I went to my bf's aunt house with him for a family get together and when we entered he said nothing about me. They were all looking at me like who is this? And where is your baby mother? I felt so uncomfortable and the thing is he always do that. When we started dating it took him a while to tell anyone I was his girl, and that kind of hurt.
2007-02-13 18:05:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to him and tell him that it hurts you. he probably doesnt even realixe that he is doing it.
2007-02-13 18:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by cali_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is actually taking you to family functions, that's a good sign that he does like you.
He is suffering from ignorance and a bit of bad manners.
My husband and I dated a long time ago and I used to get on his case and tell him he overlooked introductions. Finally I got it thru his head that it was his job to do it!
Let him know that he should introduce you and if you find he's not, then you can step up and offer to introduce yourself by saying, "Hi, I'm (so & so) and I'm so happy to meet you." :) Don't be shy. Hopefully he will get over the issue of making an introduction. He doesn't have to "label" you as a gf or friend, all he has to do is say: "This is (so & so). :)
2007-02-14 02:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, i had this exact same problem! he did the same shyt to me. i thought it was rude on his part & i'm sure his family didn't think too highly of me. i got after him about that & so did his aunt. after he finally introduced me (after 3 yrs) i feel a little more comfortable taking the lead from there. in my experience i felt like my bf was uncomfortable introducing me b/c he had a bad break-up w/ his wife & that dumb ***** went & spread rumors about me (untrue, of course). he practically avoided them for our entire relationship! let him know how u feel & that it would be unfair to him if u were to put him in that position. make sure u both see eye-to-eye on where ur relationship is, that way u won't waste ur tyme w/ a guy who won't claim his new love.
2007-02-14 02:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by DoMeStIc GoDdEsS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do two things. One: If I went somewhere with him, and he didn't introduce me, I would open my mouth and say Hi, I'm so and so--his gf. Two: In private, I would sit down with him, and ask what gives? Why isn't he introducing you to people he knows? Is he embarrassed about you? If so, why? Or was he not taught proper manners? I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-14 02:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce yourself!
If it's a "he won't own up to me being his girlfriend" thing... then say "Hi! I'm his girlfriend -your.name.here-"
If it causes a problem... then you shouldn't be his girlfriend.
Although guys - as well as girls - should be the one responsible for introducing the person they're with... some people are just ignorant.
2007-02-14 02:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Yur Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Does he make you sleep in the garage? If he lets you into the house does he put a flag over you before sex? Drop the idiot. Move on, you'll do better. Practice. practice.....
2007-02-14 02:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-boyfriend used to do that all the time and he wasn't trying to be mean he just forgot. And I knew that he wasn't trying to be rude to me so I just introduced myself and then he would realize that he didn't do it himself, imediately apologize, say sorry and give me a kiss.
2007-02-14 02:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, guys do that. We don't mean to, but it's what guys do. Give him some kind pointers. It also may not be how he was brought up. Give him a break.
2007-02-14 02:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to him about it my ex used to do the same thing without thinking about it maybe he thinks your a big girl and should introduce yourself
2007-02-14 02:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he makes contact, ask him who is this? When he tells you, tell him you don't know anyone by that name. He has no problem "forgetting" your name.
2007-02-14 02:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me for being blunt, but he probably uses you for convenient sex. I have seen it before. One of my friend's friend never introduced his girlfriend. Later when I asked him why, he said that she was just his 'sex friend'. He has a regular girlfriend, but needed someone for when he wanted sex, too.
2007-02-14 02:42:12 · answer #11 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋