a tin can and rubbed himself on the cheek with it to cut himself out of frustration right in front of me! I told him he'd better leave and he has now. What the hell was that about? We've had arguments before but I've never seen behaviour like this. Is he a psycho???
2007-02-13 16:23:52 · 26 answers · asked by sweet_leaf 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No he is not psycho, just was not able to express his frustration with you over whatever you were arguing about and to help alleviate some of that pressure and stress,he self injured himself. It's no different then the cutting teen girls often do to left out unbearable pressure from feelings they have no outlet to express. he needs to consider therapy to learn better ways of articulating his feelings
2007-02-13 19:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by WENDY S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he was prob very frustrated as you said, therefore hurting himself instead of you. But you don't want that next time to be you, so have a talk to him. Leave it till tomorrow untill he has cooled down and explain to him that, that behaviour isn't acceptable. If he is angry with you tell him he can tell you and you will listen to him and not shout and carry on. And see how that will work if he continues to be that way I would leave the friendship, I mean you don't know if next time he may cut you like I said before.
2007-02-13 16:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any kind of self-inflicted wounds need to be taken seriously. Firstly, talk to your friend and make sure everything is OK; Try to cheer him up, and most importantly tell him that hurting himself should never be resorted to. If he wants to prove his point, doing that will onyl scare people away. Tell him that you are consoling him not because you are scared for yourself but that you just dont want him to get hurt. Also do explain to him that hurting himself will scare others away, as often people perform such an act in order to get what they want.
Next, seek professional help. It may seem like everything is under control, and unless you are 100% certain that your friend completely overreacted and knows it AND refuses to do it ever again, you must seek help. Even if you have the slightest feeling that what he did might happen again, get help. A life is not worth risking for.
2007-02-13 16:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by vito b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This type of behavior is usually kept secret. If you've both have been drinking alcohol, and doing any other type of substance, it was triggered by this. Only you know, and remember there are 2 sides of the story. Yours, and his??, maybe you don't know him as well as you thought.
If you value your best friend call him back as soon as you can, and talk to him. No, he's not psycho most probably, but has some issues for sure. Remember, he inflicted pain on himself, not you. Don't shun him now, he's probably embarrassed by now, and may clam-up and never talk to you about it.
Please , at least call him right now. Thanks!
2007-02-13 18:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw, he's not psycho... i consider myself to be fairly normal but if i get extreemly frustrated instead of hurting somebody very close to me who made me mad either on purpose or accidently, i used to cut myself kinda like the jesus on the cross thing: ok, i'll take the pain this time but next time u will feel the pain. its kind of like an extreme warning. i wouldnt do that in an argument with a female or a kind of close male friend. this friend would have to be extrememly close to me and would have had to have known better.
2007-02-14 04:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Donovan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some serious mental health problems and he needs help. If this is something you have never seen before, I would really be concerned. There could be something seriously wrong and you do not know what he is capable of doing as far as harming himself and/or others. I would really try to monitor this and check on him, without freaking him out, ASAP!
2007-02-13 16:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnsmart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People go this far only if some loved ones hurt them badly. Maybe he trust you a lot and was not expecting you to behave in the manner you behaved with him. Talk to him and try to solve the problem before he really turn out to be a sycho.
2007-02-14 00:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by smartboy231 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
frustration. when some people get frustrated they do things they normally wouldn't do. it is basically a subconscense reaction to stimuli in the brain. they don't realize it when they do it. it takes a while for them to notice. but he is not psycho. he may have some emotional problems that you don't know about.
2007-02-14 03:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by liznjames_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, if that's the result of your argument, you better refrain from creating another one. Better think before you speak. I hope you can manage to handle his case. If you will keep on fighting with him, soon enough, you will see the effects of your future arguments. Try to put yourself in his shoes to see a clearer view of the situation.
But since today is Valentine's Day, try to make peace with him, OK?
Have a nice day. GOD BLESS THE CHILD.
2007-02-13 17:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he going through a lot of problems right now? When some people cant take stuff anymore after it just keeps piling up they go to hurting themselves and others he might need help.
2007-02-13 16:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by Heather F 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋