so...he is like my brother! he knows everything about me andwe are so close! well he was recently busted for selling drugs and he has severly changed! he doesnt smoke any more, he has a full time job, while going to college, he lives with his mom!
well...since we are so close i want to spend prom with him and my mom is flipping out! i mean...she knows him enough to know that if he could protect me from everything on earth he would. but she doenstl ike that he has been to jail!
the thing is that he has never put me into any danger or a situation were i feel uncomfortable! i dont want to spend prom with anyone else.
should my mom be flipping out?
2007-02-13 15:29:17 · 20 answers · asked by Niko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just ditch him!!!!!
2007-02-13 15:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fiona 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He needs to spend more time with you and your mom, then you guys can sit down and talk honestly about his past and the possibility of prom (all THREE of you ). If he is unwilling to do that (which is a simple request) run away from the guy , now ! Your mom loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt. She has intuition about this guy already.
Also if he was "recently" busted for selling drugs, and he hasn't gone to court yet , he is on his best behavior before the court date. There may be prison time yet, here, dear.
You need to give your relationship time before YOU decide if he has turned his life around, that could be over a year.
Just don't sleep with him for heaven's sake, your head will go all crazy for him.
2007-02-13 15:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were my daughter you'd find someone else to go with or you wouldn't be attending the prom period. But, that's just the way it is with me and my daughters.
It would not matter to me that the dude has changed. Drug dealers and users (losers) 99% of the time revert back to thier old habits and behaviors.
Having been a drug dealer i'm sure he's made some enemies over a period of time. Maybe with former customers, or other drug dealers. You don't know what could happen.
I think you'll go to the prom regardless of what your mother thinks, says, or does. But you might want to invest in some body armor as it's become a trend for gang bangers to show up at proms, dances, and school activities and just start randomly shooting people.
2007-02-13 15:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mom does have the right to get off the handle a little bit because you are her baby no matter how you see it. But she also doesn't really understand the relationship you have w/ this guy probably.
Just sit her down and talk to her calmly and adult like and tell her that the fact that he has been to jail doesn't bother you and he's changed so much so she should just calm down about it.
She really doesn't have much right to say who you can take to the prom. She does, however, have the right to not let you go and to make sure that the faculty does not let him in the building with you. Just bring him around your mom when you sit her down for the chat and let her hear his side of all of it.
2007-02-13 15:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by dr_mctwitch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your Mom's concern, but if he changed like you said, how come your Mother is not aware of it.If she sees that he's changed for the better, she might be willing to give him a chance.I believe everybody deserves to have another chance in life. And if they mess that up then their pretty much on their own.But from what you say, he made a mistake, maybe from hanging around the wrong people and places.And it seems that he learned his lesson,and don't want to visit jail again. So try talking to your Mom and explain to her how he's changed and what he's doing with his self, maybe if you talk to her she'll be willing to let you go to prom with him.Sometimes parents see one side to a situation, but if your willing to have an honest relationship with them you might be surprised with their reaction. Good luck
2007-02-13 15:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of parents have closed minded views about people who have been to jail. To most parents someone who has been to jail will never change and will always be bad. I believe that going to jail even just for one night can acctually change people in the right direction. I also went to jail for selling drugs and it made me realize how stupid i was for doing that and it change my life for the better. i havent had drugs on me since the day i was arrested. also im attending college.
2007-02-13 15:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly understand your mom's point of view - remember all she ever wants is for you to be safe and happy. Damn now I sound like my mother ---- ouch.
Alright let's try this again... NO she should not be flippin out. We have all done things in our lives that we are not proud of. Some of us landed in jail, some didn't (by pure bloody luck). Parents always teach us not to judge a book by its cover - so don't you think its time to tell her to give this guy a fair shot? If our own parents don't believe in second chances, what hope is left for our future?
2007-02-13 15:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Aneska G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No...atleast I dont think so! My brother's been thro that somewhat...so he's been to kiddy jail....OMG! lol Really he has...I think most men like that are willing to protect someone they love....and this is going to be a night you will remember for the rest of your life! I think you should with him and have a great time!
2007-02-13 15:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
so what,who doesnt have a jail record i been to jail several times and for alot more drugs than he had im sure.....try beating 21 lbs of pot..
2007-02-13 15:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Prostidude 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah. i mean, if u had a daughter whose bf was in jail(thats horrifying!) wouldnt u be flippin out? this guy sold drugs, and its not easy 2 give them up. i wouldnt really believe in him, unless he really does like u and quit for good.
2007-02-13 15:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by STrawberry 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well.. any parent would react to this but try talking to her and get her to lighten up. No matter how uncomfortable it may feel to talk to her about this (if it even does) it wont hurt to try , would it?
2007-02-13 15:32:21 · answer #11 · answered by David 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋