Am I depressed?

Question

I hate my job. I work at a deli.... I hate going to school. It is kind of hard this semester. I hate my body because I am fat. I hate my nose it is kind of big. I am happy most of the time. I don't really have many friends because I am shy. A lot of people ask me to hang out, but I am not that much of a social person. I do go out ocasionally, but I rather stay home and study or spend time with my family. I have a boyfriend, but often feel like he might cheat on me because I have such low self esteem sometimes.

Answer 1

no you are just an insecure girl. get your confidence up and go out into the world.
good luck

Answer 2

It does not sound as if you are depressed. If you enjoy staying home spending time with your family, then do it. Studying is great.

This may not just be your time. Many people who enjoy their families and enjoying studying are better at preparing for the future. You will more than likely have a full and happy life when you are older.

If people are asking you to hang out, then you are a likeable person. You just need a little more confidence.

Many people with larger noses are very attractive and no one notices their nose.

If you are overweight (rather than just thinking you are) exercise would help and give you a break from work and school. It will help your health greatly.

Good luck to you. It sounds as if you are just going through a rough time now.

Answer 3

Hm well I can relate to you in a sense. I happen to have a stomach illness which keeps me inside alot and in seclusion, and I am also shy. I have opportunities to go out and socialize but for some reason I tend not to, or shy off. I'd rather stay home with my family and study as well, which I do most of the time, and you cant deny that it does get lonely some times. I'm also a gamer and tend to do that most of the time too. As with your boyfriend, as long as he shows that he cares for you you shouldn't worry. If h cheats only ou you deserve better anyways. If you have a low self esteem you will get jealous easier and worry about these things, but try not too, as that too rips apart a relationship. As long as you spend time with him and am happy with your own personality then you should relax. If you think you are fat maybe you should diet or exercise? This may help your self-esteem too. Sometimes it helps just to talk about these things as well, so talk to your family or Friends about it and I'm sure they'll help support you and your decisions. Plus hating your job and school, well that's just a bummer. Maybe you need to look for a new job and find something at school you enjoy more. You have to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy. It dosn't sound liek your depressed though, it just sounds liek you need to put more effort into things and take your life into your own hands with force. Try not to be so shy, make somthing of yourself without worring so much. Go out and do somthign you have fun with!

Answer 4

Probably at least 75% of people hate their jobs, and hate going to school. Many people are shy, and many people dislike their bodies and noses.

You did say that you are happy most of the time, and that you have a boyfriend! You said that you enjoy spending time with your family. Do you know how many people do not have all that you do--millions!

About the low self-esteem--get to the library's self-help section, and take out books on positive affirmations, and improving self-esteem. If you are truly overweight (which I doubt) take out books on healthy eating and exercising. Then check out the magazines and find out how to make your nose look smaller with makeup.

Answer 5

I am a guy but I am also a lot like you. I had to learn to change my ways, or I was just going to be miserable. So let me make a couple of suggestions.
Carefully study the guys in your class or work environment. Before long you will notice the shy guys. Plan it so you can arrange an opportunity to talk to the shy guy. You lead the poor shy guy because he is more shy than you. Smile, talk and be open and friendly. You can do it if the person you are talking to is more shy than you, and most of the time they will be.
Limit your goal to talking until the other person starts opening up to you. Then you will know more about the person. You do the leading!
It worked to me. So people learn by showing others. I am that way. I need others to communicate before I can engage my heart and brain. Relax, the girls always have the upper hand. But, be careful also. Watch someone before you talk to them and be sure they are the type of person you are seeking, or appear to be. Good Luck, and you can do it.

Answer 6

As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, I'd say, from the factors as you present them, you're just a normal young person with some depression due to common adjustments in life that you haven't had to deal with much in your younger life, but, all-in-all, you're okay. If you want to stay home and study or spend time with your family, do it. It is good to hear that you go out occasionally. Feeling your boyfriend or girlfriend might cheat on you is a normal concern for most every young person dating or even engaged or newly married. That doesn't mean that your boyfriend is cheating on you. It just means that that's a consistent concern on the parts of young people dating. "Low self esteem" is a conjured up term to make people "measure" their sense of well being, and sometimes it's going to be up, and sometimes it's going to be down, and matters of weight and the size of one's nose, or whether one has pimples or freckles or dandruff are other worries that younger people get all upset over, and yet are superficial or unnecessary concerns. School sometimes sucks (sorry for the expletive, but my kids sometimes used such terms and I'm used to having to "talk at their level" sometimes.), but, that's the way life is. Jobs suck too, but then, there are good days and there are bad ones, and there are good months and there are bad months. My recommendation: be proud of how well you do sound. Accept that adult life sometimes just sucks all around, and sometimes it's got its "up" sides to it. Endure. We all have to, and your ability to do so will help mark how good of an adult you are. Enjoy the good times, and make some "good times" for yourself, with your friends or boyfriend, at tmes. To me, I diagnose you as "undiagnosable", or, more professionally put: No Diagnosis. God Bless you.

Answer 7

-whats wrong with working at a deli? at least u have a job.
-school is how to get a better life later on so you dont have to work at a deli. love school.
-u could be fatter.
-your nose gives you character & sets you apart from other people.
-appreciate the friends you have and more people will want to be friends with you.
-if you're not a social person, then it doesn't matter that you dont hang out with them
-if you feel like your boyfriend might cheat on you, get another one.

Answer 8

You're not clinically depressed but you've definately got some self-confidence issues. Try and break your life down into sections, and focus on fixing one thing at a time. You CAN lose weight if you apply yourself, and if you push yourself through this hard semester and on, you eventually won't be working at a deli.

Answer 9

You said you are happy most of the time so it sounds like low self esteem to me. But if you cut yourself off to people it could become depression. Try taking people up on their offers to go out, maybe not as a large group but with one or two people. If you continually think your boyfriend is going to cheat, look deeper into it. Does he do anything to make you doubt him?

Answer 10

people who are depressed usually cry a lot and/or can't handle let-downs or emotional stress. When most people get bummed out, a depressed person would have irrational and inconsolable despair.
It's also like a cloud is always over you and nothing can cheer you up for long. Some people feel like they are treading water up to their neck, and are ok if the water is calm, but even a small wave can make them feel like they are going to drown.

That;s how it was explained to me.

Answer 11

I'm not sure if the doctors will call this depression or not, Some of this sounds like adolescence it's hard being a teenager. Your emotions are all over the place and hormones jumping up and down. It may be a good idea to talk with your parents, counselor or someone about the way you feel.