My Hubby and I have been together for 23 years. Separated for 1 year.. He is mean and abrusive. No little ones involved. He calls me each morning and wishing me a great day. He invited me out for Valentines Day.. Should i go or just work my day away? And call it a day.
2007-02-13 15:33:11 · 9 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not unless he's had a ton of counsleing. If not, then no.
2007-02-13 15:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Goodbye 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to be tough and seperate your self from him. If you have been with him for that long then what makes you think hes going to change now? Hes being nice now until he gets you back and feels control again. Dont do it!!! You are worth having happiness and not being abused by anyone. Think of YOU, because you are the most important person, and if he thought the same then he wouldnt have lost you to begin with. Remember you left him for a reason. Be strong. Dont let your self go out with him just because of a silly holiday like Valentines, its just any other day.
PS I think counselling wont help.
2007-02-13 23:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by alex77055 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easy to say some thing funny here.....but....I think this calls for serious thought and advice. You stated he was abusive. Red flags going up all over the place. Unless you know more than you stated in your question....I'd say call it a day.
P.S. I have to add that in the back of my mind I'm thinking, is he being nice to get you back so he can pick up where he left off ?
2007-02-13 23:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say fatal attraction? You ask my opinion, I'll give it to you double barrel.No-No-No.There is little to no chance that he will ever be better.My sisters husband shot and killed their 22 year old son in front of her,after 27 years of abusive behavior to her and her children. My best friends boyfriend shot and killed her after several years of off and on fighting. Run and don't look back. You have the choice if you just take it.Don't be a fool,it will cause awful pain to all who love you when he kills you...
2007-02-13 23:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by butternut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guestion I want to ask is, * How were you when the end of that 23 yr relationship finaly ended and the abuse was over ? * If you were battered and bruesed, not just body wise but all the other ways too, and it was hard to heal, WHY would you take the chance of getting sucked back into it all ?????? But, the choice is YOURS ....... God bless
2007-02-13 23:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and only you know this man too well . Has he any saving graces---does not sound so run away there are nice people around you give them a chance by no longer accepting his interference
2007-02-13 23:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's mean and abusive yet he calls you every morning...sounds bi-polar or something. Unless he tells you he is getting help (counseling) for his abusiveness, I wouldn't go. You'd just be setting yourself up for problems.
2007-02-14 00:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would be a little bit difficult for me to decide as well seeing as how he may have changed and it's just a night out it doesn't mean that you're going to bring him home or go home with him.
If he has had counseling and you have seen progress on his side then sure go out with him but if you tell him you have to think about it or that you're not 100% sure you should and he flips out then HECK NO!
2007-02-13 23:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by dr_mctwitch 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he hits you...or has hit you ..no...and if you really want to wark things out...then tell him he needs counciling or something...Make him work his way back into your world....Just because he phones and is nice doesn't mean he always will be....so no don't go out with him...He needs to prove he has changed....
2007-02-13 23:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by beans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋