So this man that i have been friends with benefits for the last 5 months is starting to act really werid.. i try to talk to him, and i asked him if he still wanted to continue with the relationship and he won't say anything. He told me that he likes to think things over before he makes a decision but i just want answers and he won't give them to me. In the beginning of jan i found out that he actually had been in a serious relationship the whole time but didn't tell me.. I found out because some else told me.. ever since i did find out, he has been acting completly opposite from before. We barely talk, didn't see each other for a month, ect. It has been really hard for me because i care for him, but knowing that he is going home to someone else hurts. and i haven't seen anyone since the beginning. I don't want to play his games if he isn't interested anymore, but he won't tell me anything!! what do i do with someone that won't communicate?? Please help!!!
2007-02-13 16:16:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want anyting with him rather than the sex.. I don't want a relationship, my feelings for him are just as a person, nothing serious
2007-02-13 16:30:46 · update #1
well this is pretty complicated. if you've told him how you feel and he's not responding, it's more than likely because he's stalling. he doesn't want anything to change and now that you know he's serious with someone else, he's stuck in a corner now. he knows now that he can't go on acting like this. my best advice is, if he doesn't respond and talk to you, kick him to the curb. you aren't the only person being hurt. there's now a third person and i bet that third person has no clue about you and would be really upset.
he's really playing both of you as the fools and enjoying every minute of it.
2007-02-13 16:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by fallayna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously got attached in a way that was beyond the parameters of what a friend with benefits is supposed to be. He said he didn't want to complicate things between u two and he said he didn't want to upset you. If you really like him as a friend, just be a friend. If you can't just be friends, and you want more and he doesn't than you can't be friends. If you're going to be friends with benefits the sex part is meant to be unattached/unemotionally committed sex. You obviously latched on and wanted more. That prolly made him push back from the 'with benefits' part. He seems to still be open to being friends. Be honest with your feelings. He should have been upfront with you yes, but you have understood more fully the terms between two people in these types of arrangements. Most people really just can't be friends with benefits. You seem like you do want something more. So if you can't handle the casualness, hold out and find someone who will want to work on something more with you with both of you on that same understanding.
2016-05-24 08:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, you don't want to play his games if he isn't interested anymore? You barely talk, you didn't see each other for a month, he won't say anything. HE ISN'T INTERESTED!!
He's in a serious relationship. Maybe he's decided to act like an honorable man and be faithful to his serious relationship, as he should be. Sounds like he's made his decision and you're out in the cold. Move on. You deserve someone who wants YOU as his serious relationship and who won't cheat on you.
2007-02-13 16:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ought to get over this guy very quickly. I know it is hard but the sooner you start the sooner it will be part of your pass. I am not sure what "benefits" happens to be. Is that "a friend with privileges"? I assume he has personal benefits with you. Ask yourself: Why would he come back? He has it both ways now, you are available as his toy. Good luck
2007-02-13 16:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so here is what I see is your main problem:
You fell for him when he was supposed to be just a friend, ignore the benefits. Asking him if he wants to continue your relationship tells him the same.
It seems to me like he feels his relationship with mystery woman is priority to him if he has been ignoring you. So just MOVE ON.
2007-02-13 16:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS A CHANCE HE CARES ABOUT YOU AND THE GIRL HE IS SEEING. THAT'S A PROBLEM.FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS IS ALWAYS A PROBLEM AND THIS MAKES IT MORE SO. GIVE HIM TIME TO THINK IT OUT. IT'S ALOT TO THINK ABOUT. I SUGGEST YOU STOP THIS... WHAT IF HE CONTINUES TO SEE YOU AND THIS GIRL. IT COULD ONLY END UP BAD. ALSO HE IS A CHEATER......DO YOU WANT THAT IN A GUY? PLEASE THINK HARD ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU MAKE ANY DECISION ABOUT THIS GUY. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-13 16:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by tatyana17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say but that what friends with benefits is, is not
committed to you, we get together when what ever. and that
'what he want and since he with someone else. he has no
plan to dea with this one way or another but if you are looking
for more then you need to be honest with him or time to
move on.
2007-02-13 16:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be careful who you sleep with. He just wanted a lay. Sorry, but you got used. Move on.
2007-02-13 16:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by indieforcutie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's really using you. Time for you to move on.
2007-02-13 16:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. FRIENDS w/benefits.
Key Word FRIENDS.
your getting attached and he is fleeing.
The End.
Move on.
2007-02-13 16:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by ThePurebred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋