Friends with benefits?
we have been like this for 9 months we talk everyday his job is 24hours training recruits to be marines so i don't see him that much we've talked about being official but my friends keep interfering with us and he dosn't like it they have done alot of damage so he doesn't feel comfortable with me. my friends will call him and cuss him out saying things that i never said starting all kinds of drama and then say that they are playing with him and i want him to forgive me for my friends actions they get very childish sometimes one of my friends ruined my 4 year relationship because of their actions i don't want it to happen again. he tells me all the time how i am perfect for him and how i'm wife material but my friends are in the way he's afraid that it will rub off on me. no rude comments please this situation is soo frustrating for me i'm ready to make it official even though his job keeps him busy. how can i get him to trust me and make it official?
2007-02-13 14:32:25 · 8 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should put your friends in check. Your friends shouldnt call him, about ANYTHING! If thats someone you have feelings for and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with then you need to fight to make this work. Let your friends know that you love and care about them but you also care about this person too. Then you must draw that line with your friend that they cannot contact him at all, under no circumstances. You must not allow them to have control over this situation. They may feel like you are choosing him over them but if they are your true friends they will understand and respect your decision. Once he sees that you have control over your friends then the two of you can take it to the next step. Good Luck!
2007-02-13 14:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by azl1025 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've bee friends with benefits for 9 months that was all he wanted sweetheart...sorry. If he wanted more he would have said so as long as you all have been "friends". If you don't see him much he also very likely has other "friends". And you need to keep your friends out of the mix because all of that drama is going to turn him off from you. It sounds like a very childish situation and for a dude, that is not relationship material. So you'll probably have to settle for the benefits or move on.
Sorry babe. Just being truthful.
On the bright side, if you give him up and he wants to be with you he will ask you to be his girl. If he doesn't protest then you'll know what he wanted. Don't settle for being a booty call.
2007-02-13 14:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree friends should not come between relationships that is just a no-no. If you really like this guy I would sit him down and tell him like this....if you don't like me enough to be more then just friends then maybe you shouldn't like me enough to have sex with me....cause if I was you that would make me feel used....I am not saying thats what he is doing! And think about the people you call friends?? Good-luck I hope it works out the way you want it to!!!
2007-02-13 14:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using your "friends" as an excuse - he's absolutely not interested in "making it official". All he wants you for is his own little f*cktoy. You're worth more than that; dump him! And if he asks why, just say "Semper Fi, suckah!"
Sorry, but it's just too bad when a man whose career demands the utmost in honesty and respectful behavior has the idea he can treat a person the way this jarhead is treating you. I wouldn't want him in my platoon!
2007-02-13 14:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's Military, and it's been going on for 9 months if he hasn't done a thing now most likely we won't. If he gets orders, within months he's gone and your friends aren't helping with the calling they need to grow up.
2007-02-13 19:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by tigerclawz031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of those people you call your "friends".
2007-02-13 14:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP YOUR FRIENDS!!! They aren't your friends if they interfere and destroy your relationships.
2007-02-13 14:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are your friends around so much???
2007-02-13 14:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋