What should I do when my parents get into another heated fight?

Question

What if the argument gets physical? Should I step in?

Last year, my father was drunk and he started physically abusing my mom. She told me to call the police, and so I did. When the authorities came, my mother told me and my brother to lie to them. My brother did, but for some reason, I didn't. She was so angry with me afterwards and said how I "betrayed" my father. She spend the night in jail and was charged with domestic violence...

Should I still call the police?

I meant that HE spent the night in jail.*

Answer 1

Blech I know exactly what you're going through Kiddo.

Ignore it the best you can.
If it gets physically call the police.
NEVER step in.

It'll get better. Pinky swear.

Answer 2

Arguments are part of any healthy marriage, as long as they stay verbal. People are people and everyone has a different opinion. Some just get frustrated and start yelling... and the other may try to get his/her point across and yell louder so the first hears them. I prefer to just present the opinions and if they agree, fine, if not, they agree to disagree, no yelling.

If it gets physical, you need to step in, but only by calling the cops. It probably won't get deadly since it sounds like they've been through this before, numerous times. Tell the cops what you heard and saw. They'll look for obvious signs of physical abuse and will take the proper action. Your eyes are more important.

One thing I've learned, however, is many abused people continue to return to the abuser. They feel insecure. The abuser knows this and will lie every which way to convince them to return (if they're even bold enough to leave), and will also try to convince them to drop any charges. Luckily, many States have now said they're the victims and not the abused. This way, the State can't be talked into dropping the charges with sweet nothings or threats.

Answer 3

If it's a verbal argument, let it work it's course. Arguments are just a fact of life, we all have lived through them. When things calm down, talk to them both if you feel you're able to and let them know how you feel.

If it gets physical, stay out of the way, you may also get hurt. At that point the best thing to do is call 911 and let the police respond. It's better to call the police and deal with your parents later than to have it get to the point someone gets hurt and the police have to be called anyway. Also, if the police are called, I'm sure all of you will be sitting down for a talk.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Domestic violence is a big issue today and that's a sad situation that a child has to see that sort of dispute between parents. Physical violence is embedded in a child's mind if they see it and it causes the way a child acts when that child is growing up. So, arguments happen in everyday life with parents but, when it starts to become physical, I would quietly retreat to a safe place and call 911. It's only going to continue if you don't and quite frankly, your parents know better and they have no one to blame but, themselves regardless of whose right or wrong. Your mother is in total fear of your father and if counseling won't resolve this issue then, the law will. They are putting you at stake. because if child welfare found this out then, everybody would be in court. And what, pray tell, would that solve? Divorce, separation. Sure beats being hospitalized or dead. You may love your parents but, where do you draw the line. Personally, I love life and your father is need of counseling be it marriage or psychiatric.

Answer 5

There isn't much you can do UNLESS the argument gets physical. YES, you should call the police. He shouldn'tget away with that kind of behavior, whether or not he is your father. It is illegal and wrong to boot. Lying to the police, by the way, is also illegal.

Answer 6

If the argument gets physical, u HAVE to step it. I cannot stress that enough. If you don't feel that u alone can help, call the police. Domestic violence escalates to worse things fast.

Answer 7

Speak to your father when he is sober. We all too often pretend like it didn't happen when they are sober, in hopes that it will go away. Speaking to someone when shame can be felt is the best way to begin the road to recovery. If that doesn't work, forget the police, get your mother out of there.

Answer 8

It depends. If your parents are under the influence or prone to physical violence, do not step in. If they are relatively rational people and you yourself will not be harmed, attempt to calm or seperate them in a calm and delieberate manner. If things escalate, call the police immediately.

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Answer 10

try to keep them away from each other to avoid a physical argument, get your parents separated or divorced trust me it will be for the better of you and both your parents.