10 years ago my grandma got put into an assisted living nursing apartment. She lives on her own but it is just an apartment place for older people. When this happened my mom went to meet her sister and they filled out paperwork to put the house in their names. My mom's brother lives in what use to be my grandmas house. My mom works FT and makes less than 18,000 a year meanwhile my aunt the one who my mom met to fill out this paperwork makes over 60,000. My mom gets the house tax every year for 600 bucks for the house my GRANDMA does not even live in. My mom's brother lives there who makes more money than my mom. My brother is 17 and they have no money saved for him to go to college and my mom's car is unreliable but they cannot afford a new one. I am 25 and live on my own but it really irritates me that my mom pays this. Should I e-mail my aunt (lives far away) to confront her. My mom said she did not know she would be getting this bill when they signed the paper.
2007-02-13 17:30:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom would be mad if I e-mailed her. But everyone has always taken advantage of my mom and it needs to stop.
2007-02-13 17:31:47 · update #1
My uncle (mom's brother) does not pay rent. My mom and aunt now are co-owners on the house. But why isn't my aunt getting the bill and why isn't the person who lives there paying. That is why I want to e-mail my aunt. My mom is not happy about it. She said it is not fair that mark makes more money than her but that she just pays to keep them out of her life. She is upset with it but doesn't want to cause trouble. My mom does not even think her mom knows (my grandma) that she pays it.
2007-02-13 17:57:46 · update #2
You are right they made it so my grandma had no assets so she can live at the assisted living place free or for very reduced fee. When my grandma dies they will just give the house to Mark my mother thinks. The house is not nice and very old and yes the person who lives there now pays no rent. My mom and aunt are co-owners but my mom is paying the entire taxes! Meanwhile her sister makes way more and went to college and my mom didn't. Everyone feels bad for the person living there because he went to a war in germany (now age of 44) and has never really been normal since he came back. He tried to commit suicide but works and lives on his own now. Still it is not fair my mom is paying and she had no idea when her sister (who is a banker) did all this that she would be responsible for this.
2007-02-14 00:12:41 · update #3
The person to discuss this with is your mother.
How do you mean "put the house in their names"?
Did your grandma relinquish ownership, so are your aunt and mother co-owners and in what proportion, or are they just looking after the bills. Does your mom's brother pay rent? I would expect that he does, and if so who gets the rent. For all you know it is your mother.
Your mother is an adult, and as such is capable of both taking adult decisions and discussing things in an adult way.
Just ask her if she is happy with the house arrangements, express your fear that she is getting a raw deal and once she explains the set up, then maybe your worries will be settled.
2007-02-13 17:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Billybean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are taking advantage of your mother.
Why doesn't your mom talk with your grandma about selling the house? Then your grandma can have the money if she needs it and no one will have to pay the taxes. This will work unless your mom and aunt put the house in their names so that your grandma does not have any assets; this way the government would help pay for the expensive assisted living home. If this is the case, then that idea will not work. However your aunt and mom can still sell the house and split the money.
There is no way that your mother should be paying the taxes on that house. The one who is living there rent free is a bum and your aunt just wants to have nothing to do with it until it is time to inherit after your grandma dies.
Talk to your mom calmly about this. What if the house needs a new roof or furnace? Will they expect your mom to pay for this too? Point this out to her as she may not have thought about that possibility.
I don't blame you for being angry about it. Good luck to you and your mom and brother.
2007-02-13 21:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom has asked you to stay out of it, perhaps you should.
Did your mom not know that her brother would be living there Scot free? It seems your mother and aunt never discussed or came to an agreement that SHE alone would be paying the
tax bill. It also seems they let your uncle off the hook entirely.
IMO the best solution is for uncle to pay it...after all it is only 600 dollars a year!!!
Is she afraid to approach him?
Help your brother see the merit in getting good grades so he can win a scholarship to college.
Establish a fund whereby you can set aside even a few dollars a month to help your mom/brother with the tax bill and college.
I think your concern is legitimate but sometimes family cannot be reasonable and attempts to reason with them makes the situation worse.
I don't know the relationship between your grand mom/mother and her siblings.
Sometimes there is more to the story than what appears on surface.
it is often times the accumulation of family dynamics and karma that began decades ago. Consider that as she asks you to stay out of it.
You are a very considerate son
2007-02-13 18:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by creole lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but your mother is a grown woman and if she wants to stop being treaded a certain way the it really is up to her to stop it.
legally if the house is in two peoples name then the bill is to be paid by both people. The bills is usually sent right to the house.
Is this the only bill on the house. ? Is there a mortgage on the house.?
Why are they keeping the house anyway. Is your grandmother going to move back into the house someday.? If not why not have them just sell it or sign it over to the person living in the house.
2007-02-13 18:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The brother living in the house should pay the taxes on it.
2007-02-13 17:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy12oz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if there is someone renting the house they are not suppose to pay taxes but there are 2 owners of the house the taxes are suppose to be split
2007-02-13 23:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but your mother is allowing these people to take advantage of her. She needs to learn to fight her own battles and not back down.
2007-02-13 17:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋