we have a 2 and a half yr old daughter who would adore one, and was very gentle with our elderly cat, and a 3 month old son, my hubby says no more animals, on the off chance that we could ever afford to go on vacation and have to ask someone to watch it, and because he figures two kids is enough of a handful. I really miss having a cat, found it peaceful and mellow and comforting... am I wrong to want to get one, and if not, how do I approach the subject with my beloved? Thanks.
2007-02-13 14:41:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
For vacation time--all you will need for a cat is a clean litter box to start with, lots of dry food in a feeder, water faucet set on trickle to give it fresh water every day. And, if possible, a friend who can come in to your home and check on the cat. Keep the litter box clean, etc. Or, come in daily to feed and definitely water fresh for the cat. Please, keep this in mind as you approach your beloved with this topic. A cat for a pet for your children is very good-you teach them about respecting all life, especially your cats. They will enjoy having a cat to play with as they grow up. Also, for you, yes, a cat is peaceful, and mellow, and comforting. It's medically found that petting of an animal (pet), helps to lower one's blood pressure. It definitely helps one to de-stress. It's also nice when home alone-to have a cat there to keep you company, and when you have been away for a couple of hours or so, it sure is nice to walk into your home, knowing that the precious cat is waiting for you to greet you, help make you feel at home-in an extra special way for the evening. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-13 14:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by SAK 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be a great idea for you to get another cat. It is wonderful that your little girl was so gentle with your elderly kitty. Cats are the most independent creatures around. Given enough food and water and a clean litter box. It would be fine to go away on a vacation and leave the cat at home. You wouldn't need some one there at your house 24/7. I would just have some one go in every few days to replenish the food and water and take care of the litter box. I really hope this helps and I admire you for wanting to get another cat. How you taught your little girl to be gentle with animals is really great. Good luck!
2007-02-13 14:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are in a sticky situation. Both of you are correct though. Your husband is probably very sad that the older one is gone and therefore doesnt want to go through that again. He also could be concerned about the baby. You, on the other hand, love the companionship and comfort of an animal. The best thing to do would be wait until the baby is about a year or so old. Then have your husband go "out" with you and you just "happen" to go into a pet store. See how your husband reacts there. Tell him that you "just want to look". If he shows hostility then Im sorry but thats a loosing battle. If he shows even a little interest, then you might win at that point. But I wouldnt recommend doing this again, till your son is at least a year old.
2007-02-13 14:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky Me 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Your not wrong to feel this way.. but He is probably upset inside and trying not try have a breakdown while at a work function and hearing you crying will only cause him to cry.. i think it would be a good idea for you to get yourself out of the house and find something to occupy your mind. when your husband gets home you can be sad about your cat together. sorry for your loss.
2016-05-24 08:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 19 year old cat passed away last May and in December I got 2 kittens. I am so glad I did. It has been wonderful. I think if your husband knows how happy it would make you, he might change his mind. I hope you get one. Good luck.
2007-02-13 15:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by the Boss 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOSH, the same thing happened to me .
We went on our normal walk and came across this sign hanging
on a mail box. That read FREE KITTENS*** and my daughters
And I just walked up to the door.Came out with a brand new kitten. MY HUSBAND WAS VERY BOSSY ABOUT US NOT
HAVING A KITTEN ......He came home and seen us with it
He glared,And said who's cat is that,and we said don't you like
him isn't he cute,his ours.HE GLARED.....NOW he loves him.tells
people nice stories about him,And calls him cute.I still miss my old cat from years ago.YOU"LL for get after a while that it was a replacement cat.
2007-02-13 14:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by missy mae 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe bring it up, try to get him excited and involved about it... like maybe look around on petfinder and be like oh look at that cat isnt it cute, lol i just did that today with a dog i seen i like and hubby said if i can get ahold of them tomorrow i can try to get him... maybe tell him u'll let him pick out the name, or the cat... or tell him u really really want one for valentines day or ur bday something is bond to work men give in easily usually, silent treatment if he says no lmfao that will make him think about it maybe lol
2007-02-13 14:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by lil_momma21505 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really think you should tell him right out. You "need" a cat because it gives you Peace. Sounds like you have your hands full. It is really selfish of him to deny you this. With everything on your plate. I would be nutty with out my cats.
2007-02-13 14:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by SHAy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
as i am a cat lover, and my cat passed away, i have gotten a new one. tell your husband that a cat helps you relax and that if you had time to relax you could get much better on through the day
2007-02-13 14:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by lvlsomething 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Bring one home and tell your hubby you are cat-sitting, then don't ever take it back....by the time he figures it out he will already be attached and so will the kids.
2007-02-13 14:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋