My boyfriend seems to think that we should live together before we get married so that we can learn more about how the other lives (flaws, pet peeves, etc...). I disagree, I think that we should get married first and then move in together because after all thats why the first two years of marriage are the hardest, because you have to take the time to discover the other side of your mate. Isn't it still immoral if we live together first, even if we don't have sex? Please help...
2007-02-13 14:35:55 · 10 answers · asked by ♥Spirit♥ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If the situation is that a man and woman who are not married to each other and are living together and having sexual relations, that would be sinful. If the unmarried man and woman are living together, are not related, and are not having sexual relations, then other factors come into play.
The Bible says that we are to avoid even the appearance of evil. If their living together stumbles others sufficiently to warrant a different living arrangement, then that should be done.
1 Cor. 6:18, "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body."
Eph. 5:3, "But do not let immorality or any impurity or greed even be named among you, as is proper among saints."
Col. 3:5, "Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry."
1 Thess. 4:2, "For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God."
2007-02-13 14:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says nothing about it (however, Jews back in the day would live together after the engagement and before the wedding).
If your planning to live together for more than a few months, don't fool yourself...you'll have sex.
Cohabitation always seems to be about KNOWING, KNOWING, KNOWING...knowing flaws, pet peeves, when the other farts, how they brush their teeth, etc. etc. etc....in the end, you still will not fully know your mate. Marriage is about love and committment. If you truly love the other you will committ and deal with whatever comes up later....together.
2007-02-13 16:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by 1nine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it says anything about living together but it says sex before marriage is a sin worth of hell. We all know that a couple living together is going to have sex so that's why many believers are against it. Otherwise there is nothing wrong with it if there is no sex. If you and your partner really love each other it will not be too hard to adjust to living together once you get married. You will easily be able to be considerate of each other and learn to live with the little things that get on each other's nerves.
2007-02-13 16:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is not immoral if you are not engaging in premarital sex but in the Christian Church it is looked down upon (which in my opinion can sometimes have worse consequences than sin). Some people have the self control not to have sex while still living together while most don't. From a Christian's point of view, the reason you should not live together is not because it's immoral (cause its not), but because it will lead to a huge temptation. If you are going to decide not to live with him before marriage, do it because you want to stay clear of temptation, not because somebody told you it was immoral.
2007-02-13 14:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tripper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Does that answer your question? But seriously, if you are a Christian committed to living your life by God's Word then you might want to reconsider hooking up with your boyfriend in marriage. Being unequally yoked with a half hearted Christian is worse than being single until you find the right life partner.
2007-02-13 14:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living together, you WILL have premarital sex (unless one of you is gay or just plain ugly).
And Paul told us to avoid even the appearance of evil, least it start rumors or ruin your witness. You know what the unbelievers will assume (hypocrites!).
Besides, most of the people I know of who lived together before marriage said that it is definitely NOT the same thing. People are on their best behavior before marriage (irregardless if you are living together or not), and then relax and become themselves after marriage. Living together builds up false expectations that it will always be this way.
2007-02-13 14:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to the Christianity, it's wrong. And don't deceive yourself, the possibility of you being able to live happily together without sexual activity is about 0%.
2007-02-13 14:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Heaven's Messenger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the scriptures it is referred to by the word "fornication". The word "co-habitation" was not invented until the late 20th century.
Fornication is strictly forbidden over 100 times in the scriptures.
2007-02-13 14:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be immoral? If you're not sinning because of it, go for it.
2007-02-13 14:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't get involved sexually, God will judge you for that. Lots of Luck!!
2007-02-13 14:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋