Me and my boyfriend have gone out for a month today (valentines day...ugh)...the thing is, one night I was drunk and he said he loved me and i felt obligated to say it back...and now he says it all the time so I can't help but respond with the same thing....the thing is...I don't like being held down...I like him ALOT...he's the first boyfriend that I actually have feelings for...but I really don't know what to do...can any of you give me some advice as to what you would do if you were in this situation?
2007-02-13 16:33:54 · 14 answers · asked by croutonboi1204 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to be honest with him
2007-02-13 16:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree be honest .. but not just to him but to your self .. I bet its making you unhappy, so do something about. Yes i know its valentines day but u have to sit him down and explain to him how you feel. Tell him that you do like him alot but u feel as if things are going just a bit to fast and u need them to slow down, if you both still want the relationship to move forward.
Dont continue things how they are, the longer you leave it the worst things will get and be and the more unhappier you'll get. Dont try and stay or tell him u love him to make him happy because u have to remember YOU'RE the main person you have to keep happy and do what you want, your feelings should always be number one to you.
Good Luck
2007-02-13 16:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by channy_simon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are feeling smothered by his insecurity.
You may tell him how you feel or something like :"I enjoy being with you and I have feelings for you, so I must be honest with you and confess that I am tired of hearing you say 'I love you' all the time. When I hear it, what I hear you saying is 'please say you love me back.' I know you love me and you are the first guy I actually have feelings for. I need for us to just be and to experience our time together in the moment and not be constantly reassuring each other of our love. Insecurity is unsexy."
I would say something like that.
Kind regards
2007-02-13 16:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you honestly didn't love him back then you shouldn't of said anything truthfully. if you like him alot then there should be no doubts at all. a month is too early to be saying i love you and it should be at least a year or more before that stuff. you both like each other and keep it like that.
2007-02-13 16:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. Well, it's hard to not say it back when someone says it. I honestly don't know what to tell you except to go with your heart. If you like him and want to stay with him then do it. Maybe you can talk to hima bout how you are feeling.
2007-02-13 16:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao after a month if u cnt handle it then u aint ready to be in a committed relationship...... u gotta be ready to give your everything... i been with my man for two yrs n i cant even begin to tell u how much i gave up for him...maybe u just need to stay single until u can be committed.... im not trying to sound mean about it.... im just tellin u how it is...
2007-02-13 16:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by 07Navy_Linnie17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need advice,here is your chance to be original.First you have the edge because,he likes you more ,so set the scene the way you want.Tell him how it is,how you want things to be.
2007-02-13 16:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont string him along tell him you like him but you are not enlove because you, will hurt him if you keep on saying i love you and dont mean it.you at least owe him that much.
2007-02-13 16:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about it - if he really loves you then he will understand
2007-02-13 16:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep.Be honest.He's moving too fast for you.Just tell him.
2007-02-13 16:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by noname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋