids are the most evil of all. They only want to associate with people who will make them look good, thereby giving themselves a better self-image. This is because deep-down, those kids who are ignoring you have no self-confidence and are totally empty inside. They need beautiful people next to them like they need food to survive.

And so, those of us who are considered to be 'not beautiful' are ignored by most - those who are overweight, plain-looking/ugly or over a certain age (usually over 30).

I am in my 40's, single, slim and fit and think of myself as as a good person and a human. I identified with everything you said regarding being ignored. Yes, because I am well over 30, our ageist society has deemed me to be unfit for any kind of human interaction outside work.

So, I certainly know where you're coming from, and I feel for you. When I was in High School, I was the odd-one-out. I was the skinny, nerdy kid who didn't surf and loved art ... not a sea-god obsessed with sports. So I was ignored and friendless all through school. Other kids wouldn't come near me, and I was the one who was the last to be picked for a sports team.

I got through school by developing an inner strength unlike anything those popular kids could ever match. And that inner strength gave my the ability to easily get through life without turning to drink or drugs - things those popular kids got into very soon after leaving school. (Many of those guys even ended up in jail.) Life was so easy compared to High School. High School for me was the worst 6 years of my life - so life will get better for you when you finish school.

Life is tough when you don't fit the mould of what is desirable. All I can suggest is that you develop a thick skin, ignore those idiots around you, and start enjoying being alone. You don't need other people to make you happy. You only need YOU to make you feel happy!

And you know what? Sometime soon (when you're out there in the real world) you'll meet some people who will love you for who you are inside, not for how you look. You just have to find people who are as mature and caring as you obviously are.

Answer 11

"i sit there all they and no one comes to me and makes friends"

Why are you blaming others? It's not because you are fat. I've known fat people who were very popular, and fat people who were very unpopular, in high school. It's not the body that you've got that is making you unpopular---you are using that as an excuse to ignore whatever it is about you that is turning people off.

I suggest some serious introspection to determine the REAL reason you are having trouble making friends. It's got nothing to do with your weight, and everything to do with something else. You need to figure out what that is, and decide if it's something that you want to change.