My bf have told me I better stop before he leave me because I was getting an attitude for no reason at him. But considering our history I have had all I can take from him. He is not affectionate, doesn't tell me I am beautiful or anything, owe me about $2000 for me helping him get back on his feet, very stubborn, and doesn't want to accept anything I say. He feel that since he is working now that I will loose a "good" guy but at this point I dont really care to much for him. I am not happy anymore and I feel that he may realize it as well. Right now all he has to offer is his little $20-$60 every week and sex, other then that I dont need him. When we started dating he hide his cell, even now sometimes when he go out he is out for over 3 hours.But I am afraid that if I stop seeing him I will never get my money back, and I will be bored, I dont have any friends. What should I do???
2007-02-13 17:23:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wasn't clear it is not only money its my freakin credit, and I am currently unemployed so I am freakin out right now. Trying to get a job but no luck
2007-02-13 17:55:34 · update #1
Sounds like a match made in heaven. You're selling your future for $2000
2007-02-13 17:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem and your man has a problem too. TALK TO HIM.
When people don't love you the way you want them to, it doesn't mean that they don't love you. Would you want a guy who's affectionate and a smooth talker but cheat on you?
Are you saying you are staying with him in this relationship just cos you want to make sure your $2000 is back in your bank, have sex as and when you want and have someone whom you can call as a friend? I'm sorry but you sound so shallow.
Please! Get a life! Dump the guy and go meet some friends and have a new life! If he's a good guy, he'll return you the money fast enough if he can afford it.
2007-02-13 17:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only good for sex and pays you 20-60 bucks each week. Before that you were about the same for him.
You two are living together only because you don't have any other friends. Be good to other people and make new friends. You both will find better ways of living in future.
For the time being make a deal that you will be staying with him till he pays you back. Have sex if you want to, but won't it be a little slutty to have sex only because you want a c**k in you and not because you like that person.
2007-02-14 00:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by AnSID 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn grammar. Please. Kiss off the 2 grand. Everything now is good money after bad. Sex is either good, or great. You'll live without for a while, and you need to get your house in order. I'd say you need to completely reevaluate your reasons for having anything to do with the opposite sex. He's a gorilla on the day shift, perhaps with proper technique you could do better.
2007-02-13 17:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the money was a gift, then you're out the money, however, if it was understood to be a loan, then if he doesn't pay it back, it's actionable in small claims court, so take him to court. Don't stay with him even if he doesn't pay you back though, is the fact that you're not happy with him WORTH $2000???? I doubt it. Good luck.
2007-02-13 17:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me there's no problem with your attititude, maybe your bf 's attitude has problem rather.....what he felt for you is not love but security only.or its better to say his just using you for his own interest. His not worthy of your love.Dont worry with your money,what you must worry is yourself. Dont get pitty of yor relationship,instead learned lessons from it. He just making you fool.
Go away from him,before its not too late. As of this time focus on yourself finding work .Ask God for an assistance.Maybe his just giving you trials right now. You badly need HIm right now.Don't worry so much with your money,anyway if you can find new job you can have again some money and by that time use it wisely..okay?good luck to your jobseeking.
2007-02-13 18:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by naberey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the money its not worth being unhappy for such a long time,
he is just using you
he is a total bore
and i dont really think he can make you live your life in a meaningful way
he is a freeloader
and a user
if its just sex, you can always find someone who would love you and be there
as you say you dont really care about him so why are you still there
come on dont be a slave for that money
just go be happy
2007-02-13 17:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends, end the relationship and take him to small claims court for your money. Or you can stay and be miserable and treated like crap.
2007-02-13 17:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him... he's a ******* loser cuz he can't support you... i was once in the same kinda relationship... it sucked... because i thought that i was so happy because i was with him but we live in a dump and i came from a good family with good morals... so i got rid of him and he got engage to someone else 10months later and we dated for 2years... i got out of debt and live a good life... and men lines up to get my number... you deserve better... you should always be treated like a princess... if he can't afford afford himself... he can't afford a princess..,
2007-02-13 17:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by lilsw33tazn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just change your attitude
2007-02-13 17:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Thobie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋