Is it okay for a lady to pay the bill on a date?

Answer 1

of course its okay if its that he lets you but its a really nice feeling when a girl tries to pay because it shows that shes not just into the money

Answer 2

YES, absolutely...not because of women's lib, modernism and all that but it really gives a lady a chance to watch, observe and see how the guy handles this...

I am 41, been out of the singles scene for over 14 or so years, but "paying the bill on a date" usually means dinner...I learned one Italian aria "una furtiva lagrima" and got to where I could sing it well...and I avoided the "dinner date" altogether, it got me married...but in the cases where I was doing a dinner and a date, I do believe there was always this looming expectation of "well, I paid my dues now...about getting laid?"...yeah, I am guy, sure, love sex but there is something to be said about restraint too...it is like listening to a really great rock guitarist play a simple song well...without all the frills but more with the subleties....because, sure, he could thrash the daylights out of a song, but there is a finesse and a class to playing with restraint....

it is an odd comparison maybe, but I believe the ole "I paid for dinner, I am in control" thing is still in the back of many guys' heads...not paying for it might allow more honesty on the table...not in what is said...but on how it is all taken in...

and for that matter, the dinner date is a safe way to put your best foot forward, but it is a little vanilla considering that there are so many things two people can do in an exciting and amazing way to make the most of their time together seeing what each other likes and so forth...without the sex and the stress of control...

I never let my wife pay for dinner though...however, in hind sight, I believe things would had evolved without the awkwardness had I allowed it to happen and it was offered...too, there is a little bit of swooning to be had for a man being a "pat gentleman" but it is trite and overused...sometimes you can go to an amusement park and really find out what the other person is like more by how much or little their inner child or just joy lust comes out...it is a conversation without practice or words...closer to what the person is or is not.

pay the bill on the date...make nothing of it...but take control and make it so...then, watch...listen...you can hear both security and insecurity check in quickly after taking such an initiative as that..and especially if it turns out that it was part of "the game" or not...

Answer 3

Without a fight, depends on if it is your first date or you have been with him for a long time.

My Girlfriend and I change from day to day, depends on where we go and what we are doing for the day, Like she'll pay for lunch and I pay for the movies, things like that....

Depends on why you are paying the bill also, if he is short on cash (I wouldn't go out if I was short on cash) or if the bill was more than he had, there are various reasons.

Maybe you wanted to pay the bill. and there was no other reason around it, that would be OK. But don't let it happen too much cause he'd think that you'll get the bill all the time.

Good luck, I hope this helps..

God Bless

Answer 4

It's more than ok. From a guys perspective its encouraged that women offer to pay for certain outing. Why wouldn't u? Is the fact that u are a woman an excuse for u to expect ur man to financially support u in certain areas. NO! To have a real equality based relationship, u need to give up those types of gender expectations and roles and be willing to do whatever u expect ur mate to do. Ur on the right track. It's good to hear that some women are starting to take that step.

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with it if you are Okay with it. Although I prefer it when the guy pays. One date I had didn't have enough money so I had to pay for the meal. He didn't seem at all embarrassed by it. We only went out a couple times after that and I paid for one of those times again. We haven't gone out since.

Answer 6

Yesd sometimes it is , but he should be the one for the most part. Don't make it s habbit to pay so he don't take advantage.of your kindness, it should be a 50/50 sometimes u can pay but make sure u are not the only one always footing the bill. Watch out & make sure he is not a user looking for a new mother

Answer 7

yeah i love it when the lady does that, especially when she takes control of everything. Like how she treats me like a little kid and asks me when i want to have sex and when i want to eat and have my juice, etc. I love that. Its so cool to have someone take care of you.

Actually I take that back, but I love it when the girl is so easygoing about everything, like if you want to do something, then shes ok with it, and if she wants to do something, then your ok with it. If you want to pay the bill, then he can pay next time. I like good communication and equality and mutual understanding. I like it when theres not ackwardness and both people know where the relationship stands.

Answer 8

Absolutely, as long as you aren't paying the bill every time i don't see why it would be a problem unless your man is very controlling then is might cause a issue.

Answer 9

Usually, etiquette calls for whoever did the inviting to pay the total. However, when the bill comes, it would be polite for the invited party to offer to pay their half.

Answer 10

i say yes
the first date i still have to go with the guy paying but after a few you dont want to put someone in the broke house what i do when i go out one weekend he pays the next i pay it works out an we both do not go broke