Hes been telling me for the longest that he was over his ex and it was all about me. Even though its all about me he does not want to rush into a relationship just yet. I respected that b/c I dont want to be the rebound. His feelings for me would make it easier to get over her. I thought... He says she knows about me. This wkend she paid him a SURPRISE visit, and she stayed in his room for the wkend. In his bed, the same bed I was in Friday morning! I always try to cater to him...I really liked him. Is the only reason why I did not go down and meet the girl. I dont care about her and dont want any trouble...but to see his reaction and finally get the truth. If its true she knows about me, I feel she came to step on my territory and mark hers...anyway. Hes playing the both of us, and Im mad I did not take my chance to see her. Hes been calling me. I know just to give a lame excuse for ditching me. Ill forgive him but never trust him again...
2007-02-13 16:31:59 · 12 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
even so...Im thinking to play it off like everything is fine...go into his phone after a while, get her number, and finally talk. Which is obviously what he did NOT want. I feel like I will be taking control, doing what I want, and the unexpected...hell no Im not putting up with his lies and crap anymore no matter if it hurts him. He does everything he can to get what he wants...why cant I? is it worth it, Im sure shed like to speak tome too. No truble just want the truth...
2007-02-13 16:34:48 · update #1
no I never accepted or wanted to be the other woman. i always wanted to be number one. I said the other woman to grab attention and b/c I feel thats how HE designated me for this wkend. Which is hurtful. I just want to be in control for once, I know Ill feel better talking to her as a mature young lady. Shouldnt she know if shes being played too?
2007-02-13 16:42:18 · update #2
LOL. It's not over between him and her. She probably doesn't even know about you. He's a lowlife. I don't have much respect for anybody who calls themself the "other woman" either. Perhaps you both deserve each other.
2007-02-13 16:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not worth it girl trust me move on now & save yourself months or even years of headaches & heart aches. I have gone through the same things maybe even worse recently and he just called me an hour ago similar situation. Best to make a clean break once a cheater and a lose always one believe me.He just doesn't care about you.Find someone who does,there is much better out there don't waste you time & or energy on a loser,why hurt yourself you see he moves on quick just like the guy I was dating.
Oprah says it best"When someone shows you who they really are the first time believe them!"
Most people hardly change much,if he does it's only for a lil while.Run fast,why hurt yourself he's not in any pain,he's knee deep in another chick,he's just nasty.
2007-02-14 00:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by "Angel" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's worth your time. First of all, he lied to you. A major no-no. If he does end up with you, what if he does the exact same thing again, this time with another woman? He may seem sorry and all that, but usually guys never learn fromt their lessons. I think you can find someone better. The fact that you said that you can never trust him again is a big flashing sign that say this relationship may not be going anywhere. Without trust, there is no long relationship. Good luck, and I hope you find someone who treats you right!
2007-02-14 00:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by CS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have, especially if he's sharing his bed with another woman. I was in the situation a year ago like that when my then current boyfriend had his "ex" room with him in his apartment and they were sharing a bed come to find out, and he had his own bed. I dumped him for that plus many other reasons. You should have so you can get a genuine expression from him, but also his ex because he may have told her things as well.
If you answer his phone calls, be honest with him. You can at least give him that, even if he is not being honest with you.
or...
Tell him now you want to meet her!
2007-02-14 00:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Blanca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, girl, have some self-respect. What would you solve by talking to her? He's a cad; neither of you should give a damn about him.
Don't answer his phone calls, don't go see him to get her number. Walk away with your head held high. Do NOT stoop to his level. He'd probably love the drama of having 2 women talking and fighting over him. DON'T DO IT!!!!
You are smarter and better than that. You deserve better. Don't lower yourself to prove a point; he won't get it anyway.
Find someone who deserves you.
2007-02-14 00:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My gosh--why all the drama? Find someone who shows you the respect you deserve. He is not worth it, and don't lower yourself to his level. Ask yourself why you are in such a relationship. Where is your self-esteem? This is not the way to find a soul mate for life.
2007-02-14 00:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth it? is that your question? If that is the case then no. I mean how could you have a real relationship with someone you cannot trust. He clearly can't be trusted so why bother.
2007-02-14 00:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by thatoneguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All three of you are sick. Take Jerry Springer's call on line 2.
2007-02-14 00:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he won't leave her. Why would he, he has both of you. You should ruin his game, get mad and get even.
Maybe he'll think twice before he does this again.
2007-02-14 00:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Im_miss_world 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have went down there and got in bed with them both. Then introduced yourself. Why not.
2007-02-14 00:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋