In other words, what should I do about my newfound freedom?
2007-02-13 17:24:38 · 24 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I was you I would spend time nurturing and nourishing myself. Yoga is awesome for that and so is meditating. Here's a great link to Yoga Journal which has lots and lots of info: http://www.yogajournal.com
I would also want to do all the things that I felt I couldn't do with him around - eat the food you like that he didn't, watch tv shows he wouldn't want to watch, etc.
It concerns me that you said "what should I do ABOUT my newfound freedom" instead of "what should I do WITH my..." I had an aunt tell me when I was in my early 20s: Please don't get married until you have lived alone for at least 1 year. Learn to take care of yourself, enjoy your own company. Enjoy taking a shower at 2 am if you want to or not doing the dishes for a week - whatever - just rejoice in your freedom before you get married at it is gone forever.
Peace!
2007-02-13 17:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be estatic that it ended before it got even worse than it already may have. Count your blessings and try to learn a few things from it so that it doesn't happen again.
Perhaps buy a lottery ticket.
What others on here haven't been telling you is to be cautious for the next few weeks; he may come back, and he already knows a lot about you, including phone number and address, and probably a lot of your friends' as well.
The most serious way to hurt you is to hurt those you care about. I wouldn't go out alone for awhile, for fear that he could suddenly show up and become violent. I've seen it before and it's not a comfortable situation.
Go out and have a great time with your freedom, but be aware and guard it carefully; you know as well as anyone how quickly it can be taken away.
2007-02-13 17:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do nothing but take time for myself and re-evaluate what it is exactly that you want for yourself. Take the time to be by yourself and get to know you. Exercise because it is good for your energy level and self-esteem (basically a confidence builder)
when your ready to date again write down what you are looking for in a partner and also what you as person are entitled to and expect to get from your partner. Not materialistically speaking but emotionally and physically and never settle for less the first sign of that person not being what you are looking for move on. You will do both people (you & partner) a favor by doing this. Don't forget to get counseling if you feel thatis something you need. Sometimes an unbiased person that just listens does wonders.
GOODLUCK!!!!
2007-02-13 17:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by chneal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations my dear, now you can fly up to the sky. You have your true freedom with out a control freak around. Now it is about time to heel your psychology and emotionally. How you feel now that no one acts like you are his property? Well I urge you take a short trip and go shopping everyday. Remember you only live once and enjoy.
2007-02-13 17:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate!!! Enjoy life, go out with friends, flirt with guys just for fun. Spend some time getting to know yourself again and find out just what you want in a man. Don't rush into another relationship right away and keep in mind there are guys just like him who can see you coming and will try to put you back in the same situation.
2007-02-13 17:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do suggest counselling to start just to be sure you're free of the affects of the abuse you've sustained I know from personal exp the type of abuse you've gone through is actually harder to get over. I'm sure reading this you're saying I'm fine but take it from me when you least expect it those underlying affects are going to sneak up on you.
The other thing to do is CELEBRATE BABY!!!! Get your closest friends and have a night on the town!
2007-02-13 17:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by KitKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a shake girl...let out a good scream...now get on with your life.
It's just unfortunate that you had to word it that he LEFT you!!!!
Do not open that door again....Good Luck. The future can only be brighter.
Oh, here's a poem a friend sent...might help you....
May your troubles be less,
Your blessings more,
and may nothing but happiness come through your door.!!!
2007-02-13 17:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank your lucky stars that the a$$ is gone. Don't jump into any new relationships. Enjoy, relax, maybe go on a girls vacation. Be relieved and happy.
2016-05-24 08:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings and enjoy life.
Nobody should be in that type of relationship.
Spend some time alone (no boys) and relax. then go out and have a good time.
At least now you know everything you don't want in a relationship.
2007-02-13 17:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE FIRST THING IS TO SAY, THANK GOODNESS HE'S GONE. ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM FOR AS LONG AS YOU WANT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE PLENTY OF TIME TO FIND A MORE LOVING,GENTLE,CONSIDERATE,PARTNER. WHEN YOU FIND ANOTHER TRY NOT TO MAKE THE SAME CHOICE YOU DID IN THE FIRST PLACE.
2007-02-13 17:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋