I totally love how judgmental some people are?

Question

I am being sarcastic if you couldn't tell, I posted a question and some of the women who answered my question felt it would be fun to read my bio and in there I state that I am married and want to become a pediatric nurse/doctor. I posted a question about how could a single mother get a grant to go back to school. I am NOT married but I say that I am even in person I refer to my fiance as my husband just because I hate the judgmental looks and comments from people not only in person but on here for stating I am not married and have a child. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I am planning on getting married but here is my question why do people have to be rude when answering my question i mean some of them had no correlation to the question I asked. MY BET IS THAT SOME PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BE RUDE WHILE ANSWERING THIS AS WELL. All I asked was a simple question I wasn't looking for unneeded ridicule from people who don't know me.

I mean seriously people don't judge someone based on a freakin' bio I asked a question about how to obtain a grant because I want to start my schooling before I get married to become do medical transcription and then later on further my education what is wrong with that??

I totally understand and also know that there are harsher things in life. Yahoo answers is not my life but I do like coming on here for help or advice on some things, I don't however come on here to be judged by other people because I can have that done when I walk out my front door. I try to answer everyones questions in a polite manor and if I don't like the question I simply move onto another one, I don't sit there and put down or ridicule someone else. It was a simple question that didn't need to be taken to the level it had been taken to if you catch my drift.

Answer 1

Well, I will answer your original question.

If this is your first round of college - as in you didn't graduate from college before - then you will more than likely qualify for Pell Grants. Usually you get enough to cover your tuition and maybe a bit more, and you do NOT have to pay these back.

Also look for non- traditional student funds and scholarships. the exist all over the place. Usually there are some small ones sponsored by groups at the college

Answer 2

I understand where you are coming from. Especially if it's a serious question that is asked some people like to go through your previous questions and your bio to kind of feel out what kind of advice to give you based on the kind of person you are, they might not really have anything real to say. Sometimes they jump to conclusions based on what those questions say though, which isn't fair, because plenty of time, you can be asking something for a friend, just out of curiosity for what others' opinions are compared to yours, or just out of boredom so see what kinds of stupid answers you will get!!! I've had some woman call me either a liar, or a really messed up 15 year old because i posted something that a 15 year old said to me to illustrate a point. I am not the 15 year old, I am a 21 year old married mother of one, pregnant with my second and seriously just wanting to help people. But she jumped to the conclusion that i was lying about everything i ever said on here because i quoted someone else!! And what do you think that makes other people reading her response think? probably that they don't want to answer any more of my questions, or listen to any more of my real advice!!! NOT FAIR

Answer 3

I agree, I generally just answer the question. There are rude people on here yes and they can be very judgmental. I just offer my opinion. :) I've seen people asking questions that are fairly legitimate about pregnancy and someone tell them they should have used condoms or bc instead of just answering the question. Although, there have been a few questions like a person asking how to get pregnant and their questions states in nearly all of them they are 10 years old and then stating they are married and trying to have a child. But there I just tell them to stay in school and wait until you are able to handle the responsibility and also marriage. As for people and their relationship status etc, it is not my business. Most people in here are looking for answers not opinions that offer no help.

Answer 4

Nothing is wrong with wanting to further your education. Nothing is wrong if your not married to the father of your kids. I have been with my husband since i was 15 but we only recently got married (2-14-2006 Valentine's Day) and we are both now 27 years old with a 5 year old son.
I was not ashamed to not be married when i had my son. We always felt like we were married before we were married in the eyes of god.
I have had a few people judge me by what i have written on my Q&A page but i could care less what anyone says about me.

I didn't see your other question but there is nothing wrong in the two things you are referring too.
Good luck

Answer 5

I agree, and I think that some people just enjoy being rude, Like they are better than the rest of us. I honestly hope you have some better experiances, I too have gotten rude comments, about how I how I should teach my children that life's not always fair, when the question I'd asked wasn't even about my child! I think that they should just try to answer the question, and if the can't without saying something rude then keep it to them selves.

Good Luck w/ school!

Answer 6

I try very hard to answer questions sincerely without judging those who ask them if they appear to be sincere in their questions.

I sometimes nail people who are being snide, or sarcastic in their approach.

I haven't answered any of your previous questions, but I would try to avoid being rude, even if you were being sarcastic.

I've asked questions that were fairly straightforward, when I was seeking comfort or clarification. Some of the answers I've gotten were pretty snippy.

My feeling is that we should simply avoid questions we don't feel comfortable with them. I would rather not be judgmental.

I am not a perfect person so I am in no position to be rude or judgmental to anyone who is not coming from a starting position of trying to rankle people.

I can understand and sympathize with your complaint. Good luck and don't quit asking good questions.

Answer 7

Regardless of when you apply for the grant as soon as you get married you will have to inform the government and they will either reduce or cancel your grant based on your joint income. So you should look to see if you will still be able to do your desired course when this happens, so you don't have to drop out.

As to why people are being judgemental, I think it was more that you stated one thing in your question and when people felt for you and went to read your bio they found out you were different to your question so they got upset. Most likely some of the women who answered your question are actual single mothers with no other support so when you are asking how to get something when you have support would of been upsetting. I don't think they were judging you as an unmarried mother more the fact that you aren't technically a single mum with no other option but to receive benefits

Answer 8

Its So easy for me to tell you to...tell those folks to F**k off,but I can't because Im not in your shoes, but folks are very judgemental these days,WHY?? I don't have a clue,I'm 21yrs of age as well,in school...to better the lives of me and my children (expecting 2nd)...I knew folks were going to be judgemental about me,because im 21 and have a kid already,but they dont know.."that i pay my own bills", "live alone with my son","have a job", "and attend school",but the thing is these folks are going by what society says....they don't have a clue about what your personal life is about,they don't know Shyt about how hard or easy it was,for u 2 get where u are! I commend you,and I wish you well..

Answer 9

i totally understand. some people are just bored or havin a bad day and want to take it out on others especially since they could hide behind the computer. just ignore them. i suggest talking to the financial aid department at the school you want to attend and ask. or you can fill out the FAFSA, and send an application to the school you want and when the school receives it, they'll tell you how much financial aid you'll receive. it's all based on income so you never know. good luck!!!!

Answer 10

People are just ignorant! I read your last question too but I am unsure on the answer so I didn't answer it but I went back and read the other answers people gave you and some people just feel it necessary to put their 2 cents into something they know nothing about so just ignore them!!! Best of luck to you!