My mom keeps telling me that if I really want to leave the house then I can. She knows I would go live with my boyfriend. (I am 17 and he is 19) as childish as it sounds I think I would be better off leaving because I can't even do good in school living here. Then she says that if I leave she'll call the cops on me. If I decide to just leave and sends the cops on me can she have my boyfriend arrested and/or can they make me come back to her house.
2007-02-13 15:21:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way I'm not immature and this is not one of those my mom wants to control me blah blah blah I want to do whatever I want situations, its a this lady takes out all her anger out on me, doesn't appreciate all that I do to help her and complains I won't do good in school even though its her fault because she has me leave school early just to pick up my brother on time. I'm not stupid don't tell me things I already know I just wanted to know a simple answer can she force me back home or not lol. OH HOW CAN I GET EMANCIPATED?
2007-02-13 15:29:54 · update #1
and no she doesnt beat me...she just talks her ****.
2007-02-13 15:32:01 · update #2
You should try to get along with your mother and stay in school. If you quit you will regret it deeply and almost immediately. If youare immature and don't show respect for her it will cause both of you emotional harm in the long run. It's not worth it. She's the only mother you have.
2007-02-13 15:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by upallnight 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes she can get you to go back home, your are not of legal age to be on your own yet, and if she wants to she could probably cause trouble for your boyfriend too. Maybe Mom is going through some troubles in her life and this is how she reacts, not that that's the way she should. Why don't you try and let her know how you feel, and maybe you could have a better relationship with her. She might be in her changes and her hormones are all mixed up. Or just maybe she really cares for you, but doesn't know how to deal with it. Whatever it is, try and fix it,until your of age Make the best of it until then. You could talk to a counselor. or a Pastor what ever you decide, think first.
2007-02-13 15:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she can force you to come home b/c you are under 18 and are legally in her care. Also, she could have you placed in a group home for runaways.
Instead of running away from home, why don't you and your mom sit down and discuss what the problems are. Truthfully, there is no place like home, especially at your age. You need to finish high school and maybe look into college.
Running away isn't going to solve any problems. Even if your mom didn't come after you, when the two of you meet again your problems and frustrations will still be there. You are getting older and need to start respecting your mother as an adult. You may need or want her in your life in a few years.
Don't run away, be mature about this and get to the root of the problems.
2007-02-13 15:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Truelly it all depends on what state you live in! If your mother has aloud this relaionship to continue for a few years instead of months, nothing should happen to him. In some states...as long as it's aloud, there's okays to be 2-3 years apart in minor situations...I was 19/20 dating and living with a 17 year old....with his mom and everything....she always threaten to call the cops and I told her too cuz she aloud it and I was living there and mail was going there...so go ahead cuz they wont do anything, and she never did! Some state DO NOT aloud empataion...some do! and it may take months to get it to go thro....next time she tells you to leave...GET IT IN WRITING or recorded! That way IF she did call the police then you have some proff on what happened! Idk what else to say really...but good luck! Been there done that!
2007-02-13 15:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only get emancipated in certain states. If you really don't want to live with your mom, and you think it's affecting your study habits live with another relative. You don't want to be put into foster care because it's shitty. You should rather live with someone whose related with you it's much easier. Don't be afraid that she's going to call the cops on you. If they do find you just explain your situation to them and they will try to place you with your next of kin. They won't arrest you because you left they'll just be looking for you.
2007-02-13 18:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you legally an adult in your home state? Sounds like she's a control freak. Telling you one thing, then taking it back and brainwashing you into believing that you will get in trouble if you leave. Not to say that you won't but she knows that she has say in whether you can leave or not. This is a form of abuse. You should wait it until you are considered a legal adult if this is the case.
2007-02-13 15:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Girl, Empty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes he can be arrested for kidnapping if he takes you across state lines. ever. which means you can never leave the state you are in, at least until you turn 18, because i am sure your mother will be waiting for that to happen so she can get him. you can be listed as a runaway and forced to come back to her house or if you won't listen, in some extreme cases they put you in a juvenile detention facility to make sure you stay where you belong. i went through all this the summer before i turned 18 and it really sucked, and it destroyed my relationship with my parents because i didn't listen to them. of course, if i knew then what i know now...
2007-02-13 15:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down and speak with your mother like mother and daughter. Try to find a solution. You are to young to move out, stay focus in school. You need a good education to get a decent job. Trust me, you don't want to be a receptionist or a waitress. Not to offend anybody but it's not a high paying job. I wish you all the best.
2007-02-13 15:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Paul 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parent(s) are legally responsible for your well-being until you turn 18. Your boyfriend could be charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor, among other things, if you move in with him. Unless you're being abused, you need to stay put until you're 18. If you are being abused, you need to report it at school and ask for help finding a place to live with appropriate adult supervision.
2007-02-13 15:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
to do that you will have to go to the courts and you will have to prove her unfit then your not doing good in school so that will go against you you dont have a way to support your self you wont to live with your bf the best thing to do is stay till your 18 then she cant stop you no matter what
2007-02-13 23:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋