Toddler crying non stop in pre school?

Question

My toddler is 3 years old. She went to a family care from 8 months till a few weeks ago.

We put her in a bigger day care early January so she would get used to other kids in a bigger environment. She cried each day in the daycare and would not sleep. After lots of complaints from her preschool, we felt that it was not the right environment for her.

We found a smaller montessori with a much lower student teacher ratio and put her in for a half day programme. It has been one and half weeks in the new montessori. Her caregivers say that she is crying non stop and wants to go home. She is very adamant and won't listen to them nor would participate in any activity.

Today I was told that unless my toddler stops crying within the next week, we will have to withdraw my toddler from the montessori.

When I ask my toddler why she cries in montessori, she says she is afraid.

How do I help her? Is she not ready for pre school yet? What should I do?

Answer 1

I would stop and check at the school to see what is happening when you are not there (probably nothing but it will easy your mind). I would give her something special of yours to have while she is at school and when she gets picked up she can give it to you and get it back tomorrow when she goes to school. She could be scared that she is going to be left. I would keep asking her the question of why she does not like school and why she is crying and keep telling her she is mommy's big girl and big girls go to school. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

Hi. I am a toddler Montessori teacher who has been teaching toddlers for 9 years now. Although your situation may be causing you and your child great distress at the moment, I must reassure you that it is completely normal. Depending upon your child's earliest experiences with attachment, you may find that she does not feel secure when left alone. Children develop different styles of attachment based on experiences and interactions with their caregivers. Four different attachment styles have been identified in children: secure, anxious-ambivalent, anxious-avoidant, and disorganized. Attachment theory has become the dominant theory used today in the study of infant and toddler behavior and in the fields of infant mental health, treatment of children, and related fields.
The caregivers in your child's current school should have some basic knowledge of this, seeing that they should be schooled in early child development. The fact that they have been neglectful in overlooking the probable causes of your child's distress and demand immediate action for a dilemma that can only be overcome through diligent patience and understanding...makes me think that this is probably not a place you want your child to be anyhow.
In the meantime, there are ways that you can help your child. First of all understand that your daughter probably can't tell you why she is crying all day. Toddlers cannot logically assess their emotions like adults can. On the other hand,they need their feelings to be validated. Their feelings are real to them, even if they seem absurd to you. No amount of bribing them is going to change the way they feel. Say, " I understand that you feel afraid when you are at school, but you are safe there".

When you bring your child to school in the morning, try to keep the mood positive and upbeat, without being overbearing about how much fun school is. This may cause anxiety for her. Also be very aware of your own feelings of guilt and anxiety. Toddlers are very sensitive to our emotions and will often react to them. If you want her to feel good about going to school, you must also feel good about it.

The school should have a consistent daily schedule, tell your daughter the schedule. Let her know which activity you will be there to pick her up after. For example, if circle time is the last activity before dismissal, tell her, "Mommy has to go to work now and i will pick you up after circle time". Only through repeating this cycle consistently on a daily basis will your child come to trust that when you leave you will return and she is safe when you are not there.
But honestly, 1.5 weeks for a half day program is not really alot of adjustment time, some children take months to make a secure transition and there is nothing wrong with that. I would seriously recommend that you look into finding a different school for your child. She's worth it.

Answer 3

If it is your daughters first time in a accepted ecosystem then she is going through a large substitute. It also feels like perhaps she has a personality that has a troublesome time switching from one interest to the subsequent to boot so at the same time as they ask her to do some thing she would not understand the thanks to react. Do the instructors enable her understand perhaps 5 minutes in the previous a substitute or they want her to do some thing a reminder (inclusive of in 5 minutes we will want you to p.c.. up?) also, she would no longer be waiting for a accepted ecosystem like pre-college yet and it is how she is talking it to her mom and father. Is there a fashion pre-college hours would properly be decrease again a touch? from time to time transition takes a lengthy time period exceptionally if it is her first time.

Answer 4

Hi, My kid also went through the same problem and we suffered a lot because of this. Then we tried changing the pre-school and we opted for Eurokids. Now my kid is very happy to go to school.
Try changing the pre school that might work

Answer 5

Poor little thing, probably since you've had her in a home based care situation since she was 8 months old, she would think that she actually has two mommys. Changing her environment, although sensible in the big picture, has upended her little world and she's probably at a complete loss as to what's going on??? Don't forget, At 3 years old she's still going through the stage where she thinks everybody was put on earth specifically to serve her, you know, she's the centre of the universe. My 5 year old is having much the same problem at the moment. He's just started School and, as we've just moved States, he refused point blank to go to pre-school last year when we arrived. He was disoriented and out of his routine, so, stupidly, I let it go. FOR THE WHOLE YEAR !!!! I know, really foolish, but last year was a big stressy year for us. Anyways, now I'm paying for it cos he cries his little heart out now every morning when I drop him at School. However, last week, after just over a week at school I came up with a good idea. I gave him a photo of me and daddy and put it in a plastic lunch bag and wrapped it in tape so he could just look at it anytime he missed me. He puts it in his back pocket and says to me, "Now when the sad feelings come mummy, I know that you're in my pocket with me and I can just get the picture and smile!!!". Sooooooooooo, he still cries but only like for 2 minutes, not 200 minutes !! Just like a security blanket........ maybe that's all your little one needs???




PEACE & LOVE & ALL THAT

Answer 6

apparently it cant be the places you sent her to. maybe its that she was use to the family one and everybody there. 1st you need to observe not letting her see you at the place and see whats going on. she might be shy and scared to let the others know how she feel and wants. maybe you can introduce some of the kids to your kid to sort of break the ice or have some play dates set up with other moms in the class so the kids can become friends . its also cause that there are more kids in these other places than at the family care one so she is not use to it.

Answer 7

my nephew did the same think what i did with him was i would go with him and help out with the teacher and introduce him to each child (there was 15 children) and it took about a week and each day i would tell him he is a big boy and all the kids like him so much but i cant go any more becase i had to go to work so i could buy him toys and food. after we would go home i would go over the people he met and wat he liked and if he disliked any thing about them after a week i went to the toy store with him let him pick out a gift and we put it on top of the tv and i told him every day he crys he cant have it but if he is good for a week with out me it was all his. was alot of work but it was worth it. he is now well ajusted 8 year old.

Answer 8

take her home and stay with her if you can. otherwise hire a nanny to stay with her at home.shes probably not ready.