Females what would you do if your bf did this, Guys what are you actually doing if this was you.(updated)?

Question

Ok my bf left the house about 7 pm to go th H& R block to do his taxes and came back a little after 9 pm. I dont know I might be taking this to serious but that was a little to long to me. He said the lady didnt know what she was doing and it took long. I dont think it should take that long, no matter if somebody is having trouble doing it, and if they dont know I am pretty sure the company wouldn't leave them on there own and not fully train them in the process. But please reply, what do you think actually happened????? Serious answers only please.

If you need more info I am 20 and he is 21, dating for about a year. Yes I have trust issues but he doesn't show any affection, if he go out by himself its always 2 or more hours. I was told from some friends of mine there taxes took about 30min most, he had all his w2 and was the first person to be seen. So you tell me would it still take that long and I am not the kind of person to be snooping through his phone,

Once before I saw a naked pic of some girl on his phone and he tell me it was old. I couldn't be upset because we were just dating and he deleted it, but I just wat to be sure before this go any further.

Answer 1

if you do not trust each other then whats the point.leave

Answer 2

The naked girl on his phone is not a good sign.
It sounds like he's fooling around (Honestly)

2 hours at H&R Block is not unusual. Give hinm 15 minutes to and from your only left with 1 1/2 hours. If sombody was ahead of him for 15 or 20 minutes he would only have had an hour for the taxes.
Is he the gabby type? There aren't too many 20 yr old girls doing H&R taxes out there. If it was in a mall he could have done some window shopping etc..

I would be more worried about the phone picture. Even if it was a long time ago whay would he keep it? How old is the phone?
Are there numbers in the phone you don't recognize? etc tec

Answer 3

Without substantial evidence, all that you can do is speculate. Your boyfriend may be a cheat, or he may be a very considerate guy, who struggles showing off his feelings. And while, you should be on guard for any time that he may mistreat you, you should for the most part, trust your boyfriend. Try to leave the worst case scenario as the last option for what he might be doing. There is definitely a lack of communication. Maybe his tax thing took a while, maybe it didn't, you don't know that it did or not. He could have stopped off at an old friends house for a beer or something. If you worry, just ask him if you could call him on his cell periodically to say hi, or just say, that you like to hear from him. I hope that is of some help.

Answer 4

In the 2 hours he was gone, did you allow for the time it took him to drive to H&R Block, find a parking spot and then drive back home afterwards. It is also possible that it took a long time to do the taxes, places like H&R Block hire people specifically for tax season and give them a crash course on doing the taxes, since the computer does most the work, the training isn't as complete as it should be. Unless you have had other problems with him cheating, I wouldn't worry to much about this.

Answer 5

You just answered your own question. If you have trust issues, then you have the problem. Why are you timing a grown man on how long it takes to get his taxes done. Also, why are you going through his phone? That is a total disregard for someones privacy. You need some counseling. If you don't have trust, then you don't have a relationship. I'm sure that you wouldn't want to be treated like a little child like you are doing to him. Until you catch him in the act, then give him a chance. If you keep acting like this, he will leave you for some one better. And I wouldn't blame him.

Answer 6

There is alot wrong with this situation. You seem to be insecure and he is just feeding into that. You have to ask youself at the end of the day if it is worth all the headache. Are you better off with him or without him. Analyze your relationship and see where the benefit is for you. Don't be afraid to take it as a learning experience and walk away or stay and work things out. Just do what is healthy for you. My best way of analyzing situations is to pretend that my best friend is telling me the same story but just about her and her bf and see how I would react. It might sound cliche but you need to step outside the box and look from the outside in.

Answer 7

Does he give you reason to think otherwise or are you just paranoid? It may take that long depending on what they had to do. I mean i've waiting in line at mcdonalds for a half an hour. It may have just taken that long. If you dont trust him or can't get over the fact that he might cheat on you, move on break up and stop stressing. If he isn't affectionate like you want him to be, then break up.

Answer 8

Sounds like your boyfriend has a life outside of you but thinks he has to lie because you are too pushy?

I was in a relationship for three years and the girl I was dating would interrogate me about everything. All I wanted was space and away time but I could not tell her that because she would think I was cheating. I later found that I shouldn't date girls with trust issues cause they never get better.

Answer 9

Trust is a serious issue, if you can't trust him there isn't really a relationship there. I know it's hard especially after a year but you really need to take time and evaluate the situation. Hope it works out for the best!!

Answer 10

You need to re-think the relationship if it worries you to the point you need to post this question and what kind of relationship do you have if he disappears for 2 hours at a time, doesn't show affection and you have trust issues ?

Answer 11

I think before you totally lose trust, you should discuss your feelings with him. Maybe he will be able to reassure you . If he is not willing to discuss things with you then its not worth your time. To be in a relationship you have to trust the person or your just beating your head against the wall because so many things come up that require trust.