i work at a supermarket, for the pas two months this guy has been coming in every night for almost three to five times a night to buy a beer. he hits on everyone, but i think i'm the only one who sees him outside of work, and tonight he kissed my cheek, i felt very uncomfortable. this guy is very creepy, he's almost 27 and i'm 18, its making me feel like i cant be safe in my own town. And if i try to avoid him he wont leave me alone, also i work late at nights and i feel like if i ever walk home and he sees me he might hurt me. he comes up to me when i'm with my family and my friends and constantly asks if the person i'm standing next to is my friend. i hate it, but i feel like if i say something to someone they're gonna blame me with leading him on.
2007-02-13 14:47:52 · 15 answers · asked by k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my manager is ridiculous, she thinks he's funny, he's gone in there flashing pot around and she thinks its funny, she loves to make fun of him because she likes how he laughs, its horrible, she's mean to everyone who isn't columbian and she treats other people like crap, my boss is worse than her, he yells at the customers. he told a woman to get the f*** out of his store, because she asked him to stop cursing around her 4 year old. he's mean. i don't think anyone will do much if i say anything, they may just tell me not to be dramatic, and i need night shifts because i'm still in high school.
2007-02-13 15:23:19 · update #1
If I am correct, this is called harrasment. Ask him to stop and if he doesn't tell him again and add you will go to the police. If he still doesn't stop, ask for a restraining order or file a sexual harrasment suit against him, then he will most likely leave you alone. if he doesn't, he needs mental health help, STAT!
2007-02-13 14:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not leading him on and you do need to tell your parents and the manager about this customers behavior and that for now on you would like to see if you can work day time hours or perhaps arrange for someone to pick you up after work until you can get a vehicle or a better job.
On a personal note: I do believe that you have a very valid concern with that person and your gut feelings about this person should be trusted. Well worth taking this subject up with your parents and your manager and I would also check with getting some self defense classes as a good measure and a request for the police to come by at certain times as a night watch if they would. Mean time I suggest that you find other employment if it proves necessary.
2007-02-13 23:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely let other people know what is going on. Keep a journal of when he comes too close for comfort or acts inappropriately to you. If it gets bad enough or if you are really scared, go to the cops. Therefore, if something does happen you have accounts of him harassing you or you could get a restraining order. My other advice is get some pepper spray and keep it on your key chain. I wish you all the well.
2007-02-13 22:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by kiti kiti kiti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BULL !!!!!! Girl you protect urself and go to the police, that is THEIR JOB, to protect ppl..... you need to make a report just in case he gets out of hand.... that way it is on record and if he harrases you in anyway they can NOT come back with, *well, if he was bothering you so much , why didnt YOU report him?*.. Stalking is a CRIME these days.... so report him as a stalker and be sure to tell them YOU FEAR FOR YOUR LIFE !!!! those are VERY important words !!!!!!! and also report him to your boss and co-workers, witnesses that can back you up, and also tell your FAMILY !!! dont you read or listen to the news ?????? God bless
2007-02-13 22:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not leading him on. if you feel unsafe at work, tell the manager and they should protect you and keep him out of the store. they should not blame it on you. if they won't stick up for you, go to another supermarket and work for people who will. it's not your fault. he sounds really creepy - and invading your space and kissing your cheek would bug me out too. don't antagonize him ,but try to avoid interacting with him outside of work.
2007-02-13 22:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the cops to your place of work and lure them in with free coffee and doughnuts, then they will hang around more and maybe scare the drunk guy away
2007-02-13 22:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by lightning14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your manager where you work about him and if he takes it outside the work place call the police
2007-02-13 22:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ridiculous to think that for saying anything. You are like people who are molested, they are afraid to say anything and somehow it's their fault. Listen to yourself. Speak out, tell your family, protect yourself, maybe even get a restraining order. Tell him to stay away from you, maybe he doesn't even know you don't like it.
2007-02-13 22:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would report the situation to your supervisors...that does not sound like a comfortable situation for anyone, much less a young woman...
2007-02-13 22:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by JP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
next time heapproaches you kick him inth shin,balls stomp on his feet or if you ve got high heels take em off and hit em in the ears with them
2007-02-13 23:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by Ash Bullpitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋