I am a Christian, however, I am having a very very hard time coping with the separation that my husband and I are currently experiencing. I can't even pray for myself because I feel so disconnected. I am hurting and just as important I am pregnant with our first child. I got great advice from here yesterday regarding websites to visit. However, I need someone to talk to now...love should not hurt this bad. I don't understand why I can't even pray for myself. My husband has hurt me deeper than he knows and he isn't being that receptive to it either. Has anyone hurt so bad that they can literally feel their heart throbbing?
2007-02-13 14:53:30 · 16 answers · asked by PEACHFACE 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Difficult things in life like that, that turn your emotions/heart/mind upside down, can make it hard to focus, that's probably why.
One day at a time...your mind will eventually clear...hope things are better soon. : )
2007-02-13 14:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can't pray because you are holding your husband in unforgiveness. I'm not saying that whatever your husband did wasn't wrong or anything like that. I'm just saying that whatever he did God still wants you to forgive him.
Mark 11:25 And when you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive it so that also your Father in Heaven may forgive you your trespasses. (26) But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in Heaven forgive your trespasses.
Ephesians 4:26 Be angry, and do not sin. Do not let the sun go down upon your wrath, (27) neither give place to the Devil.
1 Peter 5:6 Therefore be humbled under the mighty hand of God, so that He may exalt you in due time, (7) casting all your anxiety onto Him, for He cares for you. (8) Be sensible and vigilant, because your adversary the Devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking someone he may devour; (9) whom firmly resist in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions in the world are being completed in your brotherhood. (10) But the God of all grace, He calling us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a little, He will perfect, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. (11) To Him be the glory and the might forever and ever. Amen.
2007-02-13 22:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've hurt that bad. When it happened I got a new meaning for "it hurt so bad I wanted to die."
Do you have a church you attend regularly? Is there a women's ministry? Do you have Christian women you can talk to about your pain?
I have a wonderful support network that gets me through the really hard stuff. I have a step-daughter who lives with us and has borderline personality disorder, so I am in need of my Christian buddies often.
I suggest you do what I do: Go into your room and close the door. Then get really mad at God. He can take it and He sees your heart anyway, so He knows how bad you hurt. Dump your anger and confusion and cry like crazy. When you are totally exhausted, then begin to pray for the restoration of your marriage. Pray that God opens your eyes to the problems in your marriage and be willing to hear from God.
Actually, if you email me through Yahoo!Answers, I will give you my email address and we can email back and forth.
I too am a Christian and have totally changed my marriage into a godly, satisfying marriage where I feel cherished and precious by my husband. It has taken three years, but before I started making godly changes in me, we were headed for divorce.
I will pray for you.
2007-02-13 23:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the pain. I too , can t get over my ex . She chose selfish fear over life and love. And also she flirted with people even though she never admited that she did, it was the kind of flirting that made one wonder if she was having sex behind my back or not. the worst part is , she didnt trust me , even though i did nothing near as what she did with her movements with others.
anyhow i loved her. i loved her more then God . I thought she knew that, but days went by and i felt like i was being treated like trash. everything thrown away for selfish fear and selfish feelings.
Anyhow, basically, I understand the pain you are going through. You Must make a choice right now. Life or sadness. It is a decision. Right now, you are decideing sadness, and that is difficult to pull away from , I know.
Personally, I shall never be with anyone ever again. my ex-wife sent me her ring only a couple months after our seperation . This killed me. For I was hoping that she loved me. if she did, she would have come to me. But this confirmed to me, that she WAS interested in other guys.
I do not know if i will ever recover, but i know i will never be the same. Yet one thing is for certain, you , as I , have to choose, to live life or not.
I choose to live . Which means, in order to do so, One Has to find somthing to do. Has to keep active. Wether it s working in the garden, or walking in a park. or writing a story. or going to college. In order to get away from the thoughts that will harm your life, you Must follow the thoughts that will keep you Alive. If that is what You choose.
I love my ex. i always will. but sadly i know it s over. for she sent back the ring. and alot sooner then i ever thought would be, if it were true love.
anyhow i rambled on too long about more then i should have.
2007-02-13 23:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Aaron M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are hurting so much. I completely understand your inability to pray for yourself right now. I think that sometimes when you are hurting so much, you just can't connect with God - and that is when you need Him the most! Instead of praying for yourself, try praying for your husband and for God to do some work in his life and in his heart.
2007-02-13 23:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by sandrajeanjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. My heart is with you and I hope you will recover from this agony soon.
2.Meanwhile you can do one thing : Lie down in let go position on your bed for one hour daily and feel and try to see the wound caused by your husband without any reaction (mentally)on your husband. With this technique and my heartly wishes you will be able to come out of the agony in due course of time.
2007-02-14 00:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by binda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many people have hurt so bad they feel their heart throbbing. I lost my oldest and sometimes I still feel it.
I was really angry at God about that, but, God didn't get angry with me. I used to rant at God out loud, I was so mad. God let me know I would never get over it. Losing something that important to me was like losing an arm, or a leg or my eyes.
I could stay upset or I could learn to cope with my disability.
No one can ever see it, but, I know a huge chunk of me is missing and I learned how to cope. When a friends daughter died of cancer she told me a few months later that she felt like she was waiting to get over it. I told her she never would, but, that she would learn to cope.
Spouses are not like Children. I won't ever have another first born son, but, I have had several loving relationships and my second marriage is going strong after being together for ten years tomorrow.
Believe me, finding someone after my divorce was easy compared to learning how to deal with losing my son, although, until I lost my son I would never have believed that and I hope you never believe it either.
You can learn to cope with this and I hope you do. God wants to help you learn how.
2007-02-13 23:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! The heart throbs unbelievably.
You are hurting because what is happening to you ....you thought would only happen to others.
And here it is happening to YOU!
“Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God will guard your hearts and your mental powers" Philippians 4:6, 7
You can say anything, in any way, to God.
Don't hold back!
Regarding Jesus himself, the Bible says:
"Christ offered up supplications and also petitions to the One who was able to save him, with strong outcries and tears, and he was favorably heard for his godly fear. . ."
Hebrews 5:7
AND HE WAS FAVORABLY HEARD.
2007-02-13 23:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your pain. I will be praying for you until you can pray for yourself. I will pray that the Holy Spirit will come to you and bring you peace. It is important that you pray this as well, as God will never force himself upon you, but will be there if you ask. May God bless and keep you.
2007-02-13 23:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Suzie Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul said that the times you can't find the words to pray, the Holy Spirit will intercede for you to God. His prayer for you will be perfect.
Feeling your heart beating is anxiety. Take in deep breaths through your nose and breathe out slowly through your mouth.
After that, sit down and write a letter to your loving Heavenly Father. He knows your pain firsthand. He knows generations of rejection by millions of people whom He loves enough to die for.
You are welcome to send me a copy of your letter to God, so I will know better how to pray for you. Peace, child. All things work together for good to them who love God, such as you. It WILL all be ok.
2007-02-13 23:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by nancy jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋