Do you dwell on the negative?

Question

I know I 'shouldn't do this' but this isn't the point so no lectures please. But like umm has anybody else thought of a flaw or something missing in their life and thought that they were just innately inferior and like dwelled so much on the emptiness and nothigness?

Do you think that's where most illnesses come from? Focusing so much on what we don't have instead of what we do have. I have so much to be thankful for each day, that are gifts- but why do sometimes we suddenly think of those gaping black holes?

Answer 1

A very famous writer, C.S. Lewis talks about "the dark night of the soul" and how we become better people for going through that. I don't think anyone can be positive all the time, but I feel better, physically and mentally, when I am. Of course, it might be the Wellbutrin working.

Answer 2

Quite often I do, though I also have so much to be thankful for.

Typing the things that I feel sorry for myself about (which I just deleted), the thought that occurred to me was, "So what--people have so many worse things to deal with in life."

I do think that dwelling on the bad can make us both physically and emotionally ill. We should all get out there and enjoy how ever much time is left in our lives. Each day is a gift, as you said, and we should make the most of each. Dwelling on negative things will not get us anywhere, anyway.

Answer 3

I totally dwell on the negative too much. When school is over I come home, go to my room, get on the computer and listen to music. The problem is none of my friends are there with me. That's a real downer. I could go to their house, you ask? No, it's not that simple. I have one friend I could visit and she's like the coolest ever but I have to smile too much when I'm there and i'm not very social.

So yes, someone like me dwells on the negative. And I have the time to do it!

--Adrian

Answer 4

I too dwell on many negative things and events in my life. I think it is my being's natural way of telling me that I need, want, and expect more. I think it is normal for those that feel this way to a great degree.

We live in a society that denies us the right or need to be able to feel bad, that we are often forced to feel guilty for experiencing and acknowledging a part of ourselves that is as natural and as important as happiness, joy, anger, and other human feelings.

For me, I live with great emptiness and regret. I want to rectify and find justice in the times and events of my life that took from me. For those that failed to apologize, for the missed opportunities and ones squandered, and for the wrong turns I made when I came to different forks in the many roads I have traveled.

I think we need to feel and experience these feelings so we can have a proper and balanced perspective of where we fit in or where we don't. There are already plenty of people that want to tell us to snap out of it and deny us what we are feeling, and those that refuse to acknowledge their own pain and sense of loss when it happens.

I think being authentic means feeling and acknowledging all that we feel and experience. There is just no use and it is quite unhealthy to have to mask everything that makes us......"us".

Answer 5

I have alot to be grateful for but yet I dwell on what I want or what I'm missing. I tend to see the glass as half empty and it's very hard to change that way of thinking.

Answer 6

After 20 months of therapy I better not, but it still crosses my mind, Heh I'm human!

Answer 7

at one time or another i believe everyone gets to that stage you are asking about. negative thinking. i know i have and it gets me all feeling down.
but i have family and friends to keep me going , busy and i also have my work.
so , yes to your question.